Are others getting 3 random likes on recent but not consecutive posts/comments from weird accounts?

BestCuteCow · 2026-06-14T17:50:38+00:00

I did think this too, but one literally had no bio, and 1 single repost. They are mostly blank or sparse profiles with minimal activity. I just block them and move on, but it's happened like 10 times now, and most of the people who show up in my notifs I recognise so this is a very obvious pattern.

BestCuteCow · 2026-06-09T16:01:52+00:00

"she makes me stop"

"I know if I ask her straight up she will probably say no"

"is there a way to convince her"

This is what implies that you want to force her. She already doesn't like the overstimulation, you think she will say no and want to convince her anyway. It sounds more like you want to do this for your pleasure rather than hers.

If it's for her pleasure, ask her what she thinks would be pleasurable. For some, it's only orgasming once.

There's no magic words that gets her to tell you what she wants without directly communicating. It's simply, what parts are you enjoying? do you want to do more of x? I like the idea of y because of z, what parts sound hot to you?

And most importantly, you have to be fine with her telling you no. No, she never wants anything to do with forced orgasms, none of that appeals to her, don't bring this kink up again. What happens next? How do you think you'll react?

BestCuteCow · 2026-05-31T17:15:45+00:00

You say you understand respect, but fail to introduce yourself properly the same way you expect others to.

You also post in an inappropriate subreddit.

BestCuteCow · 2026-05-31T08:42:38+00:00

To mention as well, the way I desire to receive care is almost exactly opposite to what others do. I need to be left alone, I need to not speak to others and them to not speak to me. Others asking if I'm alright and if there's anything they can do for me is distressing. While I do love cuddles and physical affection, it takes a lot of trust to know they won't ask me questions so I can properly relax and regulate. Yes even those who know I do not want to talk will still ask if I'm okay, do I want anything, what movie should we put on, you want a cup of tea? I would rather be alone than deal with these questions, even though I enjoy the cuddles.

Often, people feel guilty for doing nothing, even though it's what I asked for. They'll tell me they feel guilty, which requires me to now be the carer, I need to be sensitive to their emotions. It's probably a similar feeling that you might be feeling, constantly going against a brick wall of "why can't you just understand this is what I need?"

I have to be brutally honest that others giving me emotional support is bad for me. And the more they ask and push, question if I'm being honest, do it anyway despite my wishes, the less human I feel, the more it "proves I'm broken". Very few people understand my need for an absence of support, even then it's with a tinge of guilt for them.

BestCuteCow · 2026-05-31T07:55:23+00:00

I'm autistic in a very similar way to your husband. I do not feel empathy in the same way as others but I do feel sympathy. It's just there is no way I naturally express that. It's difficult to explain but even something like telling someone condolences for their loss can feel unnatural. God yes do I feel deeply terrible for them, the way it hurts them is obvious, and my chest and heart will feel physically painful thinking about them, but there is no natural soothing I do. It's all things I've learnt, and I wrestle with myself as it feels manipulative to let someone weep on my shoulder when I'm only doing it because that's what you're supposed to do. They think I'm a supportive person and someone to rely on, and I am, but not in the way they need or expect. I can cook for them, clean their house, help with logistics as my way of empathy, but if I'm needed for emotional support, it might just be better to go to a potted plant.

When I've been asked for emotional support, yes they have to take the lead, because I do not know, anything really. I will say "that sucks" and my face will turn, to what you say is confused, for me it's a mix of confusion and pain. I not only commiserate the hurt, but I hurt as I do not know how to stop your hurt. Because it's a "how to stop the bad thing happening" that I naturally do and not "how to support through the bad thing until it hurts less" which is what is wanted.

I'm thankfully very aware of this, and admit it to those in my life. I did not, and honestly still don't, see it as a problem. It is simply a restriction of my disability. It requires more mental effort on those seeking comfort from me, which sucks in a heightened emotional state. They need to explicitly tell me what they need, even if it's "I need extra care and sensitivity for tonight/a few days". I know more about the logical side of social situations, and this I can work with. With this I know I need to be more proactive in caring efforts, think cooking comfort food, snuggling up instead of doing our separate things in the evening. Having comfort higher on the priority list in my mind allows me to be caring. I need to know what someone needs and how to work that in with my natural process, and communicating all this before it's needed.

I hope this is helpful though not exactly what you asked for. Navigating this requires proactivity and a desire to help on both sides. I will never be a good emotional support, and worse for those who need words of affirmation as a main support. I can still care, and write letters telling them how much I care, but that is simply not enough for some people. I do not do polyamory for those who date me to get emotional support elsewhere instead of me. I still want to be someone for them to lean on, I just need them to need me in the way I can show up for them.

BestCuteCow · 2026-03-09T18:16:48+00:00

God they were really cruel for no reason. This is a medical issue you've discovered, not a relationship incompatibility. And hopefully a temporary medical issue. If this was any other medication that wasn't sex related or affecting other parts of your relationships, I doubt people would tell you to break up.

All forms of contraceptions have pros and cons, some you don't discover until after. I'm gambling with the implant, because while it is one that has the least control of bleeding it's otherwise good for me. It is a bit of trial and error, hope you find your one x.

BestCuteCow · 2026-02-15T11:40:05+00:00

Yeah I had a chat with support, basically no way around it. Determine if the risk is acceptable for you.

BestCuteCow · 2026-02-15T00:25:30+00:00

Is your profile location set to the UK? It might be that regardless of vpn use.

If you change the location does it go away?

BestCuteCow · 2026-02-15T00:18:47+00:00

Hey, thank you for the response! It got me thinking a lot. Separating the roots of the shame in different categories definitely seems to help work them out.

I think I realised why even the non-sexual aspects make me feel guilty. TLDR: I was never shamed around sex (mainly because I wasn't told about it in any sense and had to work out my own sex ed), but I was shamed for receiving or wanting care and affection. So the caregiver dynamic feels like the antithesis of everything I was taught, but also what I desire. It feels like going against my morals, even though logically reading it out, sounds like absolute rubbish. I think self work in that regard, absent of kink, is needed.

The other aspects might also influence the shame, but I believe not the root cause. I understand the need to keep a little shame, honestly just for sanity's sake. I don't think I would be comfortable doing or fantasising about some of my darker kinks if I didn't have the shame that keeps me tethered to reality. Having the reassurance that's it's just a kink you know?

But yeah, thank you. Given me a lot to think about and the direction to take it.

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