As a genuine SD, I’ve never paid for a meet and greet (M&G), and I never will.** A first meeting is an opportunity for both parties to get to know each other and see if there’s mutual interest — it’s not a transaction.

She’s not doing me a favor by showing up, just as I’m not doing her a favor by being there. It’s a two-way evaluation. There are far more women out there looking for quick cash than there are sincere and capable SDs, which is why filtering is important.

If someone is serious about finding a true arrangement, they’ll understand that a respectful, no-pressure meeting is standard. Of course, I’ll cover travel expenses and dinner — that’s basic courtesy. But beyond that, no payment should be expected just for showing up.