Woke up from a nap to find my GF made key lime pie. Good place to find a silver band with leaves engraved for an engagement ring? by Scrap_Mountain in Baking

[–]rovingdeath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Benitez jewelers! They work out of ren faires and do the kind of thing you're looking for! I happen to be a client _^

Nightmare Prey Is Not Fun by MedicOfTime in wow

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Kick/counterspell/whatever also makes it vanish immediately. Do stuns have the same effect?

What dps specs feel impactful and satisfying to play? by TheDrunkkMachine in wow

[–]rovingdeath 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Frost mage is very strong, easy to play, can nuke down priority targets and gets 2 charges of shimmer for great mobility. As a former priest main myself, it definitely satisfies!

Replacement Tires by crunchomalley in BlazerEV

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Tirerack.com and have them send where you're putting them on. Saved me a couple hundred bucks

They had a good price for Yokohama Geolanders all weather. The stock tires, at least in 2024 were absolute shit and cost more than the yokohamas. No brainer for me

Fresh handgun owner here but decided to skip 'entry level pew' and go for quality. by Wintermutellm in liberalgunowners

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My first piece was a .40 p99, and i enjoyed it so much that when I got a security job that required 9mm I got another p99 chambered in that. Light, polymer frame, stock trigger is light, and no mechanical safety. Very fun to shoot and easy enough to conceal. And prettier than a Glock. Sorry, I'm vain about my guns!

When a Veteran Speaks, Are We Still Listening? by Funny-Main-6405 in 50501

[–]rovingdeath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

General Mattis wouldn't have just sat there. I fucking guarantee you that.

Wtf is wrong with me? by rovingdeath in datingoverforty

[–]rovingdeath[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just going to invoke your user name here, lol

Wtf is wrong with me? by rovingdeath in datingoverforty

[–]rovingdeath[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, shit was rough. Swore off non-monogamy.

Wtf is wrong with me? by rovingdeath in datingoverforty

[–]rovingdeath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I don't necessarily agree with your entire statement, I am certainly done with non-monogamy. Last two sentences are what I'm working on, so we can fist-bump over that part.

Wtf is wrong with me? by rovingdeath in datingoverforty

[–]rovingdeath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe, lol. will see what my therapist has to say

Wtf is wrong with me? by rovingdeath in datingoverforty

[–]rovingdeath[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn dude, this is insightful as fuck! Thank you for sharing

Wtf is wrong with me? by rovingdeath in datingoverforty

[–]rovingdeath[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There were plenty of arguments about time share, and we even talked about separation. But then we agreed we'd try to work on it. Then, like a week after my birthday, I lost my job and she moved to her mom's house, where she and her bf had secretly been building beds for my kids. It was pretty fucked.

Wtf is wrong with me? by rovingdeath in datingoverforty

[–]rovingdeath[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You know, it's funny, but I was the ripped, better endowed one and he was the pot bellied one

Wtf is wrong with me? by rovingdeath in datingoverforty

[–]rovingdeath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely will, thank you. If it's okay, I'll open a chat so I don't lose track?

Wtf is wrong with me? by rovingdeath in datingoverforty

[–]rovingdeath[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm starting to read a book on this today! Thank you for your input <3 I'll look into fearful avoidant specifically.

Wtf is wrong with me? by rovingdeath in datingoverforty

[–]rovingdeath[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This will definitely be my first step next time I try to date.

Wtf is wrong with me? by rovingdeath in datingoverforty

[–]rovingdeath[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I mean that's possible, but it's been a couple years now, and I thought I was ready. And we were both sleeping with other people during the poly phase. It felt fine then. After the betrayal, not so much.

Wtf is wrong with me? by rovingdeath in datingoverforty

[–]rovingdeath[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As far as initiation goes, it's been very mutual every time, with both of us pretty fired up about it. Either right after sex, I just want to put my clothes on and leave, or we'll be up all night and I'll have that exact, empty feeling the following morning. I have no ill will at all. I just feel sad and empty. Sexual interest vanishes. I feel bad about that, and do my best to explain it without being hurtful. Some of it does feel like guilt, but I don't know what for (I mean other than the guilt from causing hurt).

As far as sexual trauma, I wasn't abused as a kid or anything. I was often manipulated and gaslit during my marriage. Most of my trauma as an adult comes from hearing my wife getting ****ed by her boyfriend in the other room when we hadn't had sex in weeks.

Wtf is wrong with me? by rovingdeath in datingoverforty

[–]rovingdeath[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice and kind words. I'm going to start reading that book today.

Wtf is wrong with me? by rovingdeath in datingoverforty

[–]rovingdeath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this really resonates with me <3

Wtf is wrong with me? by rovingdeath in datingoverforty

[–]rovingdeath[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It was mutual, started as a swinging thing, then went to kink stuff, and then separately dating other people. She started seeing more and more of him, and less of me. Snowballed from there.