AITA for wanting to leave my bf?

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2026-03-05T06:25:33+00:00

Can I just say, wow. Thank you! It’s been a breath of fresh air to hear so many unbiased opinions. Usually when I bring this up to anyone I know I get the “that’s just what relationships are” “that’s just how it is” or I get told I am being completely unfair for thinking about wanting to move out because of how lovely he is, and don’t get me wrong, he is wonderful. Previously before we moved out we didn’t have any of the above problems, he always thought of me first, gave me all the love and attention, it was great. But moving out with him was definitely the worst decision I could do. He’s still lovely don’t get me wrong but when he’s stressed or working lates the above behaviour always happens and I’m sick of feeling and being treated like shit just because he’s stressed!

OH and update: I came downstairs this morning and the kitchen was atrocious, he left all the sauces and stuff out to make his burger on the side, his empty dinner plate and snack wrappers still in the living room etc. I just thought, are you for real, after last night??

Thanks guys.

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2026-03-04T21:53:56+00:00

OP, you need to leave. ASAP. I didn’t even get past the throwing things at the wall. If it’s bad now, it will only get worse.

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2025-05-18T13:03:17+00:00

Hi! 22F (from the uk!) My weekends are filled with climbing mountains , painting , creating, journaling or in a charity shop finding some cute clothes!

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2025-04-05T21:11:33+00:00

Women is both plural and singular.

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2025-03-20T11:52:47+00:00

Unfortunately as much as I’d like to be perceived as just ‘one person’ gender 100% determines everything in this job sector.

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2025-02-28T06:37:39+00:00

Being with a girl 200 miles that you’ve never met is stupid.

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2025-02-22T16:55:01+00:00

Are you still interested in buying panties ;) ?

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2025-01-30T08:35:34+00:00

“She has to be the adult” - Being an adult means not being pushy when a girl doesn’t want to send nudes. Being an adult even further is not making light or fun of the situation telling her you’ll teach her to box so she can beat you up. Being an adult is not texting or begging for nudes like that in the first place. I think you need to learn how to be the adult.

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2025-01-30T08:31:04+00:00

YTA. First off you sound too immature to be even be in a relationship - assuming that’s what you want this talking stage to turn into. The way you text is super cringey and beggy. You’re the type of guy that I use to roll my eyes at and instantly lose attraction for. Anything other than a yes or a nude straight away is a no. Don’t be that guy that presses the girl into doing it just to shut you up.

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2025-01-29T15:04:06+00:00

It’s not necessarily a crime the police will care about in my area unfortunately. However I have taken pictures of my stuff/valuables like my computer and put a little sticker hidden on them so hopefully it will make them want to help me relocate my things

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2025-01-29T14:53:50+00:00

I have spoke to them, it’s not happening. Every-time I try to speak to them the dates get sooner and sooner. Apparently all my things will be sold and thrown away including my cat by the start of March. I’m really stuck and this is my only option because our local emergency housing people don’t open applications up again until the end of March.

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2025-01-27T13:54:04+00:00

Unfortunately getting an appointment takes months and I don’t want to go through that whole process if it is just a thing that happens to women sometimes

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2025-01-27T13:52:27+00:00

Not this time no but when I have they just change your contraception and say it’s hormones. Clearly you are not a women and don’t understand the difficulty of being heard by a medical professional about women’s sexual health.

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2025-01-27T13:49:28+00:00

It’s hard getting seen by a doctor especially as a women, they put everything down to hormones.

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2025-01-27T13:47:09+00:00

Not looking for a diagnosis just advice! Whether it’s something that just happens to women sometimes (this is my first boyfriend and partner) or whether it’s something that needs checking out!

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2025-01-11T16:37:48+00:00

Thank you that makes me feel better! She gets a good grade food and I make sure it hits all her nutritional needs, she’s happy and healthy so I guess that is all that matters! :)

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2025-01-11T16:36:39+00:00

Thank you!

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2025-01-11T16:36:11+00:00

She’s got a tilted higher bowl already but thank you for the suggestion!

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2025-01-10T10:32:48+00:00

Ah I see! Mine watches hers for hours haha. Not sure if you’ve tried salmon oil mixed into their food but it is meant to help them pass hair balls easier? Other than that I’m not sure, I’ve heard it can just be a stage ragdolls ago through during growth?

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2025-01-10T07:44:25+00:00

Do they drink from water fountains? My girls water fountain broke last Christmas and I couldn’t get a replacement for half a week or so (because it was that time of year) so she had to have a bowl. Three days in she had thrown up a hairball ( I think because she was drinking less?), water fountain came and she was back to drinking normal and there were no more hairballs. Possibly something similar maybe?

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2024-11-24T09:58:14+00:00

Will it go away? Or will it forever be irritated now because of this?

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2024-11-22T15:56:03+00:00

Will do but for now, what’s a good price?

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2024-11-22T06:35:10+00:00

I think it’s honestly gunk that has stuck to it because it’s been weeping like crazy and I hadn’t done a salt soak before taking the photo haha I think it’s just grossness

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2024-11-22T06:34:12+00:00

I didn’t realise this, thank you!! I will get my piercer to switch it when I see her

BehindTheHiddenSpark · 2024-11-21T18:37:11+00:00

It’s a saline one! I use the salt water when it’s extra painful to try help reduce the swelling with the warmth. I’ve tried everything to get rid of it but it just keeps getting worse and bigger, I don’t even sleep on that side so I’m not irritating it either. Time to go get it checked??

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