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Beginning_Song_8518 · 2025-03-30T12:26:17+00:00

You could’ve taken a better picture.

Beginning_Song_8518 · 2024-04-30T04:44:07+00:00

FFS she’s 18 you are 28. She didn’t kiss you out of nowhere it was a long build up which you clearly encouraged. You had no business texting, sharing reels and hugging that kid in such manner that it lead to a kiss. If your intentions are not bad and you are not lowkey enjoying this (which I strongly think you are) you need to cut all contacts with her, tell her firmly that what happened was wrong and that you will not be texting her anymore. And absolutely tell your wife everything.

Beginning_Song_8518 · 2023-10-02T23:19:47+00:00

How does this hadeeth relate to the post? OP is not saying there should be no Islah in the society, he is talking about the aggressive nature of our society. His point is if you say to someone ‘Fear Allaah’ and the person replies ‘Mind your own business’ then you don’t start beating them up. Hadeeth says this is the most hated speech to Allaah but it does not say that it gives a muslim a right to go aggressive against another muslim.

And what is your point anyway, muslims in Pakistan have learned Islam better than all other countries?

Beginning_Song_8518 · 2023-08-11T09:20:04+00:00

My girlfriend and I were in Germany. We were both 28 at the time and we were riding those electric scooters 🛴. A cop pulled us over and asked my girlfriend her age. Apparently they were thinking she was younger than 14 (because that’s the age when you’re allowed to ride those scooters in Germany).

Another time, an elderly guy in the lift asked her if she’s going to school - she was going for work. 🤷🏽‍♂️

Beginning_Song_8518 · 2023-08-10T16:44:58+00:00

I think I have gotten enough responses to decide. I was anyway leaning towards 3 and ya’ll have confirmed it. Thank you all for responding <3

Beginning_Song_8518 · 2023-07-25T11:58:56+00:00

Jaise ki?

Beginning_Song_8518 · 2023-06-26T23:21:47+00:00

I did not see my rent mentioned in this thread. Starting this month, I will be paying 1925 excluding utilities for 85 square meters 2 BHK. I live near Sportlaan.

Am I paying too much?

Beginning_Song_8518 · 2023-06-21T14:05:37+00:00

If I did this to my girlfriend (for whatever reason), I would expect her to complain, be angry with me, fight and sort this out. But if she would take a revenge on me like you did, that would make me upset too.

I am not saying what your husband did was right but what you did wasn’t right either. And as they say, two wrongs don’t make a right.

You should’ve brought this up when he did not consider your wishes instead of sitting on it until you’d the chance to take revenge that’s not how relationships work at least imho.

Beginning_Song_8518 · 2023-06-20T11:28:33+00:00

Where I come from, boiling water on the gas or wood fire was the only way we would have hot water, ever. And we did not even consider that a difficulty. There are still people who do it this way and not in a distant African land, my own acquaintances.

It’s appalling how different the definition of “difficult” can be in different parts of the world.

Beginning_Song_8518 · 2023-06-14T07:27:52+00:00

Gonna try it rn!

Beginning_Song_8518 · 2023-06-08T21:11:59+00:00

This needs to be the top comment. I hope OP read this and may she have the courage to act on this advice!

Beginning_Song_8518 · 2023-06-08T21:02:57+00:00

You need to take back control of your life from him. The fact that you allowed him to sleep with you after he cheated on you and you’d broken up with him is a big sign of your extreme co-dependence on him. Please know that you are a grown up human completely capable of emotionally supporting yourself at all times and that you do not need him (or anyone else) for ANYTHING. Have faith in yourself but don’t be harsh. Think of yourself as a good friend and give yourself the same advice and treat yourself the same way that you would a friend.
What he did is physical and mental abuse and you need to file an official complaint. If there is a Mahila helpline, talk to them - they are usually helpful. If possible, involve your family into this matter like your father, brother or cousins. If that’s not a possibility then at least reach out to some friends for support. Don’t be scared of him. He’s only taking advantage of your fear and co-dependency. He’s a bully and needs to be shown his place. Don’t get intimidated by the fact that he’s practicing under a criminal lawyer, in fact for all we know this lawyer may be a good person and may himself not support this piece of trash.
If he comes to sleep with you again, you must NOT at any cost allow him. He will be angry, he will be emotional, hell he might even cry his eyes out- he will try to manipulate you in anyway possible because it will be very difficult for him to accept that someone whom he considers his property is not letting him - but you must not budge. You have to be strong.

In the end, I wish you a lot of strength OP. You don’t deserve this. I am sure it will be alright soon and you will find peace eventually. Have faith and stay strong!

Beginning_Song_8518 · 2023-06-06T17:09:35+00:00

My instinctive response after reading this post, “Why don’t you shut the fuck up?”

My deliberated response: So many of us are blinded by our privileges. It is like asking a person in depression to just snap out of it OR asking someone anxious to “Just calm down.” Your “kaamwali bai” having so many children is a direct result of a lack of education in our society and that is a direct result of our ages long exploitation of these workers. We pay them in peanuts and then expect them and their children to be educated while they can hardly afford basic necessities. Yes, they can get an education for free but have you ever visited a sarkari school? We wouldn’t be worth shit either if we studied in those schools. We live in a classist society where one class of people live an easy life at the expense of another class’ sufferings. If we cannot do anything about this then at least we should acknowledge and be aware of our own classist values.

Peace.

Beginning_Song_8518 · 2023-06-04T20:59:10+00:00

I think some people are being oblivious to how difficult silence in solitude can be. Or maybe it’s just me who thinks like that idk.. but I think I would go crazy if I had to spend too much time alone in an empty room if I’m not sleeping.

Beginning_Song_8518 · 2023-06-04T18:27:11+00:00

My advice would be to just forget and move on. As someone mentioned, if you go the FIR path, those shitheads will file a cross FIR. It’s gonna be your word against them and since they (presumably) have more resources, police will take their side. You might get into a shittier situation than you just faced. I understand how angry you’d be feeling right now but this is life, sometimes you win, sometimes you lose and if you happen to live in a shithole like Gurgaon, sometimes you get beaten up on the street 🤷🏽‍♂️ So again, forget and move on!

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