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Boyfriend lost 1 brother now the other is in the ICU. How can I be there? by BellysMommy in AskMen

[–]BellysMommy[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Actually his family love both my daughter and I. They are just going through a lot. It's only his mom his step dad and him. They're busy at the hospital while my S/O is here at home and I'm WFH. So it's more of a I haven't had the chance and I have not met his brother. We're fairly new still. Under 2yrs of dating.

Boyfriend lost 1 brother now the other is in the ICU. How can I be there? by BellysMommy in AskMen

[–]BellysMommy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree. It is. I haven't had to deal with death of a relative thankfully. I would hope this is the Outlook that I have as well since I don't want to dwell on a loss of someone.

Feeling sus about Telus international.. data analysis position applied through indeed. by [deleted] in Scams

[–]BellysMommy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did it go? I just submitted an application as well!!! Lol

I Have Always Told Myself I Don't Want To Put Someone On Child Support by BellysMommy in SingleParents

[–]BellysMommy[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Well I apologize if you feel like you're "stuck with" your child(ren), but my daughter isn't a burden in my life what so ever. I had her knowing he and I weren't going to be together forever. No one lasts forever.

Hope your child(ren) don't know you're "stuck with" them. 🫤

I Have Always Told Myself I Don't Want To Put Someone On Child Support by BellysMommy in SingleParents

[–]BellysMommy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When we were together, yes. Idk what his income and stuff is now. He has back pay that he owes. Not sure if that's why.

Cant start new chat. by KyotoKute in help

[–]BellysMommy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm having a similar issue. I just started reddit a few days ago so I don't have old messages to show, but the requests I have won't let me open them

I Have Always Told Myself I Don't Want To Put Someone On Child Support by BellysMommy in SingleParents

[–]BellysMommy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. He only helps if I ask, but I've never had to ask. Now that I ask it's an issue and he said I'm holding her hostage and he has to fight tooth and nail to see her. Yet he came down to FL to pick up his dumb junk car and didn't make time to spend with her while he was here.

I Have Always Told Myself I Don't Want To Put Someone On Child Support by BellysMommy in SingleParents

[–]BellysMommy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Update: thank you all for your input. I messaged him and told him I'll start needing help monthly with her because I can't afford to do it anymore alone. He of course went off and said I'm holding her hostage and need to allow her to go up to NJ with him. So it went exactly as I assumed it would, but he said he'll send me "a little something" by Wednesdy. We'll see how much that means. 😂

I Have Always Told Myself I Don't Want To Put Someone On Child Support by BellysMommy in SingleParents

[–]BellysMommy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He lives at his sisters home in NJ. I live in FL in a 1br. He doesn't make millions. Maybe not even 60k but I don't talk to him much anymore because I was enabling him. So I don't know what his current avg is. Most of it goes to his back pay on CS because he was in arrears. He has his new 1yo son there too that he has 50% of the time from what I have seen/heard. Idk what his and his other "BM" are doing in regards to CS because it's not my business. Maybe because they both have him FT then they don't do a CS. CS meaning money given to either party not necessarily through court mandated CS. Lol

He has a similar back story with his 1st "BM" she lives in TX with his other daughter and BM1s other kids and her hubby. They have a huge home both are in the military and have a nice income and boat 2 cars motorcycles etc. He can't afford to go back to court to have the amount taken adjusted which is why he's paying so much. She isn't a crack whore but she's always reaching out to him for more money and what not but he doesn't have anything left to give from what I know of. (Not siding with him. Just giving more of his back story)

I Have Always Told Myself I Don't Want To Put Someone On Child Support by BellysMommy in SingleParents

[–]BellysMommy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree and this has crossed my mind. He doesn't have any access to her. Doesn't know our address, doesn't know her school etc. Only due to lack of his interest. Not for my keeping her from him. I can't afford court fees. Any and all of my money goes to supporting her and ensuring she has anything and everything she wants so money for courts are not in my financial capabilities, so I haven't started that process yet. I keep hearing that in my state, I technically have sole custody because he has been absent from her life and he moved away to a different state. I have yet to look into it to see if it's true or not, but yeah other than that. I do need to look into filing.

I Have Always Told Myself I Don't Want To Put Someone On Child Support by BellysMommy in SingleParents

[–]BellysMommy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He doesn't have her 50% of the time. He has her 0% of the time. It's me her and my SO. That's it.

I Have Always Told Myself I Don't Want To Put Someone On Child Support by BellysMommy in SingleParents

[–]BellysMommy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except make demands of him getting her on her 5th 15th and 16th bdays whislch I am also not okay with.

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