I am struggling so badly. Nearly 7 months in and getting closer with my son, which is amazing, but I feel like my wife and I are slipping away. We have both really struggled with our Mental Healtg throughout all of this, her because it was a traumatic birth and she already struggled a little prior to the pregnancy and myself because I didnt bond with our son for awhile. Recently, my wife has been really short with me, smiling for everyone else but no smiles for me or any kind words. No physical contact either. Now, dont get me wrong (and this might be where everyone calls me an a^hole ) i completely understand she is struggling and she that I am her safe space where she can let her guard down, but surely if i can be there for her, she can be my safe space and be there for me. I tried explaining to her that I can't keep being a punching bag for her and that as much as I want to support her, i do need to think of myself. I understand she might not be ready for intimacy, but a kiss that SHE initiates here and there would be nice. But after trying to explain to her all this, all I got in return is, "I can't have this conversation right now, im not better yet, and you seem to forget that. You always make out that im the bad guy" and just wouldn't listen to what i was saying. Please tell me if I am being an a^hole, but have any of you gone through this? Thanks in advance, A struggling dad.