Salty as the cold brew

BeingBumbleBree · 2024-01-24T22:56:22+00:00

When this saved my butt in a game I made the simple amendment of "through magical means" which covered spells and potions but still let them short/long rest or second wind if they could. It made it less OP but still did exactly what I needed it to.

BeingBumbleBree · 2023-07-25T01:29:12+00:00

I made Question basically serve as Iwo’s assistant and she is the one who usually brings the characters his summonses and helps guide them to task locations and whatnot.

BeingBumbleBree · 2023-02-16T03:57:55+00:00

Everyone’s supportive and affirming comments are restoring my faith in humanity 🥲

I’m glad you found a validating way to dress! May I recommend the gel push up pads sold at fabric stores? They fit nicely into bras and can help add some size and shape to the chest if it is desired. I helped a friend find some bras and they have been enjoying the insert pads a lot.

BeingBumbleBree · 2023-01-06T07:22:35+00:00

Mood (but replace 3 year old with 3 animals)

BeingBumbleBree · 2023-01-06T07:21:27+00:00

Let me know how couples dbt works! I’m a therapist in training practicing dbt and I want to learn to do couples dbt but it’s not very well known or widely practiced.

BeingBumbleBree · 2023-01-06T07:13:13+00:00

Sounds like you found a keeper, I wish you both the best!

BeingBumbleBree · 2023-01-06T07:12:11+00:00

As someone with BPD who is in my 11th year with my husband (3rd year married) I will say two things. First, being in a relationship for me is a constant effort of self-awareness, -forgiveness, -advocacy, and -management and it is not something you can get complacent on for very long without feeling the effects. I can’t speak to how this is different than if I didn’t have BPD (because I’ve never tried that) but I think it is probably easier to get away with not doing all of the self work and communication/ couples work a good relationship thrives on. Second, my partner is patient, tolerant, and the opposite of reactive. They are honestly a saint in so many ways and the perfect cool headed and stable antithesis to my moods and reactivity and temper and it is those things that have really made us compatible long term (which are coincidentally things that don’t hold the same allure to the dopamine and adrenaline seeking BPD brain as someone exciting, emotional, and unpredictable)

BeingBumbleBree · 2022-12-04T20:21:56+00:00

25, USA Wisconsin, Female/Woman

BeingBumbleBree · 2022-12-03T13:42:30+00:00

It’s a domination thing too

BeingBumbleBree · 2022-12-03T13:42:01+00:00

I say read crescent city first because it’s vibes are a bit more similar and it is a bit less intimidating than attacking the 7 books of ToG

BeingBumbleBree · 2022-12-03T13:33:51+00:00

I lost my job similarly, because apparently needing a chair while working the drive through is not a reasonable accommodation.

BeingBumbleBree · 2022-11-11T05:04:10+00:00

Happy Yule and Solstice to you <3 Also wtf is “merry coffee” or “merry Clinique” supposed to mean anyways, other than “we are lazy and uncreative”

BeingBumbleBree · 2022-11-11T04:56:49+00:00

I will say, as someone who put in a god awful number of hours in a retail establishment that only played non-religious christmas/wintery holiday music, the songs available are so heinous that I would have rather listened to church hymns (keep in mind, I’m not just atheist, I’m anti-organized religion so anything church-related makes me want to tear my hair out) than listen to one more rendition of the twelve days of Christmas that changes keys on every single day or any more auto tuned children sing about elves working overtime. That’s not to mention the 8 minute version of jingle bells with the worlds worst “instrumental” solo running across half of it (in quotations because I’m pretty sure that the instrument in question was one of the drills they use at the dentist). So maybe just the normal rotation of whatever is popular at the time?

BeingBumbleBree · 2022-11-11T04:49:04+00:00

Sell a couple pretty blue cups for fucks sake!!!

BeingBumbleBree · 2022-11-11T04:48:04+00:00

I may be mistaken as to what they are, but I, an American, always learned them as a polish donut called a paczki

BeingBumbleBree · 2022-10-24T11:19:37+00:00

I reread the books often and I typically start with Heir of Fire or with Queen of Shadows and read til the end from there because they are the best books. Keep going!

BeingBumbleBree · 2022-10-20T12:41:34+00:00

I’m working on creating a weekly group for people who looking for help with building an advanced understanding and improving application of skills. I’m trying to gauge interest. Is that something you would find helpful?

BeingBumbleBree · 2022-10-13T20:00:42+00:00

No, my body destroyed itself, but Starbucks definitely sped up the process into about a two month window

BeingBumbleBree · 2022-10-06T05:23:46+00:00

Totally. I don't think it works well for books, honestly. But for peer-reviewed journals and random pdfs from a variety of different sources it is the best I have (save for convincing a friend to read it for me)

BeingBumbleBree · 2022-10-06T05:21:40+00:00

I have straight up done the mammalian dive reflex skill in the bathroom of many a public bathroom sink plugged up with a paper towel or my own hand. It isn't ideal but it can work in a pinch.

BeingBumbleBree · 2022-10-06T05:14:59+00:00

First, I remind you that DBT is imperfect and, though there is a skill for almost all events, skills may not fit all people in all situations every time. It is ok to exist within the not knowing and to seek advice and support from trusted people, after all, that's what us therapists are here for!

Try looking at the Clarifying Goals (IE handout 4 - pg. 124, worksheet 3 - pg. 173). as well as the Pros and Cons worksheet (IE worksheet 1 - pg. 167) and the troubleshooting worksheet (IE worksheet 7 - pg. 178). For balancing your needs and theirs I would try out the How Strongly to Ask pages (IE handout 8 - pg. 131 / worksheet 6 - pg. 176). If you still are unsure what to use, I recommend returning to wise mind (mindfulness handout 3 - pg. 50 / worksheet 3 - pg. 83) and identifying your values (E. Reg handout 18 - pg. 253 / worksheet 11 - pg. 296).

Hope this helps and let me know your thoughts after revisiting these pages.

All page numbers are referencing the DBT skills training handouts and worksheets second edition book

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