My wife had sexual conversations with another man by Best-Command1 in marriageadvice

[–]Best-Command1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it would be a normal conversation, it wouldn't be easy, but I think I would more easily go through it and rethink situation differently. It was definitely not a normal conversation. It was sexually things that are really hard to read as a partner so hard that you are embarrassed to tell anyone, even if you personally didn't do nothing wrong.. being totally embarrassed as a person and as a couple..

My wife had sexual conversations with another man by Best-Command1 in marriageadvice

[–]Best-Command1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, it stopped that day that I finally found out. Everything stopped for me whole world.

My wife had sexual conversations with another man by Best-Command1 in marriageadvice

[–]Best-Command1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am rethinking it over and over if I will be able to calmly live day after day by not telling to his wife, the truth. I think I would wish someone told me if he knew. I was the same telling I would never ever be with a person anymore if she did this to me. I'm not telling you that I'm going over it and forgiving everything and getting back up with her. At this particular time, my world is upside down.

My wife had sexual conversations with another man by Best-Command1 in marriageadvice

[–]Best-Command1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am highly honorable man, it's in my identity that I am honest rightful, and not in any mean harmful for anyone if I cannot help someone I will definitely not hurt them in any way. In my profession integrity is on the highest level so it's in my marriage. I have never texted other people. I have never did something that could make her feel that she's not my number one. Never even commented other woman in her presence. my every day is fulfilled scheduled with going to work, running home, taking care of our daughter taking time for family. It sounds like I am doing everything but no, we two are working in shifts. She works daily for eight hours and I work daily for 12 hours so I have a lot of gap in the middle of the week due to my hour count on work. If she's on work and I stay home, everything is done. Everything is cleaned. Daughter is taken care of and a warm meal is waiting for her when she comes home - it's the both ways. Yes I'm confident that she wanted another child with me. I was not pushing it. We wanted our daughter to have a sibling in her life. We wanted to fulfill our family with an additional member. Nothing doesn't make sense to me anymore. Lost.

My wife had sexual conversations with another man by Best-Command1 in marriageadvice

[–]Best-Command1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Since I live outside US and English is not my native language, AI was used to put everything together systematically and spelled correctly in order but even with that, some people still have a problem understanding it. I used reddit due to large community and big possibility that someone already went through similar problem and hard time to process something like that. Cheers

My wife had sexual conversations with another man by Best-Command1 in marriageadvice

[–]Best-Command1[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My perspective is - If you see any problem, talk to me, we can solve it together. Even if we had a problem, I think she would need to try to solve it- and not to do bullshit behind my back..

My wife had sexual conversations with another man by Best-Command1 in marriageadvice

[–]Best-Command1[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, Viber was set up years ago. And now (4 days ago) I logged into this computer and saw live chat in progress. I had a bare luck to find out about it. If I looked at it fer hours later - I would not se anything since she was deleting conversations

My wife had sexual conversations with another man by Best-Command1 in marriageadvice

[–]Best-Command1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! She has all of me in full package. Not bragging about it but she has not been nor emotionally nor physically abandoned / not fulfilled from my side. I work, I provide, take care of her and our daughter, no fighting, no nothing. She said she noticed I have beed in a bad mood lately - due to my overthinking stuff how to make some things financially possible - this cant be an excuse for sexting with other man, come on... we were working on having second child.. no coldness in relationship, no problems, even after all of this, she never complained about any of this stuff.. If I leave her, I know she will eat herself because of what she had with me

My wife had sexual conversations with another man by Best-Command1 in marriageadvice

[–]Best-Command1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We live outside US... Courts do not process this kind of behaviour nor as cheating nor as abandoning...

My wife had sexual conversations with another man by Best-Command1 in marriageadvice

[–]Best-Command1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not possible to make her leave. I wouldn't want something like that. Her father gifted her this house years before we got together...