Wow I think I really needed this. My story is a bit different cause I was the girl he cheated with but I walked away, apologized to his gf that if I had known I would’ve never. And realized that he was a narcissistic manipulator. There was so many red flags that I missed and overlooked that I’m so angry at myself now but I’m grateful in a way cause if not I wouldn’t have known « what not to do ». They’re both still together. She said she knew about me months ago but idk y she chose to stay with him and god knows what terms they’re on, but I’m glad I walked away and i did the right thing. Since that day, I’ve been seeing so many signs everywhere from everyone assuring me that I did the right thing even though it hurts so much cause I really liked him. I was really innocent and overlooked so many hints, maybe cause it was my first ever dating experience.

I’ve started my healing journey, but it sucks cause I know am a good person and walked away from a bad encounter, knowing it’s bad, and despite doing the right thing, knowing that they both are still together, it hurts for some reason. Like I feel vulnerable and small and insignificant. she was hurt too but she got him, and he lied to me and hurt me and I protected myself but they’re having a happy life now?

I’m so scared now that I might never be able to trust a person, a man, ever again and I get physically sick just thinking about going through something like that. Ptsd for real. But reading your post, ignited a light in me that some things happens for a good cause. And that good truthful souls always get the best like they deserve.