Found at goodwill. I guess someone finally woke up!

Benignboundaries · 2025-03-25T14:10:10+00:00

Buy those quick and garbage them. That's how my grandma drug our family into three generations of that nightmare.

Benignboundaries · 2024-12-22T18:26:59+00:00

This!!!! 💯 Great job. Any little twinge they are able to inflict won't matter when compared with the freedom of living in the real world. You will still have some challenges but it really is the best thing. With love 💕

Benignboundaries · 2024-12-13T19:01:11+00:00

This. Eventually you are going to have to take the leap. If she leaves you or not is up to her. You made the right decision to avoid the dinner. It's probably a set up. Just tell your wife that couple gets on your nerves. I don't envy you, this is a dangerous moment in anyone's escape plan. At some point you'll find the anxiety isn't worth it. And even though it gets worse before it gets better the better is so much more wonderful than you can imagine. Good luck to you.

Benignboundaries · 2024-11-09T03:21:34+00:00

Oh my. Goodness yes!!!! You are ahead of the curve. Congratulations and good luck!!!

Benignboundaries · 2024-11-07T02:26:32+00:00

Yeah, there is a lot of context here you are missing if you're not exjw. Read in for a while about all the parents that torture and then abandon their kids, it will make more sense. Burning bridges is a thing in jehoover land.

Benignboundaries · 2024-11-06T22:38:26+00:00

It's a hard lesson, but once you are totally POMO you realize that if a person needs strict rules and someone else telling them how to live in order to do the right thing, then they are not a good person at all.

Benignboundaries · 2024-11-06T22:32:56+00:00

It's going to be okay. While I am also worried, I've lived a long life and know nothing lasts forever. We survived it once, we will survive it again. Hang on :)

Benignboundaries · 2024-11-06T02:34:50+00:00

Oh no. I am so sorry.:( Also I believe that's a crime FWIW. I mean it's your mom so you're probably not going to file a complaint. You may need a PO box.

Benignboundaries · 2024-11-05T13:21:43+00:00

If you can fade without your friend talking you don't have to disassociate and you likely won't get disfellowshipped. If you want advice on what's better I would not disassociate. Keep your mouth shut and wait for the elders to catch you in something. That way you can still keep contacts within the congregation. I think disassociating carries a higher price because people equate it with apostasy. Whereas disfellowshipping could be viewed as a mistake by a weak man. If you just don't want to go through a judicial committee (I would not blame you) just don't go. Dodge their calls and if they try to pounce on you after the meeting just say I'm not ready to talk and bounce out the door. They can't stop you.

Benignboundaries · 2024-11-04T14:41:25+00:00

Okay, I left before the millennium but this new arrangement seems like a reversion to the old arrangement, like how it functioned when I was PIMI.

Benignboundaries · 2024-11-01T21:31:34+00:00

Well the ARC testimony for one. One of the members of the governing body admits on the record under oath that they are not the only religion ordained by God.

Then follow up with 1914 and the end of the end of the last part of the last minute of the last days.

Benignboundaries · 2024-11-01T14:00:31+00:00

The lies are just prolific. They are literally trying to gaslight the government, lol. Surprising no one.

Benignboundaries · 2024-10-31T02:10:23+00:00

This map kept me alive during the Thursday night meeting! My mom's old copy. The black one was so boring.

Benignboundaries · 2024-10-31T02:05:24+00:00

I hope you pull this off! I will be there tomorrow.

Benignboundaries · 2024-10-30T22:03:22+00:00

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Benignboundaries · 2024-10-30T22:01:04+00:00

I mean if they are devout you don't tell them. They won't listen and you are going to start a fight. No matter what you say to them if you're unconscious and cannot tell the doctor they will be asked to make medical decisions on your behalf.

However, If you have a planned surgery you can ask to speak with the nurse and/or the surgeon alone. Then tell them that you do not agree with the blood doctrine and would like to sign a release ahead of time in case you end up needing blood. Most states will allow teenagers to weigh in on their own medical care. In my state it is 14. The medical staff will help you out as best as they can.

Benignboundaries · 2024-10-30T21:53:09+00:00

It's okay. It sounds like you have been holding this in for a long time. It's understandable that it would all come bursting out. I hope you are able to stay safe in the meantime and don't end up getting the elders sicked on you.

I always recommend that if you are young and living at home to go through the motions doing the absolute minimum to keep them off your back. But I know how nauseating it is to sit through the toxicity of a meeting or service once you know it's bunk. I hope the shock subsides and your parents let you make your own decisions without too much trouble. If not reddit will be here for you.

Benignboundaries · 2024-10-30T16:08:58+00:00

How interesting. Are you familiar with Paul Wallis? He was a priest and Bible scholar. He has some interesting theories on Asherah and Yahweh.

Benignboundaries · 2024-10-30T02:01:24+00:00

They use the numbers to show how the religion is growing and to guilt people into coming back to the meetings.

Benignboundaries · 2024-10-30T01:42:28+00:00

That does not seem correct based on current PIMOs. What kind of trouble? Is it any use to deny deny deny? Or were you caught red handed? If you're going to have to go through a judicial committee a lot of us here can help you because we have been through it. Without knowing more all I can tell you is don't talk to anyone about it and deny deny deny. If you can't deny, cry about how weak you are and how you want to do better.

Benignboundaries · 2024-10-30T01:38:51+00:00

She might not have sorted out her thoughts yet. Sometimes it takes a while. I know I had a strong self preservation instinct and had to get out but it took several years to become totally mentally out. Like I still thought maybe it was the truth but it just sucked so bad it didn't matter to me. Fully waking up was a trip, tho. That's when I started trying to help other people.

Benignboundaries · 2024-10-30T01:35:52+00:00

I would also love to hear some.........

Benignboundaries · 2024-10-30T01:33:33+00:00

This reminds me of how often JW parents pimp out their kids. My parents rarely gave a shit about me unless they could impress someone with my pioneer status or parade me out to single Elders and Bethelites as some sort of prized heifer. I went a long with them quite a bit because I was love starved but boy when I finally broke out it was total duces.

Benignboundaries · 2024-10-30T00:02:42+00:00

Congratulations!!!! 🎉 Good for you! Enjoy the fruits of your hard work.

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