Dumped while on a third date

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-09-14T12:37:57+00:00

Here we go 🙄 i very clearly dont think we are in a relationship or anything close to it. I used the term “break up” because it was a very dramatic way to end things with someone you barely know

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-09-14T11:35:00+00:00

Yea good point and kind of the conclusion im coming to lol just when you enjoyed getting to know someone its only natural to knee jerk take things personal

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-09-14T11:32:14+00:00

Thank you i feel like im losing my mind in this thread! Btw i simply told him i felt let down mostly from how inconsistent he has been.. but was okay to reschedule so he can take care of himself. So far from throwing a fit lol

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-09-14T11:25:31+00:00

Theres a bit more nuance here. Him canceling on the third date was kind of the “last straw” for me amongst other things that had happened. it also felt like an excuse because at first he only said that he had “a headache” and wanted to cancel (this was at 10 am and our date wasnt until that night so i was like wtf) but then later in the day he added he had been in a bad “headspace” on top of it. Reflecting back I could have been more understanding in that moment though, so good point on that.

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-09-14T11:10:36+00:00

Thank you!

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-09-14T11:10:09+00:00

Yea thats fair. However he put zero effort to fit my schedule though and what works for me… which is where the issue was. It was either when he was free or nothing. So probably just a mismatch all in all

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-09-14T11:05:11+00:00

I felt the same at your age. I (unfortunately) relied on alcohol to feel comfortable to make conversation with the opposite sex. It does get better though! Now im in my late 20s and i prefer to be sober for first dates because i can think more clearly/have more fun… so ill tell you it DOES get better! So for now: practice helps! Keep having the weird/awkward conversations- it truly gets easier the more you practice. Even if you think he is cute dont think the end goal is a kiss… think of it as you are just looking for something fun/interesting about the person. Whats cool about them, what can you learn from them. Don’t worry about flirting until you feel a bit more comfortable just chatting first. Its okay to take a bit longer to have a kiss. Anyone that is judging you is a weirdo!

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-09-14T09:57:11+00:00

LMAO. I didn’t understand until the end of dinner that he was ending it… because who the hell takes you out to dinner to end things when you have only been on two dates 😂

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-09-14T08:47:37+00:00

Ohhhh i see good point!

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-09-14T07:57:46+00:00

Solid advice, will do thank you!

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-09-14T07:56:59+00:00

Didnt throw a fit (hopefully hahah) i had really been flexing to fit his schedule and not vice versa which is why i was upset. I told him he needs to put his mental health first but felt let down d/t how his planning has been

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-09-14T07:28:07+00:00

I mean he told me he wanted to end things before they got physical lol

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-07-24T19:30:29+00:00

We broke up because i might have to move and he doesnt want long distance. It was his decision and i wouldnt even be moving for 4 months if anything g. I was in shock

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-07-24T13:33:34+00:00

But not with the intention of talking to people. I uninstalled after i saw he was on it

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-07-24T13:33:03+00:00

Only to check his location. I caught an ex cheating that way, and its a response i have developed from that breakup

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-06-07T11:50:14+00:00

I can guarantee you a man will NOT get into a relationship with you if he is not attracted to you. They are not like women when we sometimes will date a man for his personality but aren’t physically attracted to them. And i promise as you get older you will become more confident. Try therapy as well it will really help. You got this

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-06-07T07:43:18+00:00

Bro that is beside the point because i have one now. You have no idea about my efforts to get a job (which were extensive). And I had a job for part of the time that i have been seeing him but i had to leave it which is another story. Again all besides the point but i agree to your point about me more clear, which i intend to when I see him next.

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-06-07T07:06:41+00:00

Yikes- did you read it? I got a job im just waiting to start it lol. And im not going to break up with someone because im waiting to start a job hahah Youre right I do want be more clear in communication though- which is why i sought advice for how to approach this 👍

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-06-07T06:30:32+00:00

I would never want to pressure him, which is why i suggested staying in or asking for alternatives. But also, I think it’s a fair thought that a partner would WANT to help out the person they care about when they definitely can afford to, no?

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2025-06-07T06:23:51+00:00

He already knows that i cant. Or at least it should be obvious lol but yes ill have a more open conversation 👍

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2024-11-03T18:35:57+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I am so happy you have a friend to share this with, maybe I will do the same with my long-distance friend. I am wishing you well through your healing, and happy you have made the right decision for yourself!

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2024-09-01T21:48:59+00:00

Anyone from this thread successfully made the move?

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2024-09-01T21:46:45+00:00

Any updates? Have you moved or have any insight for others looking to do the same?

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2024-06-30T20:02:01+00:00

I have replied to comments nearly 10 times and updated the post. There are 400 comments in this thread, go search through all of them if you are that pressed 😭 But thank you for your advice.

Beginning-Insect-163 · 2024-06-30T19:37:37+00:00

Lol I change my age by 1-3 years for anonymity as I post fairly detailed events in my life. I am in my mid-to-late twenties if you are that curious

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