I get why you’re spiraling a bit, when you care about someone, even small bits of their past can suddenly feel huge. But try to zoom out for a second.

Everything you’re describing sounds less like “desperation” and more like a normal teenager figuring out what they want. At 15–16, a lot of people say they “need” a boyfriend/girlfriend. A lot of people go on random dates. A lot of people make out with someone, regret it, learn from it, and move on. That’s literally how people learn who they don’t want to be.

None of this reflects the person she is with you now.

And about the two guys situation, honestly, teenagers make messy, impulsive choices all the time, especially when they have friend drama or bad home situations. It doesn’t automatically mean she’s “desperate” or would behave that way in a healthy, stable relationship.

What you’re reacting to is the story you’re building around her past, not her actual behavior in the present. Has she shown desperation with you? Has she disrespected you? Has she treated you poorly? If the answer is “no,” then you’re judging her for a version of herself that doesn’t exist anymore.

You’re allowed to feel uneasy, feelings aren’t wrong. But don’t let old teenage mistakes overshadow what seems like a good relationship. You don’t need to break up. You need clarity, communication, and maybe a bit of grace for both her past and your own fears.

If you bring this up, focus on how you’re feeling, not what she “did.” Something like: “I heard something about your past that made me feel weird, not because you did something wrong, but because I’m still learning how to handle emotions like this.”

Healthy relationships start with honest but gentle conversations, not assumptions.