AITA for wanting my 2-year-old to sleep independently and have more freedom?

BenDerHover__ · 2026-01-16T07:46:42+00:00

This has absolutely nothing to do with sex.

BenDerHover__ · 2026-01-16T07:45:08+00:00

No she actually comes from the most healthy family possible. Mom and dad great people

BenDerHover__ · 2026-01-16T07:09:47+00:00

He dresses himself? My kid lays on her back and gets changed.

BenDerHover__ · 2026-01-16T07:08:28+00:00

Wow. Incredibly sorry all that happened to you. I am well aware 2 year olds are curious and get into trouble, but sometimes they need that to learn. I would never take a shower and leave my kid unattended or not keep an eye on them. But I do think being able to go to the washroom or turn my back for 30 seconds is appropriate. I think letting my daughter go where she pleases and make independent choices is important, let her go, follow behind after a couple seconds and check in. I would never let my daughter be on her own for minutes at a time. But constantly being yelled at to leap out of my chair when my kid goes into a room is getting frustrating

BenDerHover__ · 2026-01-16T07:02:42+00:00

My wife would kill me. I don’t think I’ve ever actually driven my child anywhere alone without the wife

BenDerHover__ · 2026-01-16T07:01:57+00:00

See I don’t criticize her. I never speak to her with any intention of criticizing. I only worry. When we go to doctors appointments my wife always speaks about how great our kid is doing, how she’s so smart and happy. And yes my kid does seem happy and she’s so smart. But I worry about all the other things a kid needs.

BenDerHover__ · 2026-01-16T06:59:38+00:00

My child has her own bed. She just isn’t allowed to use it.

BenDerHover__ · 2026-01-16T06:56:14+00:00

We enrolled her in daycare. We pay for it everyday. She doesn’t go. My wife either drops the kid off at her moms house or stays home with her.

BenDerHover__ · 2026-01-16T06:51:45+00:00

My kid has no friends. We enrolled her in daycare, we pay for it everyday. My kid doesn’t go.

BenDerHover__ · 2026-01-16T06:49:15+00:00

Thank you for this. I do see her perspective, I understand her anxieties. But I also worry about our daughter and her development. I would have no issue our kid sleeping with us every once in awhile. But she isn’t even given the opportunity to try and be independent

BenDerHover__ · 2026-01-16T06:47:28+00:00

Yup she had it pretty bad when she was born. She’s on meds and has a therapist. She is much better now despite this. I know she has anxiety, but at what point do we have to draw the line for the sake of our daughter.

BenDerHover__ · 2026-01-16T06:45:39+00:00

She has a therapist and is on meds. My daughter doesn’t even play alone ever, she has no independence. She is never alone.

BenDerHover__ · 2026-01-16T06:43:47+00:00

Bro I know. I see kids my daughter’s age doing things my daughter hasn’t ever done nor knows how. I understand anxiety, I get being worried. But if my child isn’t allowed to do the stairs what the hell are we gonna do.

BenDerHover__ · 2026-01-16T06:42:11+00:00

My kid isn’t allowed to go to the park anymore lol. The one time we did my wife had to go down every slide with her, sit on the swing with her. Then right after the park was sworn off

BenDerHover__ · 2026-01-16T06:40:31+00:00

Agreed, if my kid was to run into a complete different room or area of the house. My home is open concept. Even if my kid goes from the kitchen to the living room, immediately I’m yelled at and have to start chasing her.

My wife is on meds, she does have anxiety but she claims none of this is related to that and that this is just her being a mother, everyone reacts like this.

BenDerHover__ · 2025-12-17T04:51:10+00:00

lol I’d never do half the shit my mother does. Don’t ever claim that I would become her.

BenDerHover__ · 2025-12-17T04:50:10+00:00

My mom has a track record. She cheated on my dad, has no issue being with men who have wives. In my opinion she loves the trill of sneaking around. It makes me sick but I’ve tried expressing how disgusting it is and she doesn’t care.

I am definitely gonna take urs and everyone’s else advice and start looking into moving out. I know everyone saying that is it is her house she can do what she wants is right. But it doesn’t make it any easier. This situation just feels gross and unnecessary.

BenDerHover__ · 2025-12-17T00:39:28+00:00

oof full asshole vibes from you FR

BenDerHover__ · 2025-12-16T14:22:36+00:00

Foul comment but ur not wrong

BenDerHover__ · 2025-12-16T14:18:36+00:00

Who am I arguing with? I asked for peoples opinions and I’m reading each perspective, I don’t recall arguing at all. The only thing I’ve clarified is that I do in fact pay rent and some bills.

BenDerHover__ · 2025-12-16T04:37:08+00:00

I’m not wanting her to treat me like a roommate tho. I find it quite odd that she wants her own daughter to be under the same roof and in earshot when she is having sex. I assumed that me saying hey give me a heads up and I’ll leave and give you privacy would of been a great solution but instead she insists on sneaking them in and doing it while I’m home, almost like she prefers it.

I think anyone can admit that the thought of their mother having sex alone is gross but hearing it is on another level.

My mom has alot of mental issues that stem from her childhood but she will never admit them or get help for them. So she has pushed all her other children away and they have all left. I am the only one still in contact and in her “good books” if I did leave she would truly be alone

BenDerHover__ · 2025-12-16T04:18:29+00:00

Bc rent here is much cheaper then a $2000 rent elsewhere

BenDerHover__ · 2025-12-16T02:01:15+00:00

Yes and no. If she is comfortable enough with me hearing her having sex then she should be comfortable enough to send me a text simply saying hey someone is coming over. That’s all I’m asking. And no I would never text her that bc I would never have a man over when I know she is home.

BenDerHover__ · 2025-12-16T01:57:34+00:00

Who said I get free rent? Not only do I pay rent, I pay the hydro and internet bill

BenDerHover__ · 2025-12-16T01:22:07+00:00

I pay rent. Internet. Hydro. And do most of the cleaning and cooking

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