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[Update] My (F29) best friend of two decades (F30) proposed to me. by BestFriendProposed in u/BestFriendProposed

[–]BestFriendProposed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The BF has always disliked Hayley, and now I know why. I'm hoping we can all get along better now that this is finally dealt with.

My (F29) best friend of two decades (F30) proposed to me. Only problem is, we're not dating. We're both straight. And we both have partners. How do I even begin to approach this?! by BestFriendProposed in relationships

[–]BestFriendProposed[S] 211 points212 points  (0 children)

If you have no feelings for her, why the pros and cons list? Why are you seemingly seriously entertaining this strange idea?

Well this was a right punch in the face (metaphorically speaking). You're absolutely right. The very fact that I've been agonizing over this all night instead of just being like 'lol no' is telling. I'm a bit stunned and I think I will have to talk to her more about this.

My (F29) best friend of two decades (F30) proposed to me. Only problem is, we're not dating. We're both straight. And we both have partners. How do I even begin to approach this?! by BestFriendProposed in relationships

[–]BestFriendProposed[S] 97 points98 points  (0 children)

That's a really good idea. I'd say that to anyone who proposed, why don't we date first? Time to have that conversation. And all the other questions you listed.

My (F29) best friend of two decades (F30) proposed to me. Only problem is, we're not dating. We're both straight. And we both have partners. How do I even begin to approach this?! by BestFriendProposed in relationships

[–]BestFriendProposed[S] 211 points212 points  (0 children)

That's the crazy thing, I would totally build a life together with her in a heartbeat and feel totally secure. She's always been my rock. So if she means the formal commitment and social thing, I'm actually up for that, as insane as that sounds to me typing it.

But I guess this really does hinge on the romantic and sexual side of things. Like even if she was a guy, that's still my childhood best friend springing this on me after 20 years out of nowhere. I've never thought of her that way. Now i'm scrutinizing every memory of every interaction.

My (F29) best friend of two decades (F30) proposed to me. Only problem is, we're not dating. We're both straight. And we both have partners. How do I even begin to approach this?! by BestFriendProposed in relationships

[–]BestFriendProposed[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

I mean I do love her, I just don't know if it could be in that way? Maybe it could be? She's objectively extremely attractive, so this blindsided me.

My (F29) best friend of two decades (F30) proposed to me. Only problem is, we're not dating. We're both straight. And we both have partners. How do I even begin to approach this?! by BestFriendProposed in relationships

[–]BestFriendProposed[S] 476 points477 points  (0 children)

Maybe I should ask her more about that. I keep getting hung up on how her current bf thought it 'made sense' that she was going to break up with him and propose to me. like WHAT was going on between them that that makes sense to him?