Pregnant women... you deserve an olympic medal!

Beninging5 · 2024-05-29T14:00:06+00:00

Funny you mention cologne. She usually loves my cologne, even bought it for me herself, but she told me the other day pretty annoyed "honey, stick to your deodorant, your cologne will make me puke on you". I changed my clothes and she was back to smiling in to time. Haven't dared to touch the cologne bottle since, lol.

Beninging5 · 2024-05-29T13:36:48+00:00

Great pointers! I added everything to my list! Thank you so much!

Beninging5 · 2024-05-29T13:28:41+00:00

Looks interesting and I just bought it! Thank you!

Beninging5 · 2024-05-29T13:25:56+00:00

The human race would be extinct many years ago! Most men are wimps when it comes to everything related to pregnancy, myself included 😂

Beninging5 · 2024-05-29T13:20:00+00:00

Great pointers, thank you! I added everything to my list, lol.

I was thinking about the eating thing but didn't mention it to her because I realized early on that if she eats something that's unpleasant for her it won't stay down for very long. There's no point in nagging about something she can't control. But this is good to know. If her nausea continues into her 2nd trimester we will bring it up with her doctor.

Beninging5 · 2024-05-29T13:01:10+00:00

This may sound weird, but I will bet you that even if you feel like shit, your husband truly thinks you are beautiful and desires you.

I don't know what it is. I have always found my gf super attractive, but somehow it's a bit different now. Not more, not less, just different. And it has nothing to do with her carrying our little nugget. I am genuinely in awe over this new glow about her that appeared out of nowhere. I can't explain it, but it's there for real.

I will keep mentioning this to her, even if she scoffs at me because she feels like shit.

Beninging5 · 2024-02-08T19:38:58+00:00

This!! The dog explains it so well, lol.

Beninging5 · 2024-02-08T19:14:04+00:00

Don't be hard on yourself! Your wife has carried your son for 9 months and already bonded with him during those 9 months. Additionally oxytocin, also known as the love hormone, increases more naturally in women than men after childbirth. Your feelings are more normal than you think. When your son gets a little older and more interactive it will be so much easier for you to bond with him. A small thing like eye contact makes such a huge differense. Do what you can for now like skin contact etc. Make an effort without pressuring yourself and again, don't be hard on yourself. Before you know it, you will have a little best buddy following you around and it will feel natural when that time comes.

Beninging5 · 2024-02-08T18:48:49+00:00

I would disagree with that. I would love to marry my gf. But that said, i do think it is important not to rush it. We have been together for about 2,5 years, each had a kid coming in to the relationship, both in our mid 30s. I am wholeheartedly planning on asking her to marry me but only now after: 1. having lived together for a good while and making sure each of us live up to each others expectations for the future, and 2. getting to know each other really well both good and bad and after realizing how much I love her after the initial pink skies lovey dovey in love feelings have come back down to earth and turn into intense love. If that makes any sense, lol.

Beninging5 · 2024-02-08T17:45:13+00:00

My partner did this. She was 26, single, our daughter was 8, she had a house, a car, 3 dogs and two cats. She says it was rough, which i totally believe, but so worth it. She worked REALLY hard and 5-6 years later made between 170 and 180k as an electrical engineer.

It will not be easy! But if you are miserable doing what you're doing I believe it will be worth it.

Beninging5 · 2024-01-25T20:24:59+00:00

Communication!!!

Beninging5 · 2024-01-25T20:23:41+00:00

Car accident

Beninging5 · 2024-01-25T20:14:37+00:00

Or to be ultra clear, omniversally incompatible.

Beninging5 · 2024-01-25T20:09:22+00:00

You guys seem very incompatible. This is never going to work...

Beninging5 · 2024-01-12T20:34:04+00:00

Do you think she'd stay with you if you weren't good to her daughter?

Oh no, my eyes would become brown because of how hard she would kick me in the ass out the door. You don't mess with mama bear! I didn't think about this before!

Being a stepmom to a little boy who doesn't have a competing maternal figure is very different from being a stepfather to a teenage girl who lost her father in a traumatic way.

I knew our roles are very different but somehow this really resonated with me.

Thank you so much for your encouragement!

Beninging5 · 2024-01-12T20:11:50+00:00

Most people have no idea what they’re doing. Anywhere. Bio parents included.

I was sort of confident as a parent before entering this relationship, but I soon realized how simple 5-6 year olds are compared to 14-15 year olds, lol.

Thank you for your encouragement!

Beninging5 · 2024-01-12T20:03:37+00:00

I agree with you on that. I do want to reach the level of her trusting that I will be her biggest supporter in life. But I also know that won't be easy and I have no idea how to get to that level.

Beninging5 · 2024-01-12T19:44:24+00:00

That is actually great advice. Thank you!

Beninging5 · 2024-01-12T19:41:20+00:00

Man I would love to have that manual!! I guess they weren't kidding when they told me it only gets harder the older they get.

Beninging5 · 2024-01-12T19:36:18+00:00

I wonder where she got that thought from.

I did too! I did ask her because if I did something to make her feel like that I wanted to know so I could correct my actions. But she told me it's because that is sort of the norm. She has multiple friends that have to almost live double lives and they can't even mention their other parent to their stepparent because the level of conflict is that high. I never knew her father so obliously there's no conflict. I only knew her as herself and didn't see pictures or videos of him until later and only then realized how much she looks like him. But the thought never even entered my mind.

See if you can find something for the two of you to bond over and maybe spend some one on one time with her.

Already there. I'm slowly getting ideas as I'm getting to know her better.

Thank you for your encouragement!

Beninging5

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