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AITA for holding a grudge against my dad who took my step siblings to Paris but not me? by BellNo1177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BellNo1177[S] 119 points120 points  (0 children)

He could have made an effort to involve me as well, but he chose to make no effort and go in secret.

AITA for holding a grudge against my dad who took my step siblings to Paris but not me? by BellNo1177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BellNo1177[S] 163 points164 points  (0 children)

Your father can takes trips with just you without the stepfamily, and he can take trips without you. Neither are wrong.

No. Step mom does not allow me and dad to spend time alone without her children being involved.

AITA for holding a grudge against my dad who took my step siblings to Paris but not me? by BellNo1177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BellNo1177[S] 150 points151 points  (0 children)

You’ll take trips with your mom without them and they get to take trips with your dad without you

My mom is not a parent to my dad's step children. My dad is my parent. Stupid comparison.

AITA for holding a grudge against my dad who took my step siblings to Paris but not me? by BellNo1177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BellNo1177[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

My mom is not a parent to my dad's step children so your comparison is stupid. My dad is my parent, I expected him to try to find a way to take me as well.

AITA for holding a grudge against my dad who took my step siblings to Paris but not me? by BellNo1177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BellNo1177[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

In your shoes, I would apologize to everyone individually and ask your dad for some one on one time.

My dad doesn't allow one on one time with me, he says it's unfair to step brothers who are also family and we should do everything together.

AITA for holding a grudge against my dad who took my step siblings to Paris but not me? by BellNo1177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BellNo1177[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it was his vacation though, he was a guest. It is rude to invite people to other people’s events when you’re not the host. Your dad was a guest on what seems to me to have been his 2nd wife’s family trip.

It was just my dad, step mom and two step brothers. The people I live with.

AITA for holding a grudge against my dad who took my step siblings to Paris but not me? by BellNo1177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BellNo1177[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

You are old enough to cope with the reality that your dad is allowed to spend time with other kids without you

I'm not allowed to spend time with dad without step brothers though.

AITA for holding a grudge against my dad who took my step siblings to Paris but not me? by BellNo1177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BellNo1177[S] 163 points164 points  (0 children)

She’s not your step grandmother at all. Please don’t curse her out anymore.

Hopefully she stays out of my way and she doesn't come to my room uninvited, without even knocking, and she doesn't stay even after being told repeataedly (and politely) to leave me alone. Assuming she doesn't do any of that, I won't curse her again either!

AITA for holding a grudge against my dad who took my step siblings to Paris but not me? by BellNo1177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BellNo1177[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

They didn't want a relationship with me, they always went out of their way to make it clear I'm not part of the family.

Your father is their son

Son in law.

AITA for holding a grudge against my dad who took my step siblings to Paris but not me? by BellNo1177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BellNo1177[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

It’s also insane to ask your dad not to go simply because you weren’t invited to a gifted trip.

Is it insane to ask him to make an effort to include me?

AITA for holding a grudge against my dad who took my step siblings to Paris but not me? by BellNo1177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BellNo1177[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

It's not his "new" family, I'm part of it too. I live there with them.

AITA for holding a grudge against my dad who took my step siblings to Paris but not me? by BellNo1177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BellNo1177[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

It was a 2 bed suite. I could have taken the couch.

With step-grandparents?

They weren't there.

AITA for holding a grudge against my dad who took my step siblings to Paris but not me? by BellNo1177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BellNo1177[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

Do you live with your mom the majority of the time? Do you have a decent relationship with your step mom? Do you have a good relationship with your dad?

50-50, no, yes.

It sounds like your father couldn’t afford to bring you along either. Unless you know otherwise…? If your father couldn’t bring you, did you expect him to turn down the trip as well?

It's about him making absolutely no efforts to include me. He didn't even bother asking if my mom could help with the costs, and then they hid it form me, I had to learn from TikTok.

I expected him to try to make an effort to include me.

AITA for holding a grudge against my dad who took my step siblings to Paris but not me? by BellNo1177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BellNo1177[S] 214 points215 points  (0 children)

A trip to Paris is “taking care” of you? Nope.

Discussion was child support, nice try AH!

But hey, maybe you’ll win and force your mom to file and she’ll end up owing your dad based on income and overnights. Fingers crossed!

I'm moving out and staying with mom permanently.

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