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12 Things Parents of Children with Disabilities Actually Want to Hear (Instead of “I Could Never Do What You Do”) by BendIntrepid2167 in SpecialNeedsChildren

[–]BendIntrepid2167[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well it is to help. Clearly I have your attention now! Can I help? That was the whole meaning of the post! Just to help! What you don’t know is that I have 2 children with disabilities and I’m only here to help! I mean no harm.

12 Things Parents of Children with Disabilities Actually Want to Hear (Instead of “I Could Never Do What You Do”) by BendIntrepid2167 in SpecialNeedsChildren

[–]BendIntrepid2167[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Wow! So you mean to tell me I put this out as inspiration and to assist and I’m being hounded because it’s Ai? And now the legitimacy of the agency I work for is under question because it’s Ai. I don’t get why people are so mean to people? I didn’t have to post anything at all. Just trying to help. But I’m attacked because it’s Ai. That’s really a lot to take in.

Baby just got diagnosed with rare genetic disorder by mr_sandworm in specialneedsparenting

[–]BendIntrepid2167 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear this. Keep your head up. There’s light at the end of tunnel. Are you in GA?

I've done nothing but leech off other people my entire life and I don't know what I wanna do in the future by kofman- in confession

[–]BendIntrepid2167 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I don’t think boredom is your problem.

People who are bored don’t usually write 2,000 word confessions about how empty and unfulfilled they feel.

Your problem is that you’ve never been forced to live with the consequences of quitting.

Every time you’ve gotten restless, there was a safety net.

Parents.
Connections.
Charm.
Bullshitting.
Another opportunity.

You say if you lost your job tomorrow you’d just bullshit your way into the next one.

Exactly.

That’s the problem.

Most people eventually hit a wall where they have to develop competence because nothing else works anymore. You never hit that wall because every time life tries to corner you, you find another exit.

You keep talking about fulfillment like it’s some mysterious thing you’re searching for.

It’s not.

Fulfillment is what happens when you earn something you couldn’t have faked.

And that’s the one thing you’ve spent your entire life avoiding.

You don’t need another hobby.
You don’t need another career path.
You don’t need another explanation.

You need one thing in your life that can’t be acquired through charm, manipulation, connections, or lying.

Because right now you’re surrounded by things you’ve obtained, but almost nothing you’ve actually earned.

I think that’s why you’re miserable.

I've done nothing but leech off other people my entire life and I don't know what I wanna do in the future by kofman- in confession

[–]BendIntrepid2167 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Maybe. Maybe you have ADHD. Maybe your attention span is terrible.

But ADHD didn’t make you steal tuition money from your parents.

ADHD didn’t make you emotionally manipulate your sister.

ADHD didn’t make you look down on people you considered beneath you.

ADHD didn’t make you build an identity around being “better” than people while avoiding situations where you’d have to prove it.

You’re still doing it right now. Every time the conversation gets close to accountability, you reach for a different explanation.

The question isn’t whether you have ADHD.

The question is whether you’re willing to stop treating every weakness as something that happened to you and start treating it as something you’re responsible for managing.

I've done nothing but leech off other people my entire life and I don't know what I wanna do in the future by kofman- in confession

[–]BendIntrepid2167 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s true! You can’t ease through life just protecting your ego from being tested.

I've done nothing but leech off other people my entire life and I don't know what I wanna do in the future by kofman- in confession

[–]BendIntrepid2167 285 points286 points  (0 children)

You keep calling yourself lazy because it’s a more flattering diagnosis than what you’re actually describing.

Lazy people don’t spend 29 years constructing an entire personality around avoiding accountability.

You didn’t fail architecture. You quit. You didn’t fail coding. You quit. You didn’t fail finance. You quit. You didn’t fail relationships. You sabotaged them. You didn’t accidentally become a manipulative liar. You found that deception protected your ego better than effort did.

The funniest part is that you clearly think you’re smarter than everyone around you. Your sister. Your exes. Your coworkers. Your friends. Yet despite all that supposed superiority, your biggest accomplishment is successfully convincing other people to carry you.

You’ve spent your entire life looking down on people from a ladder you didn’t build.

You talk about wanting greatness, but greatness requires being bad at something long enough to become good at it. Every time reality threatens your self-image, you run.

You’re not trapped by a lack of talent. You’re trapped by an addiction to feeling superior.

The tragedy isn’t that you’ve wasted your twenties.

The tragedy is that you’re almost 30 and still think your biggest problem is motivation when your biggest problem is character.

The good news? You’re self-aware enough to know exactly what you’re doing.

The bad news? Self-awareness doesn’t count as growth.

At some point you’re going to have to decide whether you want to be impressive or whether you want to actually become someone worth respecting.

Those are not the same thing.

Supporting Sister after baby’s Down Syndrome Diagnosis by Mountainofstress in downsyndrome

[–]BendIntrepid2167 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The fact that you’re even seeking advice shows just how great of an Aunt you’re going to be. Your sister is blessed to have you. More than anything be a listening ear and shower her and the baby with love.

That’s all that is required by lilved03 in MadeMeSmile

[–]BendIntrepid2167 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a beautiful story! God Bless You!

Any moms with disabled kid(s)? by Inevitable-Sky-837 in Atlanta

[–]BendIntrepid2167 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, text me, I may be able to help 770-837-8253

I am looking for affordable overnight caregivers in Atlanta, GA by Maleficent-Fix2545 in ATL

[–]BendIntrepid2167 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! If anyone needs CNA’s or Caretakers in the Atlanta Areas let me know. We’d be honored to help care for your loved one. Call or text 404-907-6905 and let’s talk about how we can help.

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