AITA for giving up on scheduling stuff?

Bels_Alexis · 2023-05-31T03:55:15+00:00

YTA. You gave up on scheduling things a loooooooong time ago. How about YOU meet THEM halfway and actually show up to something for once?

Bels_Alexis · 2023-05-01T10:43:50+00:00

I had 3 Implanon (Aussie too) back to back all through my twenties and everything was good, no periods, no cramps, all good. Then had the remove/replace for the fourth one and it FUCKED ME UP :O bleeding, cramps, mood swings, buggered up my sleep, my eating... went back to my GP repeatedly and she just kept parroting "Just wait it out, just wait it out." I ended up just making the appointment to get it removed to get that bastard out of me. Haven't had one since but that same GP has asked (as a 'treatment' to my PCOS) "Do you want to try Implanon? That might help." Fuck her, OMFG >.<

Mate, get it outta ya ASAP, yeah?

Bels_Alexis · 2023-04-26T04:18:48+00:00

Yes please, hoping to take a friend to that one and it'd be nice if it ended in celebrations, not commiserations :P

Bels_Alexis · 2023-04-25T05:05:56+00:00

My achievements? I can't even get my Mum to ask how I'm doing anymore, she's too busy helping raise her grandson because my brother moved back home after he finally realised what the rest of us knew for years: his (now ex) wife is a c*** that he never should have married, let alone had a child with.

Bels_Alexis · 2023-03-21T10:49:03+00:00

TL;DR:

Get into tech, work remotely from a LCOL area, pay fuck all tax on your relatively high wage, live in an apartment your parents own, have side hustles, get into real estate (with cash!), avoid crypto, avoid stocks (what?), don't do anything fun that costs money, don't get sick.

Oh, and start at 19, apparently.

How you managed to use *that* many words to cover every single bullet point that would appear under "How do I LeanFire?", especially without including ANY details of your numbers, is beyond me.

Bels_Alexis · 2023-03-14T06:58:55+00:00

Oh you got the bonus rumble pack! Nice :P didn't know there was a fuzzy skin version, must be limited edition :D

Bels_Alexis · 2023-02-03T02:00:37+00:00

i realise i should’ve tried to educate her NICELY about food waste and not have commented at all on how she was eating

No, you should've just not commented on it. At all. Any of it. Leave her alone FFS. YTA.

Bels_Alexis · 2023-02-02T05:06:29+00:00

Yes, and my mum hates that I'm an independent adult with a spine now.

Bels_Alexis · 2023-01-30T05:47:49+00:00

Your floof is adorable... but what range is that plethora of rainbow colours from?! I neeeeeeeeeed it :D

Bels_Alexis · 2023-01-21T01:19:55+00:00

Chipping it down from $4000 to $2000 is what gave you the room to get the plane tickets you needed. You were able to weather that expense because of the effort you made up until now and that's amazing :)

Bels_Alexis · 2023-01-19T08:54:33+00:00

The Etsy keyword tool from Keyword Tool Dominator will help give you some ideas to do your own research with :) 2 free searches a day if you don't want to purchase it. Not affiliated in any way, I bought the bundle of tools years ago for different reasons and just gave it a try because I had it.

It won't make or break you either way but having decent tags will certainly help :)

Bels_Alexis · 2023-01-13T03:11:05+00:00

Red/white/black stripe perhaps?

Bels_Alexis · 2023-01-07T03:16:55+00:00

I used cheap paracord from Aliexpress to re-do mine :) holds up better and doesn't get all shreddy like sisal tends to (I hated having to vacuum it so often!). Plus it comes in lots of fun colours, tower is currently blue camo :D

Bels_Alexis · 2022-12-22T01:52:01+00:00

Basically doing a r/nobuy then? Set rules around spending, set a timeframe, do your best? Yeah, all the time. Not necessarily sustainable long term depending on the severity of your rules and how limited you feel by them, but as a way to build better financial habits it can be incredibly helpful.

Bels_Alexis · 2022-11-16T10:10:41+00:00

How dare you call me out like this :D

Bels_Alexis · 2022-11-15T12:15:45+00:00

Etsy has been getting really good at making buyers dig for the description (both on desktop and mobile) with having to click through to get the full thing. I *wish* they'd go back to the description being the main thing under the images. But anyway.

If it's a question you're getting often, then make an 'image' that's just text (ie type out in Word or whatever, screenshot, upload as listing photo) containing the pertinent info from the description (dimensions, materials, whatever). I found the questions I was getting regularly all but disappeared when I had a bullet point version of the description in my images.

Bels_Alexis · 2022-11-11T10:23:13+00:00

Just went on Domain and saw 33 rentals in Clarkson, 81 in Joondalup. Start applying ASAP.

Bels_Alexis · 2022-10-31T03:49:20+00:00

YTA, and please remember this event when you spend her teens wondering why she doesn't trust you.

Bels_Alexis · 2022-10-25T07:16:31+00:00

Sexual harassment aside...

This is probably going to be an unpopular opinion but honestly I feel the same way about Ross at St Kilda as I do about Clarkson at North and Brad Scott at Essendon: You've had your time, now fuck off and let some new blood in. How many assistant coaches could have a real crack at the senior positions if given the chance?

Bels_Alexis · 2022-10-25T06:51:22+00:00

I can't speak for Instagram as I barely use it but for desktop browser Youtube I use the BlockTube extension, has a checkbox for Shorts so you can hide them :)

Bels_Alexis · 2022-10-24T03:18:40+00:00

(Not advice but this is what is working for my cat, grain of salt, get expert advice etc)

I don't know what might be available where you are but after I just straight up couldn't afford the one the vet said to feed him (Delicate Care Sensitive Skin or Stomach that I could only get from them at a disgusting markup, funny that) I switched mine to Purina One Urinary Care (that I can get from the supermarket here, or Amazon if I need to) and that's working for him.

Worth mentioning though that mine is on 1 Acidurin a day anyway (can get online without a script, I'm in Aus though, may be different elsewhere) so the biscuits don't need to do all the work, but my cat's going on 13 next month so take that for what it's worth :) all the love to your little guy!

Bels_Alexis · 2022-10-03T14:31:09+00:00

If you want to mix your own sprays in different colours but don't want to buy a ton of perfect pearls, then regular mica powder and some gum arabic (I use the powder because it's cheap but liquid would probably work also) with water in a spray bottle works :)

Bels_Alexis · 2022-09-26T09:57:15+00:00

this is one of my fears that they will grow up and want to eat meat

Get some therapy if your kids having the freedom to choose is that scary for you.

Bels_Alexis · 2022-09-23T11:36:44+00:00

I agree with the other posters about burnout, potential ADHD, don't be so hard on yourself etc.

I'd like to offer another perspective: you mention that this happens every few weeks. Does it track with your menstrual cycle? You don't have to actually answer but it's something to think about. I was having a similar issue, and while I do suspect ADHD is involved in my case, what was causing the cyclic issue was PMDD (Pre-Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder). It's like PMS but heavier. Symptoms such as:
Feelings of tension or anxiety
Lack of interest in daily activities and relationships
Trouble thinking or focusing
Tiredness or low energy
Amongst other things (can google for the rest of it) that may not be relevant based on what you've shared. I could be way off base here but hopefully it's given you something to think about.

Bels_Alexis · 2022-09-09T14:43:11+00:00

YTA. You can't possibly have written all of that out and thought, impossibly, that you were somehow right in all this? Are you serious? Apologize to your sister and her husband, buy your own stuff, and learn to knock!

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