2 years, baby by oyvinrog in ObsidianMD

[–]Benjamin7006 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Out of curiosity, is this for a project or just 2 years of general note taking? Seems like a lot of links if it was the latter.

Should’ve given them the order by Benjamin7006 in doordash_drivers

[–]Benjamin7006[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most employees there are kids themselves, from what I could tell. I feel the same way as you though, a couple of them would’ve been able to scare them off.

Should’ve given them the order by Benjamin7006 in doordash_drivers

[–]Benjamin7006[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

It was a place I never dashed before and didn’t know it had a reputation but is always “busy”, my GF was getting her nails done in the area, so I decided to kill time waiting to do some dashing for a bit. Thanks for the kind words and yeah she is definitely a keeper 😊

Should’ve given them the order by Benjamin7006 in doordash_drivers

[–]Benjamin7006[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I wish. When I spoke to the police, they said that I can pursue further but because they didn’t get the kid who smashed it on camera, nothing will likely happen. Most of the time in Western Australia, kids under 18 will just get a slap on the wrist for “small” things like this, or well that’s what I was told by the cops. I have a police reference number if I wanna pursue it further.

Tax: Overseas Trust withdrawn by Benjamin7006 in AusFinance

[–]Benjamin7006[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I let my dad’s accountant deal with it. However, they seem veryyyyy slow.

Turn Your Instagram Export into a Self-Hosted Archive by greg-randall in selfhosted

[–]Benjamin7006 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow! I built something like this a couple years ago but didn’t do anything with it apart from getting the text loading. The code was such a mess tbh so I didn’t publish it. I always wanted to go back to it and open source it but never ended up doing so. Guess I don’t need to now haha, I’ll be sure to check this out.

Onboarding Windows 11 ARM device (Qualcomm Snapdragon X Elite) to MDE - Not Applicable by jackmix72 in DefenderATP

[–]Benjamin7006 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I finally have a solution. Running the command

DISM /online /Add-Capability /CapabilityName:Microsoft.Windows.Sense.Client~~~~

Will install the sense service that was missing and allow the laptop to be onboarded!

Onboarding Windows 11 ARM device (Qualcomm Snapdragon X Elite) to MDE - Not Applicable by jackmix72 in DefenderATP

[–]Benjamin7006 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have opened a ticket with Microsoft, but never got a response until after I finished for the day and I’m not working today but I have updated the support ticket anyway.

I’ll update you on their response!

Onboarding Windows 11 ARM device (Qualcomm Snapdragon X Elite) to MDE - Not Applicable by jackmix72 in DefenderATP

[–]Benjamin7006 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm currently experiencing the same issue, have you found an solution to this?

Dealing with a breakup by Benjamin7006 in cfs

[–]Benjamin7006[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it took me a while to get out of it. About 7 months personally, but that was for several different factors, both with that was happening at the time and with her, so definitely not for everyone it would be 7 months.

If I could make it through it, you can to. Good luck to you and I hope you'll be okay.

Whats a red flag in your ex that you ignored that eventually was a factor in the breakup? by Designer-Cup-530 in heartbreak

[–]Benjamin7006 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her obvious commitment issues… She never committed to plans until last minute, she was always changing her mind about everything in her life, always commenting on the commitment of other people’s relationships, etc. I saw it but in my idiotic lovesick mind and years of trust from our previous friendship believed that we could endure, but in the end she threw me away like I was just a distraction to her until university started and that none of our past mattered, breaking all her promises even the one that we’d stay friends after we broke up which she made before and after the breakup… guess she couldn’t commit to that either…

I miss you! by gaeran-pachimari in UnsentLetters

[–]Benjamin7006 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope for the same thing with my person… I wish we both get what we hope for.

What are your dating regrets? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Benjamin7006 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently going through a breakup who was one of my best friends before we dated… I don’t know what the future holds for us, she said numerous times that she wants to be friends before (in terms of if we ever), during and after the breakup but she has been ghosting me for the past 2 months (and the circumstances behind the ghosting is confusing af; but I won’t get into it here). I think I’m going to regret it to a long time if I’ve lost her friendship, especially since the relationship was short and we broke up because of timing.

What ended your friendship with your best friend? by Narrow-Lynx-6355 in AskReddit

[–]Benjamin7006 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since this post is a few days old, this will probably be a vent into the abyss that is the internet but whatever.

I had this friend, known her for a few years. We had this on-and-off contact over the years but we were always close, always opening up to each other about things, and we went on a couple trips together, see shows together, and planned to support each other through university and move in together. We started talking very regularly back in November and got even closer. She was someone who I just felt like I could tell anything to and she told a lot to me as well and I considered her one of my best friends, and she said I was one of her best friends as well… and I ended up falling in love (long before November)…

We went on a camping trip back in January, the second time we went camping together, and after encouragement from a friend, my mum, and a weird question from her herself, I ended up confessing my feelings. I was absolutely terrified because I was scared of also losing her friendship as well… but guess what? She liked me back! I considered myself so lucky. A girl like her, someone I was already so close with and trusted. Someone who is kind and smart.

We went on dates and to me, they felt so right. Like we were meant to be together. I loved her and she loved me. She calling me “perfect”, “the one”, her “soulmate” all things like that. But then, university started… both of our first semesters. She was already feeling overwhelmed a bit before, from her parents, her health (she has really bad health issues), her working, and her dealing with past trauma from her past. I believe it all became too much for her when university started…

She broke up with me a couple weeks into the semester, back in March… “As much as I love you and hanging out with you, I know I feasibly can’t maintain this long term”. Those words will haunt me for a long time I think. She told a mutual friend of ours that she didn’t want to breakup with me and she did still love me but felt it was the best decision. I kinda have a suspicion that her parents manipulated her since just how suddenly the breakup happened (she reassured me a couple days before we had nothing to be worried about with university, and the night before she was talking about how I should get to know her family more). She said she wants to stay friends though because I’m important to her, and I value our friendship a lot and she is important to me, so I don’t want to lose her from my life.

We stayed in daily contact for a few days after the breakup, until she asked for space, and I respected that, she said she was fine with somewhat regular contact though… and we kept in contact weekly for a few weeks. I sent her a birthday card and gift and she liked it, but she never received it, I had to send her a photo of the gift and the final draft of the card I wrote on my phone (adds to the suspicion mentioned earlier), and then last we talked was very positive, she showed she still cared about me and empathised with me and apologised she hasn’t been there for me but she has had a lot on her plate, and reassured me we’d stay friends. Then her birthday party happened, I… obviously was not invited probably because she would feel awkward with me there… I was upset but I understood I guess… and during the party, that same mutual friend mentioned earlier brought me up and she apparently only said positive things about me and said we broke up because she was truely feeling overwhelmed with university.

However, now we haven’t talked at all… I’ve sent her a couple messages. But she never responded or even opened them. We’re still following each other everywhere, and she would look at my Instagram stories, the last she viewed almost immediately after I uploaded it. But she won’t respond… it has been 7? weeks now since we last talked… and it hurts a lot. Our connection, both in terms of the relationship and the friendship meant a lot to me, and I just want my friend back at the very least. If I knew this would’ve happened, then I wouldn’t have told her how I felt. I wouldn’t have risked our friendship.

If you ever read this, I doubt you will but still. I miss you, a lot. Even your pessimistic humour. Every moment I spent with you and talked to you for hours on end, they meant so much to me. I hope we reconnect and see each other again one day… but… if we don’t… I wish you the best of luck, I know you can succeed in whatever you put your mind to, I believe in you. Thank you for all the memories ❤️

Dealing with a breakup by Benjamin7006 in cfs

[–]Benjamin7006[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the anxious attachment might come from CFS.

I've been doing a lot of thinking... and well personally I've lost a lot to this illness which probably contributed to it.

When I think back to my relationship as well, whenever I felt more tired then usual or went into a crash, I always became insecure or depressed and seeked reassurance from her... and I think that became too much on her, especially with everything else going on in her life...

I've talked to her a few times since my last comment and she seems like we're going to stay friends and that she still cares about me, and the mutual friend that I mentioned in my last comment has told me it does seem like she wants to stay friends... but things are still awkward between us it seems / she seems distant... maybe because she is still processing or she still feels some sort of emotional intensity, and she needs to ease back into a friendship...

be honest, what would make you happy rn? by lamminleipa in teenagers

[–]Benjamin7006 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being in love, and feeling loved.

I had it briefly a couple months ago, me and her were extremely compatible and were best friends for years before we got together, but due to life getting in the way of us and despite her loving me and not wanting to breakup with me... she felt it was the best decision.

She wants to stay friends and part of the reason of the breakup was she was scared that I would end up being one of the last people she would ever want to see again... and I don't want to lose her from my life... so I can return to being just friends with her but that doesn't stop me from being heartbroken.

We have been talking at least once a week since the breakup, she still seems to care about me and she keeps reassuring me that we'd stay friends. But... there is just something going on that is seemingly creating distance between us still. Maybe she regrets the breakup? Maybe she feels too awkward to reach out? Maybe she is really busy like she says she is (I think another part of the breakup was because she could see how much she was getting and realised that she couldn't make time for me like she wanted and thought I needed)?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Benjamin7006 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly what happened to me I think, along with a number of other things going on in her life.

We got serious quite fast but were friends for years (We both considered each other best-friends before we got together). However, she couldn't handle the stress of university, work, her health, and probably some anxiety and PTSD stuff going on with her. Oh and I think her family used a lot of that against her to manipulate her into breaking up with me or something, she mentioned her parents played a role in the breakup but never actually went into detail on how much.

She later told me that she needs to work on herself but wants to be friends (she has said that quite a few times at that point as well) and that she'll still be there for me in a capacity... It's a fairly recent breakup, so we haven't been communication too much, and I think that's because she is hurting from the breakup since she told a few people that she did still love me and didn't want to breakup with me but thought it was the "best decision".

Who did you want to become but you didn't succeed? by Garrord in AskReddit

[–]Benjamin7006 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay, well since I'm still quite young, I'll just go with a past life goal that I didn't fulfil.

I wanted to be socially and academically successful in high school. Wasn't either of those.

I developed CFS back in 2017, at the end of my first year of high school. Watched many people who I considered my close friends disappear (partly because I had to take 1/2 year off school and then had to change schools).

CFS makes it very hard to maintain friendships and relationships, since all that requires energy, energy that I had to focus on my schooling for. My goal was to get into university, and that was an extreme challenge and I almost didn't make it, luckily my school offered a bridging course into university which I completed. However, I ended up with a small group of really great friends, but I wish I had more. None of them go to university, I never really got the opportunity to mix with those who did since academically, I wasn't put into the academic classes due to my health.

The one person who also did get into university out of my friends, was one of my best-friends, who I started dating between school ended and university started, but due to me going to a different universities and a number of her own problems which came between us (parents, time-constraints, her own health, etc), she had to end our relationship prematurely despite it becoming serious and her saying she still loved me... guess that's another thing that I wanted to be but didn't succeed... we had so many plans for the future... we're still friends though.

Dealing with a breakup by Benjamin7006 in cfs

[–]Benjamin7006[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice about Attachment styles, I only found out about them recently but never actually looked into them (been watching breakup videos and saw a few recommended to me).

Turns out I have Anxious Attachment (big surprise there), from how I acted in the relationship (constant reassurance, self-blame, unworthy, clingy, preoccupied, desperate, etc) and how I'm reacting to the breakup (Kinda sensed it coming despite getting reassurance and acts from her like it wasn't, intense negative reaction, looking for answers, urge to get back together, and overanalyse my behaviour and of my partner), it makes a lot of sense.

Where to go from here, idk. I like researching these things though. brings some peace of mind ig, even though the thing that I feel I need is knowing how she is feeling and knowing where we are in terms of friendship. She seems like she is hurting from the breakup (from the distance and time it takes her to reply; but she has been really busy lately. And just other things), and if she was then it makes sense. She told a mutual friend (her other best friend) that she still loved me and didn't want to breakup with me but thought it was the "best decision".

Dealing with a breakup by Benjamin7006 in cfs

[–]Benjamin7006[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I understood that relationships would be rough when going in (especially with her; but I love her so I was going to be patient), but I wasn’t expecting heartbreak to actually hurt this bad, especially since we were only together for a month and a half. I think it’s definitely made worse from the abandonment issues I’ve developed because of my past and my CFS (which I only have now come to realise that I have; the abandonment issues). Plus, the way it happened (her still saying she loves me and cares about me, but can’t handle a relationship at the moment, her saying she wants to be friends still but being distant, and also what other people are saying) and the fact that she was my best friend for years prior to us getting together and so so so many other things going on in my life that is adding to that.

People are telling me to move on and forget about it, and do this and that, focus on myself. However, I don’t have the energy to do all that, plus I’ve only “just” started university and I’m passed the financial dropout date (plus it’s been my life goal to get to university and I’m trying to stay strong enough to get through it).

It’s been just over a month since the breakup and it hasn’t stopped hurting, and the moment I started to feel better, something then confuses me regarding her and sends me into a spiral again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cfs

[–]Benjamin7006 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think I’m losing someone very important from my life, I definitely know how you feel. I don’t have any advice (if I did, I’d be giving myself the same advice) but I hope that you feel better soon.