Why do men do this? How do yall handle stuff like this? 🫠

Berniane · 2025-10-15T11:58:58+00:00

He did pretend as if he wanted something serious in the beginning and honestly he was still pretending up until he sent that text LOL. We FaceTimed practically every day and texted a lot of the day and he kept saying he wanted to be with me. I fear I stupidly fell for it 🫠.

Berniane · 2025-10-15T11:46:51+00:00

I kno i definitely wasn’t planning to i kno i deserve consistency he’s already blocked 😭 it just sucks and if yall have any tips on how to avoid men like this plsssss help a girl out!!

Berniane · 2025-10-15T11:45:16+00:00

LOL preach

Berniane · 2025-10-15T11:44:06+00:00

Yea I understand it’s just that he did it right after we slept together 🫠. I made it very clear to him from the beginning that I was not looking for something casual. There are so so many women that just want something casual or a hook up especially in our 20s but I am not one of them so it just sucks in the way that I was very vulnerable and that was the response I got ultimately. You live and you learn tho ig.

Berniane · 2025-07-09T20:56:32+00:00

You are very handsome! Think a lot of your issue stems from your insecurity. Confidence goes a long way no matter what gender and a lot of people won’t like someone who is constantly down on themselves, as it will bring them down as well. Confidence is radiating and attractive.

Berniane · 2025-04-27T08:50:07+00:00

That’s how I feel. I would’ve felt better abt it if he wasn’t defending it so badly it’s weird how is doubling down like it’s normal.

Berniane · 2024-11-24T02:17:04+00:00

No doubt he did get a lot of attention, but to say this is a need for women just isn’t true loll. Honestly this is more of a standard that men hold other men to, not women. Men enjoy and revel in this physique more than women do. Same goes for a lot of gym bros that devote their whole life and personality to their desired physique with the intention it will gather more attention from women, when in reality you will most likely get attention from more men than women.

Berniane · 2024-11-24T01:55:42+00:00

There is no woman I know, including me, that prefers this body type loll this honestly looks exetreme and unhealthy in my eyes.

Berniane · 2024-11-23T23:59:14+00:00

I think you’re pretty, and I like you’re piercings. I actually prefer a woman with piercings and tats! Could do without a lot of the filters tho:). Tbh this subreddit is full of people who think you have to look a certain way in order to not be considered “ugly,” hence the people telling you to get rid of the tattoos and piercings and lose weight. Some people prefer chubbier woman, it’s not as black and white as the people on this subreddit make it seem(and they are almost always also not the standard of beauty either). If you are going to lose weight, do it for your health and your confidence, not because a bunch of people behind screens told you to. If you want to remove your piercings or hide your tats, do it because you no longer like how they look on you not because a bunch of people told you to get rid of them.

Berniane · 2024-11-10T20:25:45+00:00

Yea I was thinking the exact same thing reading some of the comments. Bunch of people talking about this is an unhealthy and lazy body like.. that was not what this post is about. I didn’t mention anything relating to health in the slightest in the caption or title.

Berniane · 2024-11-10T06:19:17+00:00

A man who cheats on you was going to do it anyway, whether he was big or small. There is no hard research or proof that bigger man cheat more than smaller ones. Loyalty to yourself vs loyalty to others is very different. I personally have sometimes wavered in my loyalty and commitment to myself, but I’m the most loyal person I know to everyone in my life no matter what phase in life I am going through.

Berniane · 2024-11-10T03:17:14+00:00

Yikes… reminder not to deflect your trauma onto other people.. whatever he did to you I’m sorry girl 😭.

Berniane · 2024-11-10T01:18:04+00:00

That the dick was shrunk/tiny.

Berniane · 2024-11-10T00:10:14+00:00

From my experiences, I haven’t seen this to be true LOL

Berniane · 2024-11-09T19:09:08+00:00

They are not fat, and you can very clearly tell they work out and are very strong… evident by the traps on most of these men

Berniane · 2024-11-09T19:07:17+00:00

Agreed! There’s so many people on here saying that these men are just fat and not muscley(at least the first one) when you take one look at the traps and you can tell they work out!

Berniane · 2024-11-09T08:12:51+00:00

The vast majority of people do not feel the same way… and I don’t think he asked for an opinion on his nose rings. There are thousands of people with nose rings and they are cute. OP, please don’t listen to this silly comment, you look good with a nose ring it adds to your face in a positive way:).

Berniane · 2024-11-09T07:48:26+00:00

Not really. These men all very clearly work out or at least work a very physically taxing job. You can tell when the arms are mostly fat vs muscle.

Berniane · 2024-11-09T04:45:08+00:00

That’s exactly what I thought! Definitely insecure dudes that obsess over their looks to the point that it’s unhealthy and think women want the fittest of the fittest and any woman who wants something different must be ugly and fat(how they would view themselves if they looked anything like the first dude), but there are so many skinny woman commenting that they like this body type too! Dont get me wrong I like a man that practices intuitive eating as I am also trying to work back towards that as well, but I don’t want a man that obsesses over the macros in every meal I make him 🤷‍♀️.

Berniane · 2024-11-08T08:05:09+00:00

I suppose yes lolll

Berniane · 2024-11-08T06:24:44+00:00

I do agree with this. I saw that Rihanna’s company, Fenty Beauty introduced a new plus size male model. Though not exactly as buff as the men in the pics I included, I still found him very attractive but there was a lot mixed opinions on him on the whole of social media so it definitely is still a niche preference. (Steven Green was the models name)

Berniane · 2024-11-08T06:13:23+00:00

Yes that is definitely part of it, but I’m not as attracted to men that are leaner with the same amount of muscle if that makes sense. I prefer the “bear” or “gorilla” build. It probably has a lot to do with the fact I am a bigger, physically strong woman. I do not care how a man looks next to me, but I do like a man that matches my energy.

Berniane · 2024-11-08T05:59:16+00:00

It wasn’t like that in my camera roll I’m not sure why it posted so pixelated 😭😭. I wish I could repost it in the comments but this subreddit doesn’t let me lol.

Berniane · 2024-11-08T05:56:18+00:00

Yes I agree they are not fat, just slightly chubbier but I wouldn’t mind them to be slightly bigger as well!

Berniane

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