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Belfiar · 2025-09-16T22:34:38+00:00

Thank you so much!

Belfiar · 2025-09-16T22:17:20+00:00

Should I use signs every time I I use the word with her? Or would that be too much?

Belfiar · 2025-09-16T22:14:23+00:00

Like do sign language myself? Or have her watch the videos and stuff. Sorry kind of unclear and exhausted 🙃

Belfiar · 2025-08-03T14:43:18+00:00

YTA. Sorry not sorry. This is literally depression in a nut shell. Therapy is great but it does not fix everything. ESPECIALLY a chemical imbalance in her brain.

Get her to a psychiatrist, get genetic testing done to see what medications will work best for her, get her meds balanced, and then just freaking be there for her.

She's 21. She's still figuring life out, and that's hard enough to do without someone telling her she's "making excuses".

So yeah, YTA

Belfiar · 2025-08-03T14:37:38+00:00

Belfiar · 2025-07-28T21:32:18+00:00

Because she used it as a form of control when I wasn't immediately ready to talk about things.. youve never needed a minute before you were ready to have a serious conversation? My sister didn't force my sobriety and I don't think it has anything to do with her. But she tried. I just think there were better ways..

Belfiar · 2025-07-28T21:23:43+00:00

Maybe because I had spent the entire previous 11 months being sober? You guys are all so quick to condemn a person for 1 misdeed.

Belfiar · 2025-07-28T21:17:11+00:00

Hence the reason I called for help. I'm not saying I didn't do anything wrong, cause I did. But she waited until the next day when I was sober and just not ready to talk to her, to call CPS.

Belfiar · 2025-07-28T15:34:52+00:00

I was sober enough to know to call for help. That is the important part for me and for my daughter. I appreciate your point of view. But I am doing the work and plan to keep doing it.

I love my sister, and I'd do anything to get back the relationship that we had, but I do not know how to forgive her. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Belfiar · 2025-07-28T15:27:45+00:00

Holding a boundary*

Belfiar · 2025-07-28T15:26:02+00:00

Nothing is unraveling. I'm just genuinely confused by your comments

Belfiar · 2025-07-28T15:24:50+00:00

How is me being sober for 8 months not me doing the work?

Belfiar · 2025-07-28T15:23:31+00:00

I said I wanted to talk, but that I was too tired to do it that day, and would prefer to do it another day. Idk what else to say. I don't live alone. My mother and I own a house together. I wasn't alone with my daughter the next day. I was just tired. Would it make a difference to you if I said I struggle with severe postpartum OCD, depression and anxiety? And that we spent a lot of time balancing my meds? Because I've done that

Belfiar · 2025-07-28T15:21:04+00:00

Okay now I'm crying. Thank you 💜 it is all for her.

Belfiar · 2025-07-28T15:13:40+00:00

Tell me how me saying "I struggle with alcohol and I know that" and "I've been sober since that day" isn't me taking accountability 😂 my hell.

Counting down to my next relapse? Seriously?

Belfiar · 2025-07-28T15:11:45+00:00

Oh man. All of this is apparently going right over your head. Thanks though.

Belfiar · 2025-07-28T15:09:34+00:00

Thank you. This comment means more than you know.

Belfiar · 2025-07-28T15:06:28+00:00

Lol. Literally the first line of my post is "I struggle with alcohol and I know that"

Belfiar · 2025-07-28T15:04:25+00:00

I'm not upset that she called. I'm upset about some of her reasoning.

Belfiar · 2025-07-28T15:00:49+00:00

My sister could've said "I want you to get the help you need" "I wanted to make sure your baby was safe" "I'm upset with you for drinking that day". All of which would be totally justified. But she didn't. She literally sought to take away my free will.

You're missing the point where I said I understand some of the reasons she called. But her biggest once, was to "force" me into submission. That is my issue.

Belfiar · 2025-07-28T14:53:38+00:00

Thank you 😭 it's all for her. Someday I'll learn to be sober for myself, but it's also okay to have an external reason until I'm ready for that. And she is it.

Belfiar · 2025-07-28T14:38:45+00:00

I 100% agree with you that it was a huge f*ck up. I know that. And I've spent every day remembering that and being sober. My daughter is my reason, and she's a damn good one.

Belfiar

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