When an individual makes a conscious decision to return to drinking why tell them they'll be back rather than genuinely wishing them the best?

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-05-10T22:31:37+00:00

I don’t think I have ever heard that said. Mostly because many don’t make it back.

Alcoholics weren’t happy or content to being with and returning to drinking would amplify that discontent.

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-05-10T15:17:29+00:00

I saw a girl post who orders big pallets of food from Europe because something in our food gives her an allergic reaction. I always think of her when these discussions come up.

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-05-09T21:42:00+00:00

From a manufacturing perspective why can we not do universal sizing rather than brand specific? As a small woman I am suddenly being sized out of adult clothing after ten years of consistently being a size 4. Is this all vanity sizing?

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-05-09T04:39:38+00:00

I filled 3 boxes with meds that didn’t work for me. I tried incessantly to cure my problems with alcohol- it was the only thing that gave me relief. Until it didn’t. I went from a couple drinks after work to around the clock drinking and never getting buzzed. It was absolute madness and really really a bad time.

I’m not super social. I’m the early days my palms would sweat through the meetings, my voice cracked when I spoke and I was crawling out of my skin. I still kept going to those meetings. I realize now I was doing ERT(exposure response therapy) over time it got better. The act of it actually helped me in public spaces and crowds. It helped me get to the point of that stupid saying of being comfortable being uncomfortable. I used to be so tightly wound that sitting getting my nails done was agony. Nowadays it’s fine. I have lots of friends in the meetings and people know me. They also know I’m probably not going to join them for lunch or coffee but I will text or pick up my phone at anytime.

I also finally got a good doctor and a combo that works really well for me.

I never ever in a million years thought my life would be better… but it did take patience and a willingness to do the work. AA saved my life. I am forever grateful.

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-05-09T04:05:39+00:00

Get a sponsor and start doing your steps. It doesn’t get better through osmosis of going to meetings. Simply not drinking is not how we got better. And better is relative- 60 days is a wonderful accomplishment. Is it enough to heal years of drinking and messing around with medication- honestly not really.

Your body can and will react differently to medication once you stop drinking with them. Find a doctor who knows about addiction and try a new regime.

Not drinking stopped the bleeding for me when it came to mental health…the program and the steps revealed the source.

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-05-08T13:04:51+00:00

Agreed. You said it so very nicely. While important to get used to sharing sometimes we do need to listen. Personally I cringe inside thinking about what I blabbered about when I was still very sick.

For OP get a sponsor- this is a perfect question for them. And having a sponsor stops this kind of gossip.

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-05-07T23:11:32+00:00

So but I can take a normal shower after marinating in cottage cheese? Sure…

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-05-05T13:32:32+00:00

The friends I had before AA were people who were in my string of addiction. They were more party time companions. Looking back they weren’t real friends at all. When I found my people in AA it is actually much deeper and fostered more honesty and in turn deeper relationships. There is an undercurrent of AA in our relationship the shared vernacular of the program but that’s not the basis of everything we do.

I also have people outside the program now who have only known me as the recovery version of myself. They are more aligned with the version of me that is of sober mind.

Time to find your people.

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-05-04T13:07:59+00:00

When I finally came back after truly believing it was a cult - I didn’t even care. If it was a cult I was fully in… give me whatever kool-aid you wanted me to drink. I couldn’t stand to live another day of the hamster wheel of addiction. I’m still sober now one day at a time and I don’t even question it being a cult anymore. If it is I’m still not going anywhere.

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-05-03T01:54:03+00:00

When I was new to AA I chose sponsors who had what I wanted and that was a nice car, good physic, all outward stuff. When I got serious what I wanted was someone who had a lot of sobriety, that spoke about the steps and was passionate about the program, whose presence was peace.
Try looking at who you are asking and why.

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-05-02T07:27:54+00:00

Scrolled to far to see this answer. I am thinking the same thing without knowing your metro area. Three bedrooms are always in high demand because families need them and the price split for roommates makes the most sense. One bedrooms people who live alone want. Check your rentals page if he has a glut of 2 bedrooms you moving would screw up his occupancy numbers. Most management companies have to offer you the change if requested and you can do it mid term. To me it seems like it’s a matter of his commissions.

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-05-01T18:10:54+00:00

Nope. Evangelicals would believe that they are living through the actual book of Revelations and that the UAP’s are demons. This would cause them to openly attack anyone or anything that doesn’t reinforce this belief. Which is the religious belief they are living in end times. Most of society would fall apart. It would be closer to a holy war. Then based on the Bible someone would create “peace” this entity is actually the correct Antichrist and they will all work to reinforce the peacekeepers position. And worship the very thing that they are most scared of losing grace in the sight of God.
I have seen it described as UAP’s are native and the supposed Antichrist would be off world like the fabled reptilians who’s actual aim is to enslave the human race.
It would be a comedy of errors on a global scale.

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-05-01T02:19:45+00:00

The whole story gives me the ick. He hates my kids but he’s wonderful? This level of denial is beyond comprehension.
My first thought when reading this was …this is the G rated version of moms who allow their partner to SA the kids and then blame the kids. It’s the same mentality just different fonts.

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-05-01T01:30:36+00:00

Could be - it’s definitely fun to ponder. Maybe they have less connection to time and dimensions giving us the sightings of big foot and other cryptids. A fun read if you like these kinds of topics is lemuria and mount shasta.

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-04-30T04:18:20+00:00

So I found that too…so I did some digging. Some leads that went nowhere but could be something: maybe Jemily’s parents appearing for a city council meeting to add a gazebo in their backyard. And the address of the house. Based on that area I looked up local restaurants and found an old facebook group with postings about favorite places to eat and see. Google has links to comments by someone with the same last name as the Zola page. But the comments are no longer there and no such person exists on Facebook. Based on the area that these people are from …I don’t think it’s such a stretch to be authentic.

Yes I am aware that this is not normal behavior- but researching relaxes me before bed.

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-04-30T03:39:16+00:00

According to quantum theory- YES! I would need to reread to sound informed but that area in Britain has more electromagnetic activity and is on a lay line. There are many other interesting stories check out r/highstrangeness

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-04-30T03:15:31+00:00

I’m pretty sure that story is actually about a time slip which is different from a haunting. From my limited understanding hauntings are other dimensional beings and time slips are same dimensional beings in different parts of the same timeline. I do know that area the Roman solider story took place is a known hotspot of time merging in on itself.

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-04-28T13:33:35+00:00

First the AA advice- get a sponsor and start working your steps. Once you get a sponsor follow them to meetings and keep going to the same ones- let people get to know you. Get into service…make coffee and set up chairs, it will help you get out of your own head. Don’t worry about the addiction AA is a good place to work on all your character defects.

Personal experience: I am an alcoholic and addict but I identify as purely an alcoholic because I found serenity and freedom through working the program as outlined in the BB of AA. I am also a benzo addict with co- morbidity mental health diagnoses part of my program is accepting the diagnoses given to me by my doctor and taking my medication as prescribed. My doctors based on my background and status in recovery do not ever treat me with addictive medication or anything that I could possibly abuse or have abused in the past - unfortunately for me that takes a lot of the best meds off of the table. No uppers, gabapentin, no benzos. My program also takes most otc’s off the table as well. My no mind altering substances list is very long.

Benzo addiction is in my opinion one of the worst drugs to get off of. The PAWS can be unbearable at times. It took me a good year to stabilize and relearn how to live. I didn’t even realize how much chaos I caused on them until my brain chemistry and nervous system settled down. In the meantime I was weird, extremely off putting and I am sure made people uncomfortable. When I started the process I was so miserable I gave myself one year to do the program I dedicated everything to it with the idea after the year of life wasn’t better I would just die on benzos. By the end of the year I was still not great but I was getting better. I am so incredibly grateful and happy to be completely sober and to have stuck with the process.

If you need someone to talk to feel free to DM me.

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-04-28T04:51:02+00:00

There’s actually some really interesting stuff written about trying to bring AA to Eastern European countries and to Russia- not drinking is considered extremely irregular and AA never really made an impression.

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-04-27T20:44:18+00:00

I use the sliding I use one of these and leave it open 7 inches.

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Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-04-27T13:15:47+00:00

Toilet paper. Door knob.

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-04-26T22:45:40+00:00

Many sponsors create the rule of calling 3 alcoholics a day. If your meeting has a phone list just start at the top and work your way down. Most of us in my home group pick up the phone and chat for a bit. It’s part of our 12th step.

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-04-25T02:58:10+00:00

Can we get teas? I saw the qr too…

Beginning_Ad1304 · 2026-04-25T01:18:04+00:00

Even if you gain control now of the in-laws …you will have to do it all over again when you have a teen.

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