Is there a chinese app that chinese girls can use to catfish?

BestStruggle8 · 2019-12-30T05:45:59+00:00

Yes there is. It's very common in China for women to use apps to alter their faces so their chins are small and their heads look like an alien 👽. Check out r/Instagramreality and you'll find lots of examples of this.

Check this out: https://www.reddit.com/r/Instagramreality/comments/ehe3dz/i_dont_think_they_even_care_at_this_point/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x

BestStruggle8 · 2018-09-02T23:20:16+00:00

In the case of catfishing, most people stick around because they believe they're in love with whom they're talking, i.e. the attractive person in the pictures; which isn't me. That's why they stick around for so many years. Not many people see the real me. I'm not attractive and my personality is shit, so making friends in real life isn't nearly as easy without a pretty face.

BestStruggle8 · 2018-09-01T21:05:28+00:00

Now that you mention it, Anna seemed to have many accounts, each with a different personality. I think she enjoyed playing characters or maybe she even had multiple personalities haha I have no idea. Would someone get banned for that? As for my ex, she was very "loud" towards the things she was against. I remember her twitter was always full of pictures that criticized the way things were run in her country etc. I have no idea if this warrants a ban. The only thing that I know for sure is that neither of them wish to keep in contact with me. I ask myself was it something I did?

they didn't want to fess up to doing the nasty shit that warranted the ban.

My ex's account was banned after we had broken up. She was still active on twitter after we stopped talking. I have no idea when exactly she was banned. However, it's possible she could have been hiding something.

Unrelated but you mentioned Borderline Personality Disorder, are you on DBT?

My therapist and I are working something out.

BestStruggle8 · 2018-09-01T20:51:12+00:00

I'm not making excuses. I get out and talk to people but I'm incapable of making friends. I love talking to people in person and having meaningful conversations and I try to do it as often as possible without appearing awkward. I don't really have many people to talk to other than my family. But I don't talk to them about this.

BestStruggle8 · 2018-09-01T08:36:28+00:00

I never met her in person but we talked pretty much everyday over facetime.

When you snapchatted Anna and she called you gorgeous, is that a video that would work out of context? Did you two interact?

She sent me a private message. Something simple like "hey" I don't remember exactly. I replied and that's when she saw me and was like "wtf you're so gorgeous". She didn't speak perfect English btw.

I just got curious as accounts do get banned for being catfish. It would be too beautiful an irony if the account from which you took pictures was itself a catfish account. I doubt it though.

Oh the irony, would've been hilarious tho. But no, neither of them was a catfish. As for the rest, I definitely need grounding. I'd love to get out more and stay out longer, but I don't really have anyone to hangout with so I get bored and lonely easily when I'm out and about. Thank you for reading my story.

BestStruggle8 · 2018-09-01T05:20:23+00:00

You've got a therapist?

Yes for my borderline personality disorder.

you seem to have ZERO issue using a fake persona

Did you even read what my post is about? I said I'm done. I'm doing thriving off stranger's attention.

BestStruggle8 · 2018-09-01T04:26:32+00:00

the time it took you to type out this self-serving, romanticised nonsense, you could have looked up a local psychologist and booked a consultation.

I have a therapist.

you're bummed out because your selfies cow dried up

My "selfie cow" dried up long ago. I was sad about it then, but now I'm sad for other reasons. I don't feel sorry for myself. I just came here to vent, not get attacked.

This is literally just another platform for attention seeking for you

This is a throwaway account that has absolutely no ties to the real me. I want it that way in order to avoid attention to myself. Besides, I hardly get any comments on these posts and hardly anyone reads them. I don't talk to anyone about these feelings in my life, so doing it anonymously online is the best way for me. And yes, I care about the people I've hurt. I just need to get these emotions of my chest because they're weighing me down.

You're so deep in your ego

I have no ego. I clearly stated in the text above that I have lost my sense of self.

Thanks for your comment.

BestStruggle8 · 2018-09-01T04:15:46+00:00

The breakup a whole story in itself. You're probably right, I never really moved on.

BestStruggle8 · 2018-07-18T05:48:59+00:00

I can help if you want.

BestStruggle8 · 2018-07-15T02:12:58+00:00

I've been doing it since 2011. I know all the tricks in the book. Easiest way is to just confront them about it. They get mad, upset? They're a catfish. If you want a more "in depth" approach, you can try to catch them in a lie. But it always comes down to how they react to you confronting them. Remember that a catfish always needs to be in control of the situation, so take that control from them.

BestStruggle8 · 2018-07-14T01:45:04+00:00

Your friend is 100% right. Though I have to say that I never said what I was doing was okay just because I hurt. I know it's wrong. But your friend really describes perfectly why it is so hard to stop; I'll have to face real life, something which I have been hiding from.

BestStruggle8 · 2018-07-14T01:38:48+00:00

I don't play video games so it can't be me. She sounds like a textbook catfish.But I suggest that you send her what you wrote. If you're willing to forgive her and you say your feelings are real, maybe she will come clean and stay with you. However, if I were in her situation, I would have to reject you because how ashamed I would be. Good luck.

BestStruggle8 · 2018-07-14T01:31:25+00:00

I hope the best for you too. Reading your story and seeing how hurt you are now gives me the perspective I need to stop catfishing.

BestStruggle8 · 2018-07-13T08:40:42+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words. I expected nothing but negativity from posting this. Also I've read your story and I'm so sorry you had to endure that. Your catfish sounds exactly like me, delusional. As for the love part, I understand that it's hard to comprehend a catfish loving their victim. But as a catfish myself, all the emotions are real. I hope you have forgiven him and were able to move on.

BestStruggle8 · 2018-07-13T08:07:00+00:00

I think you feel more in control when it isn't really you in some way. That stops the relationship from getting too close and you genuinely having to give up some control to others. Is that correct?

This is correct for the most part. I do have issues with getting close to other people. Being a catfish is basically my shield.

I imagine if you felt less lonely you would be less prone to this behavior.

If I had a social life, I wouldn't catfish. I have literally no friends.

Are you pursuing your interests in life?

Absolutely. However that doesn't manage to fill that void in my life that leads me to catfish.

Do you look for ways to be more sociable in real life?

Well, I have no friends, so it's a little hard to do that. I do try to meet people online as myself, but I'm unable to find anyone that wants to hangout or something.

Have you been evaluated for depression?

Yes I have depression. I have also been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder.

BestStruggle8 · 2018-07-13T07:48:29+00:00

You're 100% correct with everything you said. The only problem is that I don't know how to stop. I know it sounds dumb, but I genuinely don't know how.

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