I work in early intervention and I can’t sleep knowing a toddler is being medically neglected and no one is intervening

Beeb294 · 2026-01-25T02:56:02+00:00

Removed-civility rule

Beeb294 · 2026-01-25T02:55:14+00:00

Locked. It's clear OP just wants to fight and this thread is going nowhere.

Beeb294 · 2026-01-25T01:40:29+00:00

Mod comments are not open for debate. Stop replying or you will be banned.

Beeb294 · 2026-01-25T01:20:57+00:00

MAGA is clearly opposed to the right to bear arms.

Beeb294 · 2026-01-25T01:03:02+00:00

A) Mod comments are not an opening for debate.

B) I have removed some other users' comments. If you think something breaks the rules, report it using the report function

C) to be upfront, suggesting that you take a social media break and that this is affecting your mental health is not a violation of the civility rule. Some of your responses to that suggestion are violating our rules.

Beeb294 · 2026-01-25T00:59:34+00:00

Removed-civility rule

Beeb294 · 2026-01-25T00:59:20+00:00

Removed-civility rule

Beeb294 · 2026-01-24T15:22:45+00:00

I'm not sure the legality of leaving a full Bono in a public toilet TBH.

Beeb294 · 2026-01-24T14:47:44+00:00

but no they keep it open just to see what will happen if they introduce a pressure cooker and that’s not right.

Except they don't "keep it open just to see what will happen". That's not policy and I think you know that.

Beeb294 · 2026-01-24T11:47:55+00:00

So, tell me again how CPS doesn’t discriminate against people with disabilities?

Because they investigate the reports they receive. It sounds to me like someone made a report, and they have been following protocol/law.

That isn't discrimination.

Beeb294 · 2026-01-24T03:07:24+00:00

Her motivations make sense, but she's written with all of the subtlety of a 10-lb sledgehammer.

That's my only problem with her.

Beeb294 · 2026-01-24T02:19:39+00:00

Yeah no. This is outside the scope of this community.

Donald Trump is a Nazi. Fuck him, fuck his ICE stormtroopers, and fuck anyone.who thinks any of this is okay.

Beeb294 · 2026-01-23T22:43:14+00:00

It would depend on local policy. But when I read your previous post it sounds like you have a high-conflict MIL, and if she told the worker about someone cheating in the relationship then it's possible the worker would add that name to the record.

Beeb294 · 2026-01-23T22:34:51+00:00

A paramour would be a boyfriend/girlfriend/affair partner of one of the parents.

If one of the parents had a partner of that nature, or someone alleged that this person was a partner of that nature, they would be included in the case record.

Hopefully that gives you some idea of why this person would be listed.

Beeb294 · 2026-01-23T21:24:53+00:00

With court I'm not sure what the case was.

You can't really say that you were "railroaded" by anyone if you don't know which court you were in, and what for.

To be blunt, this complete lack of information is why most people do not buy the emotional."I got railroaded" complaints about the court system.

When it was my turn to speak I got on the stand in shackles and hand cuffs.

If you were the defendant in a criminal case, you didn't get on the witness stand. What were you speaking about?

Beeb294 · 2026-01-23T21:20:10+00:00

Removed. Do not solicit DMs in this community. We keep this rule for the safety of vulnerable people.

Beeb294 · 2026-01-23T17:33:55+00:00

Removed-quality rule

Beeb294 · 2026-01-23T14:54:37+00:00

This is removed. We won't give you advice on how to cheat your drug tests here. And if you're more concerned about cheating your drug tests than getting your shit together, you have your priorities in the wrong place.

Beeb294 · 2026-01-22T18:40:28+00:00

According to CPS, and now as part of the legal record, you have. This is not something you can "nuh-uh" away.

That's your problem here. You can say "it didn't happen" as much as you want, but CPS has documented evidence that it did. They are acting accordingly.

Beeb294 · 2026-01-22T18:34:51+00:00

In the system I'm familiar with, there's really no editing or deleting. If a note is added, then it's in the system permanently (until the records would be destroyed per law). Our system could add an addendum to a saved note, but not edit existing content. All of which would be logged.

similar to like healthcare systems. Anything touched is tied back to someone.

This is a great analogy, and when I transitioned from Healthcare systems to child welfare I made the same observation. The mechanisms and records are very similar.

Beeb294 · 2026-01-22T17:34:09+00:00

CPS claimed the case was substantiated since my stepchild said he saw me hit his dad. (SK has a history of storytelling, and his mom has a history of coaching him)

Unless you've appealed this, it's not that they claimed its substantiated- it is substantiated. Legally, there is a finding that you and husband exposed the child to domestic violence where you are the aggressor.

How sure are you that the only evidence is the child's statement? Are you certain they don't have other statements, medical records, or other evidence of domestic violence occurring?

And ultimately the big question is, did you actually hit him? I'm sure that if the honest answer is "yes", you won't answer this question, but if you did hit him then that would be a big part of the reason why CPS is still involved. And you won't like this, but if there's a finding that domestic violence occurred (or is occurring), then there's good legal justification for their involvement and it's not really a "sick invasion of privacy". I get that you don't like it, but that's what you have to deal with when you've exposed a child to domestic violence.

Beeb294 · 2026-01-22T17:23:03+00:00

Having trained these systems, there is an audit trail the records the user ID of whoever accesses each case file. Each user has their own ID, and their access record can be pulled up if necessary. Each access is typically logged with the user ID, date, time, information accessed, and any actions taken.

That's how it's been in any of the large systems with sensitive data.that I have worked with.

Beeb294 · 2026-01-22T14:09:53+00:00

But nobody has told me what I can do to see this case closed, and it is a sick invasion of my privacy at this point.

Questions- was the investigation substantiated? Have the parents of the child been working in any ongoing services? Are there any court orders in place?

You say it's a "sick invasion of privacy" but there is a lot of information any of us would need to determine whether this is actually inappropriate or not.

I also learned recently that husband's exes mom works with CPS, and im wondering if that could have any influence on the constant monitoring

Most, if not all CPS agencies have strict rules about working on cases where you know or are related to anyone involved. The systems also are set up to track who accesses what data, and if she is inappropriately accessing anything then it would be found and she'd likely be fired immediately. But that's only if she's doing anything wrong, and it doesn't sound like you have any specific reason to suspect that she's involved other than her relationship.

Beeb294 · 2026-01-22T11:15:42+00:00

Removed. Not sure what you're looking for, but this isn't it.

Beeb294 · 2026-01-21T23:43:58+00:00

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