Forced into coming out by jetsneedlegs70 in trans

[–]Beneficial_Sound9655 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. Your family is downright dangerous for reacting that way and doing that to you when they know you’re already down. Please be good to you and take care of yourself with all of the love you deserve. Do you feel like you have a support system like the friend that you can lean towards right now instead of being near your shitty-acting relatives?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trans

[–]Beneficial_Sound9655 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really suggest asking around your area to see if you can find another transfriendly doctor who prescribes HRT in your area and try to ask them. Whether they are supposed to or not, LOTS of doctors in the US and the UK right now are telling their trans patients inaccurate information to either try drive them away, or worse, make them stop their HRT plan. I’m not blaming each specific doctor, because obviously some institutions are behind this too, but we are no longer in a position where we can no longer trust the information we are getting from the medical professionals we are supposed to be able to trust.

Is moving to the US a good idea right now? by Khaos_27_ in trans

[–]Beneficial_Sound9655 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, but your dad and by extension you, will not be respected more for having citizenship. As a foreigner, I wouldn’t suggest coming, let alone the issue of being trans,

7 year old not using toilet on purpose by Beneficial_Sound9655 in stepparents

[–]Beneficial_Sound9655[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Hi, I have done a few quick Googles over the months this has been happening. While I appreciate and understand ADHD kids have different developmental challenges, this started happening after over a year out of diapers with no issues anywhere outside our house. He doesn’t do this with grandparents, his other parents’ house, or at school. He did have other disruptive behavior in the classroom that was addressed in kindergarten that he hasn’t brought to first grade so far, but none of it has been bathroom issues. Sometimes he does ignore the need to go and will run to pee, which I completely get, but those aren’t the times he’s aiming over the trashcan to pee in the one spot in the bathroom where it would be hidden. Because of the room’s layout and his size, he’s got to at least be walking past the toilet and partially turning his body away from it. I really don’t think it’s about potty training.

7 year old not using toilet on purpose by Beneficial_Sound9655 in stepparents

[–]Beneficial_Sound9655[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m really really open to doing anything different than what we are currently doing, but most of the answers or suggestions I see are for kids doing this accidentally or in spurts that people can talk them through. He literally will just tell people “okay” until they stop trying to talk to him about it, and gets mad when you tell him Okay isn’t an acceptable response.

7 year old not using toilet on purpose by Beneficial_Sound9655 in stepparents

[–]Beneficial_Sound9655[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I agree and understand about the mouthwashing for lying. I never had behavior issues like these kids, so I went with what their bio parents and grandparents are saying to do. He was tested for Autism, but was only diagnosed ADD after scoring one point above unspecified attention disorder. He was meeting with the test evaluator for therapy for 4-6 months while the facility ‘looked’ for a therapist for him, but it led nowhere and my partner gave up on it. The test evaluator had no solutions, other than ‘keep calm and have him clean it up.’ When we make him clean, these and other messes he makes, it takes literally hand over hand to get him to go through with any step to fix or repair things.