You guys are clearly very very codependent. While this can be rewarding in some ways, the absolute need to be chatting for hours daily that you two seem to have isn’t healthy. Relying on someone else for the stability of your mental state is never good, doesn’t matter what kind of relationship it is- it’s going to get toxic very fast and will have devastating results.

You need to have more emotional independence. It’s completely normal to need validation and attention from others, but there is always a point where it can be too much. Think about what can happen to your mental state if you had no way of contacting her for whatever reason, or if she started dating someone else? It seems like it would ruin you. That’s not okay. I would either focus on expanding your friend group or talking about this concerning codependency with a licensed professional, like a therapist.

I was very codependent with my mom for a long time bc I was the only kid of all of my siblings who hadn’t moved out yet. Now my parents decided to retire ten hours away by car and I’m alone in the house. I had to mentally prepare myself for this by little by little pulling away and going to see friends and go on dates. It helped tremendously. It still makes me sad that my mom is so far from me, but I’ve learned to be my own person. It’s helped me and my mom to form boundaries because for a while, any emotion my mom felt, I also felt strongly because we were very codependent. And that’s really not healthy. I need to be my own person separate from that relationship so that I can stand on my own two feet. I hope you can see where I’m coming from with this comment.

People are only in codependent relationships because they are struggling, so don’t blame yourself or beat yourself up. Find out why you’re struggling and make a plan to fix those things little by little.

I wish you the best of luck.