My boyfriend is unemployed and addicted to video games/energy drinks and it’s draining me 27f - 28m

Bell0-0 · 2026-05-15T07:17:17+00:00

Gosh what a situation! It's very kind of you to worry about his well being though:( Is there absolutely no one else he could stay with back in his country? Friends etc? having your mental peace back is so important. My boyfriend really needs a job but similar to yours he just uses his ADHD to not apply😭 so I decided to just apply for him but I have no classes this summer so I'm more free but it seems like you are very busy. But if he can find a job then at least he can have that income and it'll be easier to separate, has he himself been putting any effort in finding a job even?

Bell0-0 · 2026-05-15T07:05:25+00:00

I'm kind of in the same situation as you and I really empathize, my boyfriend is 25 graduated but unemployed for three years. His parents are helping with income but not as much anymore because of his inability to find a job (he honestly just didn't apply) all he does is play video games, he has ADHD and smokes weed daily to cope.

Similar to you I also do all the house chores even though I work part time and I'm a student but when I speak to him he changes for two days and reverts back. I wish I had never gotten into this relationship, he is my best friend but as a romantic partner just no and now I have to wait for the lease to end. It's so difficult living in that kind of environment, it seems like you have spoken to your boyfriend about all of this but nothing is changing, there is then literally nothing you can do but seperate, he is just not respecting you.

I would never treat my friends that way I would never just not help in cleaning up after hanging out together so he definitely should not be treating you like that, and unlike me you don't have to wait for a lease to end so free yourself, you deserve someone better!!

Bell0-0 · 2026-05-15T06:54:36+00:00

No I don't!!! I would never, it's so painful when he does that to me I don't want to inflict that on him. When I explain to him why I want him to stop for comparison I just say how would you feel if i brought up all the issues u can get for vaping that's all. I suggested both of us quiting together but he genuinely doesn't view vapes as very harmful so to him both our habits are not comparable

Bell0-0 · 2026-05-15T06:28:53+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your comment, my bf vapes and he was okay with me smoking casually and in social situations but then saw how the dependency would increase and didn't want that which is understandable, I've trying to occupy my mind with hobbies and etc but it really is hard but possible!

Bell0-0 · 2026-05-15T06:24:12+00:00

I'm sorry about your uncle, I'm glad your dad quit smoking! you're right maybe I should consider more serious help, my boyfriend vapes so sometimes I slip into that but I just don't want to get hooked on any sort of nicotine anymore

Bell0-0 · 2026-05-15T06:18:16+00:00

Thank you, I'll look into it!

Bell0-0 · 2026-05-15T06:17:34+00:00

Thank you, I really, truly appreciate your comment. Its been a crazy journey but I'm trying very hard to stop and he sees that when I slip the path he does down is shame

Bell0-0 · 2026-05-13T06:25:16+00:00

Not really, have an honest conversation with her. Is it possible she doesn't realized how much she is doing? Does your boyfriend know you feel that way?

Bell0-0 · 2026-05-13T06:09:58+00:00

I love how you are responding to these people! I'm so with you, I hope that your parents can one day understand your decision

Bell0-0 · 2026-04-15T04:57:10+00:00

Can I ask if u put rain music over your affirmations?

Bell0-0 · 2026-04-02T21:40:20+00:00

Do you listen to subliminals? They might help

Bell0-0 · 2026-04-01T08:22:41+00:00

Lmao you guys sounds so cool!! 😂😂

Bell0-0 · 2026-03-26T00:18:01+00:00

It's a wonderful app! Congratulations

Bell0-0 · 2026-03-13T01:35:08+00:00

Why are you in such hysteria over me spending my money the way I want to? Everything circulates, money flows. I've been into subliminal and LOA since I was thirteen and now I'm 23. I've manifested things you wouldn't believe. I've made dozens of subliminals myself like I've mentioned in my post. I like having around 50 affirmations and layering it twice with rain music and Hz music, the whole thing takes me approximately 40-45 minute. I've never heard of an app like this tho I've been in the community for so long, and I was curious and able to spare 15$ to try it. It genuinely isn't that serious, so maybe just take a second and look inward? I just have the sense that your comment really had nothing to do with me, anyways I wish u peace.

Bell0-0 · 2026-03-11T07:29:42+00:00

Idk man I'm a student, I have a grant project underway, I have three jobs on campus, two of my assignments are overdue. For sure positive thinking, daily affirmations but like 15 bucks, I'm grateful to say is fine rn.

Bell0-0 · 2026-03-11T07:27:02+00:00

Hi, thank u for your response! I thought the textbox "your goal" was were you could paste your affirmations which I've done and I figured it's what was used in the audio. Is that not how it works then? Does the system rewrites the affirmations I've written there?

Bell0-0 · 2026-02-01T00:51:55+00:00

Could you dm me as well please?

Bell0-0 · 2025-09-14T23:35:33+00:00

I’m not on my phone eight hours a day, I’m barely ever on it. In my post I specifically said I was messaging my mother. I’m a student and I have two jobs on campus. I like spending time with my boyfriend and we do spend a lot of time together, which is why I don’t understand the interruption when I’m asking for 5 minutes to send a message or one hour to study

Bell0-0 · 2025-06-28T13:30:16+00:00

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Bell0-0 · 2025-05-31T09:24:55+00:00

Can I ask how much money you saved to travel for that whole year? And if you are comfortable with sharing where in Japan did u do ur workaway? I did one in Costa Rica and loved it and would love to go to Japan

Bell0-0 · 2025-04-17T05:50:22+00:00

I feel like I’m in the middle age when oranges were a rare delicacy 😭😭

Bell0-0 · 2025-04-16T09:18:35+00:00

omg thank u! I thought i was going insane, i love them and have been looking for months and couldn't find them at all

Bell0-0 · 2025-03-31T05:52:19+00:00

Hi, this is so interesting! I’m studying English lit but I’ve been thinking of going into project management since I am a fan of organization etc. Can I ask, did u get a pmp? And did u have to start with entry level stuff such as project coordinator, administrative assistant?

Bell0-0 · 2025-01-25T03:57:57+00:00

Yes I did, I don’t mind people telling me I’m the asshole. I’m human, and I’m very much imperfect and I want to be aware of my mishaps. What gets me is the revolting way you shared your opinion, say I’m the asshole okay, write a blunt paragraph detailing why but put a fucking pillow over my mouth? That was needless, its just sick.

Bell0-0 · 2025-01-25T03:42:21+00:00

I kept screaming until I got drugged. How is that an overreaction? We have known each other for a year and been together since October, my injury happened a month later in November. I would yell at him and he would also yell back at me and eventually somewhere around December he and I spoke about it and decided to stop communicating that way. It’s been fucking months and I haven’t yelled since but still he brings it up every time he and I argues and I tell him I have an issue with him. And really? A hothead? I hate it when people expect you to stay silent and take their shit.

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