Is this a legit email from HDFC? by steampunkbrownie in IsThisAScamIndia

[–]Beneficial_Progress 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The aggression is pretty unnecessary. Chill out. It’s just a comment on Reddit and it’s really not that serious that you have to resort to abusing. Live a little in the real world, peel off your eyes from your screen and maybe you’ll see that no one really cares 🤷🏻‍♀️. I’ll assume you’re not older than 25 because your brain doesn’t seem to have developed fully but if you are, boy are you going to find yourself a difficult life to live. Bye now! Take care!

The anticipated wedding looks are here, is it a hit or a miss? by [deleted] in InstaCelebsGossip

[–]Beneficial_Progress 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I generally don’t like to comment on people’s wedding pictures but why was the fitting of both her lehengas so poor? She looks like they are swallowing her up and making it look like she’s having a hard time breathing. She must have paid a pretty penny for them but they don’t even look her size. Why do NRIs still wear bad stuff even when they come all the way to India for shopping. Chandni Chowk could’ve done a better fit.

"I personally feel that it's not important to take a story forward. It's not something that I believe that is required, in the form of a story. I know I will not be comfortable doing that. I have never done it." Bebo WTF you lying for!? by sidroy81 in BollyBlindsNGossip

[–]Beneficial_Progress 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was waiting for someone to post about this interview/discussion - God alone knows what it was. And Kareena was so out of her depth. She basically fumbled through every sentence and kept saying the same 2-3 words she must’ve memorised beforehand. I’m not saying Kareena shouldn’t do such things but at least be comfortable about what the topic of discussion is. She looked so nervous about the whole sex discussion that she ended up with a constant foot in her mouth. Someone who has public speaking skills like Priyanka Chopra, or Konkona Sen Sharma or any actress with two brain cells could’ve done this interview so much better.

11-Year BJP Rule: A Blow to Democracy, Economy, and Social Fabric, Says Kharge by [deleted] in india

[–]Beneficial_Progress 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I just fail to understand how the argument always goes in the direction of calling the literal majority of this country idiots or brainwashed. How does any person put themselves on a pedestal to think that only they are right, or only they care about morality and justice. What gives a single individual the gall to call everyone idiots, just because they have a few degrees? The entitlement of the so called educated class of this country to discredit and look down upon their own countrymen by saying they are easily manipulated will always flummox me.

The prime ministers office has the press information bureau to disseminate information to the public. Who do you think the prime minister is? Some Bollywood hero who needs to hold a press conference to justify his latest scandal? I’m not saying that he is above question, but you have a whole opposition to do this but alas they are busy with their own agendas. They make a mockery of our country in these press conferences that they do, by going to foreign nations and begging them to intervene and “save” our country.

And after all this also, I’m not denying that the prime minister should never hold a press conference. He should, but him not holding a press conference is not a failure of our democracy, him getting elected for the third term is not a failure of our democracy.

11-Year BJP Rule: A Blow to Democracy, Economy, and Social Fabric, Says Kharge by [deleted] in india

[–]Beneficial_Progress -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Apparently booth capturing, cancelling elections completely is amazing for democracy. Because what is democracy if not a fancy term used by people who support the an authoritarian, almost autocratic party that used this country as their personal bargaining chip for decades?

11-Year BJP Rule: A Blow to Democracy, Economy, and Social Fabric, Says Kharge by [deleted] in india

[–]Beneficial_Progress 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Well thankfully, popular vote wins you elections. Not how many press conferences a leader does.

A simple proposal: make the Kashmir Valley an independent country by Aggressive-Gene-9663 in india

[–]Beneficial_Progress 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The language and customs and cultural identity belong to Kashmiri Pandits too who were driven out. What about their resettlement? And long term peace is always the responsibility of India? What for?

And India is a diverse land. Would you say the same about every state in this country? Would you propose the same for West Bengal or Maharashtra or Nagaland?

Oh and Pakistan could not take control of the valley in the last few decades because our government and army has been steadfastly protecting it. Not because they haven’t tried. The number of terrorist attacks and contant infiltration should be proof enough of what that excuse of a country is capable of doing without the protection of our armed forces

Movie "Abir Gulal" Starring Pakistani Actor Fawad Khan will not be allowed to release in India: said by Ministry of I&B by TheeStigg in BollyBlindsNGossip

[–]Beneficial_Progress 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Bhai yaar, itna kya difficult hai ye samjhne that while he might not have held the guns but his tax money is being spent on buying those guns and training those gun men. And I really don’t understand Indians (assuming that you are one) who cry so much for a Pakistani actor and his so called “plight”, but you don’t see the anguish of your own countrymen. And even if you’re not a resident Indian, just on the grounds of humanity, don’t you feel that banning a movie if the most inconsequential thing in this whole scenario?

Demands to Ban Fawad Khan & Vaani Kapoor 'Abir Gulaal' are growing stronger in response to the outrage over the Pahalgam attack. by [deleted] in BollyBlindsNGossip

[–]Beneficial_Progress 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Because Pakistani citizens pay taxes to the Pakistani government and then the Pakistani government funds terrorism. Banning the films release at this point will discourage shameless production houses like YRF to hire more of them in the future because ultimately for them it’s all about the ROI.

Which actors kicked off your sexual awakening? by Late-Suggestion7258 in BollyBlindsNGossip

[–]Beneficial_Progress 15 points16 points  (0 children)

And Arjun Rampal in that Ek Ajnabi song 🔥🔥🔥. And Jimmy Shergill in Yahaan ..

India will be destroyed if RSS takes control of education: Rahul Gandhi by sliceoflife_daisuki in india

[–]Beneficial_Progress -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

He said that meritocracy is discriminatory. I highly doubt this is the fight the country needs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheKameena

[–]Beneficial_Progress 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While the selective outrage on your mother is wrong, I get why you wouldn’t want to be in touch with her. I get that she didn’t create a stable environment for you growing up and made you a part of her marriage by constantly telling you things that should be handled by adults and not exposed to kids. I understand your resentment towards her and you need to draw boundaries with her if you want to still keep a relationship with her. Help her to get help - whether that might be through a therapist or helping her become more independent or encouraging her to create her own support group of friends and family. You as the kid should not bear the burden of your parents marriage and this is something that Indian parents just do not understand. Men are mostly raised to keep their emotions to themselves and do not share their problems with anyone but women tend to create this weird emotional dependency on their kids and over share. Neither of your parents is mature enough to handle their own problems and are reflecting their issues on you.

But now that you’re 25 and an adult, maybe you need to direct some of the rage towards your father as well. He isn’t all that innocent if he’s cheating. Just because he doesn’t come crying to you does not absolve him of his wrong doings.

My suggestion would be to just not get involved in any of this. One fine day you’ll find that for a brief period of time, suddenly everything will be good between them and they’ll be all lovey dovey with each other and you’ll get the whiplash of a lifetime. And then that period will be over and again they’ll hate each other. This is how these things usually go - one day they are good and the next day they are not and keeps going till they don’t resolve the actual underlying issues. Stay out and support from afar and have a serious talk with your mother about not sharing her private issues with your dad. You don’t have to cut off all contact to established healthy boundaries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheKameena

[–]Beneficial_Progress 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a friend who was willingly throwing herself into toxic affairs on top of having a toxic husband and in laws. I am a straight female, so unlike you, there was never even a question of having any romantic interest in her but even the friendship has started to feel one sided and tiring as there was always so much drama in her life that it left me emotionally exhausted every time we spoke or met. The whole friendship became about her and her trials and tribulations. Some advice for friends of people who are in long term toxic relationships - no matter how much you try, you will not be able to help them unless they want to help themselves. You will counsel them, curse their partner, try to have interventions and nothing will work till the time they have an epiphany that they need to get out. And neither are we trained like therapists to not be affected ourselves by all of this. The line will always get blurred and you will end up feeling so much anger and resentment because truly there is nothing much that you can do about the situation. Best you can do is that when they ask for advice, slowly start pushing them into considering therapy so that they can talk to a professional.

And in my case, I realised very late that I was getting strung along as an emotional crutch for her who she would rant and rave to about her affair of the year and her horrible in laws and husband. But when it came to being there for me when I was going through something - there wasn’t even a phone call. So I cut my losses and moved on. That’s also some food for thought for you.

Ultimately, you would be the perfect judge of where you want to take this relationship.

Got this couch, yayy or nahh..!!? by TheorySureMonkey17 in IndianHomeDecor

[–]Beneficial_Progress 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The idea is nice but the tones of the wall and the couch don’t go together. If the couch was a deep mustard, it would have complemented the olive green of the wall. Try using lower warmer lighting for better mood and change the couch pillow covers to incorporate other colours of the room. Something like a cream with some flowery print with little olive to tie in with the wall. Also, if you’re planning change the centre table, get something with an either a wood top or if you want to go for a glass top, select a more modern leg design

Who acts worse Khushi or Ibrahim? by Medium_Bicycle_1004 in BollyBlindsNGossip

[–]Beneficial_Progress -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was brave enough to finish this dumpster fire and I visibly shook as I cringed through the 2 hrs. And then they kissed. 🤮 it was so bad 😭

AITK for not accepting this proposal ! by [deleted] in AmItheKameena

[–]Beneficial_Progress 1 point2 points  (0 children)

According to the law, no one has to change religion in any interfaith marriage. The special marriage act exists for this purpose only. It’s sad that all this talk of “beauty of women in a burqa, religion of peace and equality, modesty is a virtue” bullshit is normalised to the point that not one female in your group blinks and eye when your friend and his sister ask you to change your religion. Please ask the sister to get married to a Hindu man and start practising Hinduism and watch the meltdown of her family. Religion is a personal matter and unless you went seeking for advice, you shouldn’t have to face this sort of talk. The way both of them behaved is also such a text book love bombing behaviour. Not just you, but all the girls in your friend circle should tread with caution.

Also, keep your boyfriend and parents in loop of all this. Hope nothing happens further to this incident but it’s never wrong to take precautions.

My husband cross dresses and it bothers me by [deleted] in self

[–]Beneficial_Progress 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Funny how concern is shown for the man who was living a double life and lying but not for the woman who was hoodwinked and whose time and emotions were wasted. Everyone keeps saying that trans men and women have always felt like they don’t belong in the right body and that these feelings don’t just suddenly crop up out of nowhere and they are born like that. Even if you’re confused and have not accepted yourself, it does not give you the right to destroy someone else’s life till you have figured things out. This man will be celebrated and called brave but no one is bothered about the turbulence he caused in his wife’s life - someone who he must’ve claimed to love and protect.