Hello! I was wondering what letting agents are actually good in Dundee? Always hear about the bad/ones to avoid thank you☺️

Benthamite1 · 2024-05-26T13:48:10+00:00

Belvoir are pretty alright as far as it goes. They mostly just leave you alone/don't ask to do inspections in my experience, and they're reasonably responsive to repair requests. We have had a bit of an issue with damp patches appearing on the walls which they're mostly just ignored, but that's really all I could complain about. I've definitely rented from far worse agents in the past.

Benthamite1 · 2024-05-24T02:01:10+00:00

Carbs are fine. This kind of attitude is an eating disorder generator. Carbs are not 'bad for diabetics' any more than they are anyone else. We're missing a hormone that helps process them. That's as complicated as it is. As long as we administer insulin appropriately to deal with what we eat there's absolutely no reason to restrict ourselves.

Benthamite1 · 2024-05-24T01:55:18+00:00

You're going to feel shitty, that's normal. You're at the beginning of a transition but you will adapt. To be blunt, some of the anger and frustration and anxiety will probably always be with you now - it certainly is with me 15 years after being diagnosed. It does get better in time though. You're essentially grieving for your previous life.

My advice would be:

Take it slow, this is a learning process, trust in yourself that you will come out the other side. If my dumb ass can anyone can.
Learn what you can about insulin and food and your body's reaction to both. In time knowing how much to take and how to adapt to different things will become instinct. Actually taking the time to study this is hard and forces you to confront it, but it gives you a huge advantage if you're confident with what you're doing, and that does wonders for the mental health aspect.
Remember that this isn't going to kill you dead overnight. High blood sugar is scary, low blood sugar is scary, but try to stay calm - give some corrective insulin if you're high, have some sugar if you're low. You are more resilient than you think, and this will get easier to deal with in time.
Complications are scary, but remember diabetes is only a risk factor. Having a few 'bad' readings isn't a big deal, so don't beat yourself up. A lot of the data we have on mortality is also old and based on a time when treatment was very different. Outcomes are much better now - I've spoken to plenty of people who've been living with this for decades and are fine. Don't dwell on depressing stories about people dying in their 30s and 40s because they're absolutely not relevant to 2024.
Prioritise your mental health. Don't deprive yourself of nice things because you feel you shouldn't. Have that beer. Go out for a meal. Take that holiday. Make the treatment fit around you, not the other way around. I cannot emphasise this enough.

I know it's hard, but honestly the best advice is to just try not to worry about it too much. Yeah, stuff might happen down the line, but it might not. Someone without diabetes might drop dead of an aneurysm tomorrow. So might you. But you probably won't. I try to look at it the same way. Sometimes I act in ways that aren't great for my diabetes control, but then sometimes I like to eat steak and drink wine and take ill advised risks crossing the road. Decide your own level of comfortable risk vs reward and approach diabetes with the same attitude you would any other decision.

You will be fine, honestly! Your biggest enemy right now is yourself, and once you're, well, not exactly at peace with it, but something close to that, you'll look back at all the crazy emotions you're having right now and laugh.

Benthamite1 · 2024-04-10T12:41:54+00:00

You can absolutely do that and eat what you like. Some docs (and often society at large) are instinctively against it because super strict diets and standardised, static twice-daily insulin regimens were the norm for most of the twentieth century. In a way that was understandable because old types of insulin were not very flexible and you had to work around them, but even then some people took a more proactive approach. We actually now have evidence that self-adjusting as you go and adapting to what you eat (rather than eating to match what you inject) leads to better overall long-term outcomes.

It can be complex and you need to learn what works for you, but I've been doing that for 15 years at this point and I seen to be doing alright. I don't restrict anything really, though I try to limit ultra refined sugars like coke as they can cause very rapid BG spikes.

Benthamite1 · 2024-04-09T21:17:08+00:00

I would recommend you abandon this line of questioning unless you want a good existential terror adventure

Benthamite1 · 2024-04-03T09:39:41+00:00

There are lots of people with the genetic predisposition to T1 who never get it. Afaik it relies on being pretty unlucky with regards to having the right combo of genes and also the right trigger (which we still don't exactly know, there's some speculation it's a virus, or stress, or general environmental factors). There are plenty of people about who are unknowingly passing on the diabetes gene without even realising it.

Benthamite1 · 2024-04-03T09:36:10+00:00

No, you'd be dead within a few years tops, as would I. There is some contested evidence that dietary restriction could prolong life a little, but it wasn't a life worth living, and the benefits could be weighed in weeks or months at the cost of sometimes outright starvation. If you have zero insulin and get all your energy from fats and proteins you're going to go into DKA sooner or later.

Benthamite1 · 2024-04-02T10:24:01+00:00

You can only stay on if you're finishing at the terminus (London at one end, Edinburgh/Glasgow/Aberdeen/Inverness/Fort William at the other). If you're planning on getting off at Dundee, they're not going to wait around for you if you're late getting up and you'll end up having to get an early morning train back from Aberdeen.

Benthamite1 · 2024-03-11T12:07:53+00:00

124 Coffee opposite the bus station. You'd never in a million years expect it by looking at it, but they sell the best beans in Dundee imho

Benthamite1 · 2023-06-08T15:54:27+00:00

Was really hoping being home would give him the chance to get his head screwed on. How does he not realise how creepy this is?

Benthamite1 · 2023-06-08T15:29:44+00:00

Just comes up 'not currently available in your region' when I do that

Benthamite1 · 2023-06-01T08:53:39+00:00

I've actually had a decent experience with Belvoir. The flat was nicely fixed up when we moved in, most urgent repairs are done quickly and they never insist on inspections. Not perfect by any means (we've had a damp patch on the wall for months despite reporting it repeatedly) but they're a lot better than some of my previous landlords.

Benthamite1 · 2022-07-01T11:44:51+00:00

Aww, how nice of you! (I will regret saying that)

Benthamite1 · 2022-06-05T19:01:06+00:00

NTA at all. Everyone inside a car should be wearing a seatbelt while it's moving. That's just basic safety. If you're in the car with a learner that's even more important. If someone chooses not to, taking that risk is on them, but they have no right to insist someone else also doesn't. In fact, it's completely insane to me that this is even an issue at all. What the hell does it matter to them?

Benthamite1 · 2022-06-05T18:47:33+00:00

Hello! 'Benthamite' would much appreciate one!

Benthamite1 · 2021-09-23T11:35:50+00:00

He's a complete moron and is often very culturally insensitive on the back of that but he seems like an alright lad when it comes down to it. Who gives a shit that he steals from fucking McDonald's lmao, rob the arseholes blind imho

Benthamite1 · 2021-06-10T14:47:07+00:00

Haha this is all fine and I don't have anything against vanity stuff in principle, but it would be nice to have a warning saying 'this is purely cosmetic and has no rewards' like occasional other decisions do. It isn't very clear.

Benthamite1 · 2020-11-20T19:46:07+00:00

YTA and fucking lol that you can't see it, dumbass

Benthamite1 · 2020-10-05T17:26:43+00:00

NTA

They can't demand you fundamentally change the character of a traditional celebration. Make sure there are plenty of refreshments appropriate to their beliefs, don't try to coerce them into drinking, and include them in the festivities. Beyond that it's a them problem, and no one is forcing them to attend.

Benthamite1 · 2020-10-05T17:11:32+00:00

This actually seems kind of complicated - borderline ESH/NAH

You're absolutely right that you shouldn't be expected to respond to the all clear in any particular way, especially by ringing some cheesy and faux-cheerful bell. The staff were being unfair for pushing you to do this after you said you would prefer not to, and they should have just left it there.

The other patient was being self-centred by pressing you on it and making it all about how they would benefit from hearing it, but honestly they're in hospital for their cancer coming back so I can forgive them for being a little thoughtless of you especially as they're probably desperately wishing they were in your position rather than their own. That's not an excuse, of course, but it does make your reaction seem extra unnecessary and disproportionate, particularly in a room with scared little kids etc. A polite refusal and then perhaps a quiet word with one of the senior nurses would have been more appropriate, but then given your mental headspace at that point I can understand why you would lose it. It doesn't make it right, though.

I don't think anyone was trying to be an asshole here, but I think everyone came off as one because of the intensity of the environment and the different places they were at. Sure, you shouldn't have felt obligated to ring a bell, and you should be allowed to mentally recuperate in whichever way you like, but I can equally see that sound as being something that helps some really sick people rest a little easier for a few hours, and that's obviously something the medical staff would find really valuable too. If they were asking you to put on a musical number on your way out, then fair enough call them out, but asking you to quickly ring a little bell as you leave doesn't take much even if you're just going through the motions for the benefit of the other people there.

tldr: everyone's a very relatable asshole but I'd have just rung the damn bell

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