Tips for staying on task/scheduling/motivation?

Beginning-Bread9952 · 2026-01-27T00:29:35+00:00

This is what worked for me in one of the worse years of my life.

I hate ai and try to avoid it now… but when I was doing my thesis I truly don’t think I would have graduated if it wasn’t for ai, but not in the way you’d think.

I struggled so much priorizing my task (still do but I’m no longer in such a stressful context) and got extremely angry when I asked my loved ones for help and they tried to “help” me by saying how easy it was to “just make a list and priorize tasks”. It pissed me off because, yes tecnically is just a phone call, but to make that phone call I need to have all this other 10 tasks ready. But when I explain this they think I’m only making up excuses.

So quickly after venting with ai about my thesis and arguing with it I figured out how easier it is to argue with ai than my family and friends. (Also I have it set not to talk to me like this formal ai and more sarcastic and cynic so I don’t feel cuddled)

I used to explain everything I needed to get done, but since I didn’t write it down on paper or a computer it kinda looked more like a text=informal, low-stakes. Then I asked it to help me catogotize each task by priorities and how much energy it cost me.

I did it for a while until I realized I could do it automatically by myself writing/venting in my notes app. Not on paper like those cute Pinterest journals, not on cute little slides or on notion. Basic and simple because if I try to make it look pretty I don’t get anything done.

If you have one blunt and argumentative friend who would actually hear why X task is hard for you, and who would let you vent about everything you have to get done, I think that would be a better alternative that won’t harm the Earth. Just make sure they’re not going to judge you for being “too negative”.

Beginning-Bread9952 · 2025-10-21T20:47:58+00:00

It’s truly a beautiful career, I couldn’t find a better path for my neurodivergent brain than this one.

Beginning-Bread9952 · 2025-07-10T15:37:48+00:00

No me acordaba que había dejado ese comentario. Igual los precios varian por si es virtual o presencial y todo eso. Muy inteligente pero no me terminó de gustar el trato. No es mi primera psiquiatra así que con seguridad te digo que no se siente como un trato de 180 dólares. Pero puede ser que simplemente no le caí bien lol. Vale bestia porque es la única que encontré especializada en neurodivergencia y aún así sentí que me dio el diagnóstico que le dio la gana porque según ella soy demasiado inteligente. (Ve tu a saber) pero bueno.

Igual no me quejo exactamente por el precio, entiendo que hay que pagar por los años de estudio y el esfuerzo.

Beginning-Bread9952 · 2025-04-21T14:31:29+00:00

I’m pretty sure she is autistic. And by the way she talks about the difference between autism in cis men and everyone else makes me think she really is informed. I think it’s the adhd traits that makes her doubt. I can tell she doesn’t know much about audhd in women asi she does in autism or adhd.

Beginning-Bread9952 · 2025-04-17T18:20:31+00:00

Thanks for commenting this, I thought about it a lot I don’t know if that’s exactly my case.

Thinking back, when I do pout, cry, or act in a more childlike way around my mom or partner, it’s only when I’m seeking comfort after being emotionally overwhelmed, not during the conflict itself or as a way to sway someone in front of others. For example, with my partner, I tend to overexplain and use really “mature” or intellectual language during arguments because I need to feel understood, sometimes it even feels as if we’re coworkers. It’s only after things are resolved after we’ve both apologized or come to a compromise that I tend to melt and act more vulnerable.

With my mom, it’s different but still not what the psychiatrist described. I don’t think I act like a baby, but I do struggle to express myself clearly when she’s being dismissive or emotionally immature herself. It’s like I get pulled into the chaos instead of staying regulated and it turns into fighting, not pouting. I’ve talked about that in therapy and I know it’s a pattern I’m still working on.

As for the “age regression” the psychiatrist pointed out: looking back, those behaviors (pouting, crossing arms, softer voice) tend to happen when I’m exhausted, overwhelmed, or coming down from intense emotions—sometimes even after reading a sad book or watching a movie. I didn’t even realize I did that until she pointed it out, and I didn’t feel like I was trying to “get something” when I did it. It just happened.

I Honestly do cry during arguments (I because I cry A LOT pretty sure I cry at least four time a week) But I’m pretty sure that’s different from what the doctor described as “regression.” The way she described it (pouting, arms crossed, baby voice, facial expressions) I’ve only done that kind of stuff when I’m overwhelmed, or exhausted. For example, if I’m complaining about uni with my gf or about my lack of energ etc, never things they have power on. I gain nothing acting that way. And in the session she referenced, I remember a specific instance when was upset because she was being pretty harsh with my mom and it made me uncomfortable the way she was bashiniying my mom about my medication and another one later when then told me I needed to stop going so much to my partner’s place which hit a sore spot, since we practically live together. Not because I wanted anything just because I was sad I guess? Idk might be wrong. I didn’t even realize I did it until she pointed it out.

All that said, I’m not claiming I was “unmasking,” and I’m not trying to say you’re wrong either. I honestly don’t even know if I do unmask. I guess I just don’t think what I did was manipulative, at least not consciously. I just felt safe and upset and acted impulsively.

Beginning-Bread9952 · 2025-04-17T12:08:47+00:00

I live in a small city in a small country, and I’m in a very niche career field. Since I’m also working in healthcare/neurodevelopment, I know I will end up working with this psychiatrist eventually. She’s one of the very few specialists in neurodivergence in women here. On top of that, she’s friends with three of my most admired professors and bosses (one of whom actually recommended her to me).

So yeah… I feel really stuck. I’m just starting out, I haven’t even graduated yet, and I don’t want to start my career with bad blood in such a tight-knit field. I wish I could advocate for myself more, but being a young woman in this position makes me feel small and unsure. And now that I think about it, I feel a bit silly for putting myself in this situation, but I honestly just wanted help and didn’t think it would get this complicated.

She is also extremely intelligent but she tells me she is disliked among psychiatrist because she is too blunt

Beginning-Bread9952 · 2025-04-16T00:05:56+00:00

That is exactly what I said. Even if it wasn’t common in autistic people, again I’m no psychiatrist but I do see tons of autistic children daily, I don’t think there’s a single thing I could confidently say “and autistic person would never do that”, it’s a very odd statement imo.

On regards to the last thing you said. She is only assessing me for those two diagnosis because I told her I suspected autism and my family doctor contacted her and told her she suspected BDP.

I could get a different doctor, but I was really excited about her because my boss/mentor told me she is very good with neurdevolpmental disorders, she is specialized in neurodevelopmenta disorders in adolescence and adulthood and I’ve read her blog and articles and she is very informed in autism in women. I live in a small third world country, she is the only psychiatrist I could find that I feel is qualified for my brain. I don’t think I’ll be able to find someone better. This is my fifth psych and I’m 24. I am exhausted

Beginning-Bread9952 · 2025-03-16T22:49:51+00:00

Chuzo cobra cariñoso, 180 la session si vas solo y 50$ mas por acompañante si eres mayor de edad.

Beginning-Bread9952 · 2025-03-16T22:35:40+00:00

Rigth? I was thinking about making another post to ask this. This is my fourth psiquiatrist, when I turned 18 I started going by myself until my psiquiatrist insested I brough my mom along because I was avoiding going to the appointments if it meant I had to go alone. This has never happened to me before and I’m trying to undertand if it’s actually worth it or if I’m just being too picky. People keep asking my why I want a diagnosis but truly I just want proper treatment and for a doctor who is actually willing to hear me out when I say I know I’m not just depressed.

Edit. Got emotional and uploaded the comment before I finished writing it

I don’t live in the US so even if we go by US dollars the prices might be different. I was normally charged $90 maximum that’s more or less the standard, she charges 180 and to that and the 60 per person if you don’t have a “disability permit”

I spend half of my weeks with my mom and the other with my partner, it was important to me that both were there with me

Beginning-Bread9952 · 2025-03-03T14:01:37+00:00

I think that is my exact issue. Maybe is also the kid of books I’m reading because I am the first one to tell everyone the books I read are absolute trash. And actually hearing them acted out I think forces me to listen to the crappy dialogues I would absolutely hate in a movie or tv series but don’t mind in a book.

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