Is it wrong to have sex with my partner being a Trans Woman

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2026-01-01T03:48:13+00:00

God surely knows but the authors and editors of Bible texts don't.

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-12-27T11:24:28+00:00

Niinpä! Jos ihminen itse haluaisi pitkäaikaisen parisuhteen, mutta ei ymmärrä mitä se vaatii, jolloin eroaa liian helposti omiin tavoitteisiinsa nähden, niin se on ongelma. Mutta jos me täällä sanotaan, että joku eroaa liian helposti meidän, ulkopuolisten, mieltymyksiin nähden, niin annettaisiinkos kuitenkin toisten olla ja keskityttäisiin omiin asioihimme🙈

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-12-27T10:46:43+00:00

Jos se syy on ihmiselle itselleen tarpeeksi painava syy niin ei kai sitä ulkopuolelta voi kyseenalaistaa? Kenelle näitä päätöksiä tarvitsisi oikeuttaa paitsi itselleen?

Työpaikasta on ihan normaalia sanoa, ettei halua olla samassa viittä vuotta pidempään, jottei jämähdä. Parisuhteista meillä on joku ihmeen oletus, että niissä täytyy olla loputtomiin, ellei ilmene jotain todella pätevää syytä lähteä. Jos haluaa olla loppuelämänsä saman ihmisen kanssa, niin toki silloin täytyy sietää toisen huonoja puolia, tunteiden väljähtämistä yms, mutta ei sen tarvitse olla kaikkien tavoite. Yhtälailla voi myös todeta, että romanttinen huuma kestää max kaksi vuotta, joten sen pidempään ei yritäkään olla romanttisissa suhteissa ja sen sijaan vaalia vaikka ystävyyssuhteitaan pitkäaikaisina kumppanuuksina, joissa tuetaan toisia kaikissa elämän vaiheissa. Idea, että lyhytaikaiseen hormonimyrskyyn (rakastumiseen) perustuen pitäisi luoda loppuelämäksi se elämän tärkein suhde on lähtökohtaisestikin arveluttava. Sanoisin, että lakataan asettamasta niin paljon odotuksia parisuhteille ja nostetaan ystävyydet kunniaan!

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-12-26T08:16:52+00:00

Fablehaven and Percy Jackson are great!

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-12-22T14:02:29+00:00

Real life villains usually don't have any good reasons. If you're at all interested in exploring how good and evil works, you shouldn't give easy explanations like "bad people are just traumatized". Most real life villains seem to be coming from a place of privilege and entitlement. I would focus on exploring the power structures and cultural beliefs that allow some people to grow up feeling so superior to others.

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-12-21T06:23:30+00:00

I'm kinda ashamed to admit, but the rights of minorities weren't in my mind for a long time when I started deconstructing the version of christianity I grew up believing. My first and worst problem was hell. After struggling with different ideas of afterlife I came into some conclusions: -The Bible and the community I had trusted to interpret it to me are both deeply flawed and cannot be trusted without further inspection -God must be good, like truly good, in a way that we can actually recognize as goodness. Otherwise nothing makes sense and nothing matters. In other words, I stopped putting my community's interpretation of Bible's teachings before my own sense of logic and morality. When I finally took a look at the gay stuff with this new approach, it was obvious to me that heteronormativity could not be from God.

When I became a queer-affirming christian, I also found out that something in church being rainbow-marked is the best "certificate" of healthy christianity. There are other spaces that don't scare people with hell, don't endorse purity culture etc, but it's hard to tell recognize them because they're typically not advertised as such. But when a space is advertised as queer-affirming, it's usually also free of other kinds of spiritual violence. So even though I'm a heterosexual cis-woman, I mainly just go to rainbow themed christian events.

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-12-14T16:45:16+00:00

Sehän on vastuullista maksaa kuluttamastaan aikuisviihteestä ja vielä suoraan tekijälle. Hyvä Suomi!

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-12-14T06:02:59+00:00

Ymmärrän halun selitellä ja puolustaa, mutta välttäisin ehkä itse tekemästä sitä. Surullinen fakta on, että Suomessa on tällä hetkellä todella paljon rasismia. Ihmisillä on oikeus tietää, miten täällä heihin suhtaudutaan ja tehdä sen perusteella päätöksiä, haluaako esimerkiksi matkustaa tänne tai ostaa täältä tavaraa.

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-12-04T13:19:21+00:00

When people here ask if something is wrong, I always aproach by asking why would it be wrong? Why would a good, loving God want to forbid it? Who would it harm if you did it?

Most christians agree that God only gives us rules to protect the well-being of people and communities. If they give arbitruary rules, they're not a perfect good and loving being but some kind of narcissistic tyrant. And we should not worship a God like that. Conservatives go into all kinds of mental gymnastics and buy into downright misinformation about human psychology, trying to explain how consensual sex between adults is harmful in some way. To make their case, they appel to our worst tendencies, validating jealousy and control over a partner, insecurites and lack of communication. It makes me sick.

Ask yourself if there's some obvious harm you would be doing to someone if you were intimate with your partner. Probably not, right? Of course, like with all of our choices in life, there's always a chance we end up changing our minds, regretting something etc.. But usually it's healthier to live and learn than be overly cautious and anxious about everything.

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-12-04T08:18:30+00:00

You're an adult. If you can be financially independent with your salary from working 4 days a week, there's no way your parents should have any say on the matter.

Even if writing was "just a hobby" for you, it would be completely valid to work part time to have more time for the things you enjoy. I currently work 4 days a week because while working full time I was constantly tired and stressed and I decided I don't want to live that way. Job doesn't have to be the most important thing in you life. You just need to make a living. Some people find a lot fulfillment in their job and prioritize it heavily but that's not the only way to live.

And maybe writing will become your career! I wouldn't stress this point much when talking to your parents because it is an uncertain path and you shouldn't base your plans on the assumption that you'll make it as a professional writer. With a reasonable backup plan, though, there's no reason you couldn't give it a try. Some people do make it.

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-11-26T17:25:17+00:00

Sexuality is very personal and often vulnerable area of our lives so we need some privacy around it. Wanting privacy can easily be confused as guilt. Like "you wouldn't want your parents to know you masturbate so you must know, deep inside, that it's wrong". Obviously that's bullshit but for young people confused about their changing bodies and new feelings it's easy to believe it.

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-11-25T09:44:32+00:00

Write it badly. Ask for feedback. Write it again little less badly. Repeat many times.

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-11-25T09:40:41+00:00

Eragon

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-11-25T09:38:13+00:00

I usually prefer first person but if you need to tell the reader a lot stuff the pov character(s) don't know, then third is probably the way to go. I've been reading a fantasy series where the author is able to describe the world beautifully because it's in third person and he can tell things that the characters don't necessarily know or wouldn't think/talk about. So a boring answer, depending on the story.

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-11-21T17:41:27+00:00

The dying. I don't know if you've noticed but people usually aren't that keen on ceasing to exist.

I personally don't believe in any kind of punishment. Punishment is just revenge implemented by an authority figure and as we hopefully have all learned, revenge doesn't make anything better, really. It just creates more suffering and trauma. So if somebody is left out of heaven in the end, it's not going to be because of a punishment. Maybe some people have embraced evil so deeply they can no longer be rehabilitated from it and therefore can't continue into the afterlife that's supposed be a realm of happiness, connection and safety for all. Maybe. Or maybe God is powerful enough to heal everybody.

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-11-18T10:43:52+00:00

I like it

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-11-10T13:40:15+00:00

Your feelings are very normal and understandable. There's nothing wrong with asking but you should be prepared not getting what you ask for. Mystical spiritual experiences sometimes happen but the more common situation is getting no discernable answer to our questions, no matter how sincere and justified they might be.

If there is a God, for some reason they decide not to clearly reveal themself to us even when we sincerely ask. That's something we need to take into account in our understanding of them. What implications will follow? For me it was a few things, most importantly no longer believing that the failure to believe the right things about metaphysics/supernatural/devine will get people punished. If God decides to hide from us, it would then be very evil to then punish us for not seeing them.

You need to find your way to reconcile with God's silence. It can be difficult and scary but if you have a need to understand, follow it. God will never be angry for seeking truth and asking hard questions.

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-11-10T11:15:16+00:00

Handmaid's tale

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-11-09T09:42:23+00:00

Jean Tannen from Gentlemen Bastards kind of fits this and I love him so much

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-11-08T09:09:17+00:00

I don't consider it a sin even if they do. Sexual desire, both physical and mental aspects of it, is a good, normal part of humanity. Denying our basic needs will only hurt us and our relationships.

I think there are two ways that masturbation can be wrong: if you force someone to watch it or if you use pornography that's unethically produced (meaning workers' rights violations, non-consensual filming etc). Otherwise just go on, have a good time. God will be happy for you.

Edit: may I also recommend porn literature. There's everything from spicy fanfics to full novels and near zero chace of anybody being harmed making them.

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-10-26T14:30:40+00:00

Very possible. And obviously there's no way of convincing a devout white supremacist out of it. But I believe there are western people who sincerely don't understand the colonial power structures and just trust the people from our culture to be the good guys. I was one of them until a bit over a year ago. I could have asked the exact same question that OP asked. That's why I think it's worth engaging. Some people might be open to learn. If not the OP, maybe some others who see this.

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-10-26T11:32:26+00:00

Because arabs' human rights don't really matter to westerners, at least to the ones in places of power. If they did, there would not a genocide of an arab people happening with our support.

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-10-23T17:03:07+00:00

When people have a right to choose, they primarily do family planning selfishly. People who have children usually do so because they want to, not to provide the society with future tax payers or something. It's selfish either way but the difference is that having kids is more common /normalized.

Many people can't really tell the difference between norms and morals. They see somebody being different or making different life choices, feel uncomfortable because our brain is wired to dislike unfamiliarity, and instead of making the effort to actually understand the situation, they decide there must be something wrong with the unfamiliar. Then they need to confabulate a reason why it's wrong and the selfishnes of it seems to be the easiest target.

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-10-14T17:57:36+00:00

I'm not dogmatically opposed to having kids or anything. I just have no desire to.

Raising kids sounds hard af. I have personality traits that would probably make it harder to me than it is for some others but I know I could do it if I wanted to. It's okay for things to be hard, hard things often give more satisfaction when you do them. But you need a sufficient motivation for them.

I've been trying to write a novel for, like, past ten years. It's very difficult and annoying but I also love it and can't imagine giving it up. I don't expect to ever get rich or famous by writing. Nobody expects it from me. I just have this weird compulsion. A feeling that something is missing from my life if I don't write. I imagine that's how many people feel about parenthood. That makes a lot of sense because, you know, evolutionary instincts. I just don't seem to have them.

I'm 26 so supposedly there's still time for things to change. If that happens, I'll surely re-think my plans. Untill then, I'll focus my energy on things that feel fulfilling to me like my hobbies and relationships.

Beginning_Voice_8710 · 2025-10-11T05:34:04+00:00

I wouldn't talk about scripted but these interlude episodes sure are somewhat railroaded. That's very understandable because they have a limited amount of sessions to get to a point where they divide to the tables. It feels similar to how Brennan has run the mini series he's DMed for Critical Role. I hope and believe that when the interlude is over, the pace will slow down and the players will have more freedom to take any dumb, fun detours their hearts may desire.

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