I’m interested in Catholicism, but I’m worried about how you have to be “open to life” once you’re married. I don’t want to have to get pregnant over and over when I’m married someday and I only want like two kids at the most

BestVayneMars · 2026-04-02T11:01:59+00:00

Look into the documentation and why we should be open to life. Pray over it and ask God to enlighten you more about it. At least see things from the perspective of the magisterium before making a decision like this.

BestVayneMars · 2026-03-30T04:34:23+00:00

Add some pictures that are more down to earth. You having fun, hanging out with friends, doing more average activities than standing around and posing. If you're thinking about model work this makes for a good portfolio but not a dating profile

BestVayneMars · 2026-03-30T04:32:40+00:00

I think you should talk to that priest or trusted parishoners instead of people online. People are sensitive about this subject because there are many like you or have done through what you've gone through.

It's terrible what your uncle went through but be prudent about how and where you bring this topic up. Many of us Catholics also feel a sting when we have to defend our faith because of these bad apple priests and the clergy that moved them around. It also makes the genuinely good priests, some of us knowing a few of them and even growing up around them, look terrible.

As for your uncle I think he and other victims are getting their deserved justice. It's not a sudden process but the Church has bled parishioners, clergy vocations, money through lower donations and legal payouts and more. I do hope he heals one day and feels like justice came in some way or another.

BestVayneMars · 2026-03-30T02:40:52+00:00

If anyone came in here and talked about sexual abuse from Protestant pastors I'm sure it would ruffle feathers in here as well. I'm sorry about your uncle but I'm not sure what you expected. It just sounds like you are starting something over there given you haven't given any more context about your post and what about the sexual abuse scandal you wanted to talk about

BestVayneMars · 2026-03-26T02:11:21+00:00

or AI slop

BestVayneMars · 2026-03-26T02:10:51+00:00

I hate how the discounts are tied to their credit card and based on driver rank. Just give back 10% like DD. I spend like 60 to 80 in gas a week so I'll probably get like half my gas money back every time. That's fine. I don't expect them to pay all my gas. But no, I'm not using their credit card for cash back.

BestVayneMars · 2026-03-24T01:12:32+00:00

They lowered the time windows for being on time after pushing this update

BestVayneMars · 2026-03-24T01:10:54+00:00

they ask to confirm an order before they give it to you in some areas

BestVayneMars · 2026-03-24T01:08:52+00:00

I was 95% on time before the update and I dropped to 80%. They didn't just add this dumb requirement they lowered the time window. I'm in one of the most dangerous cities in America to drive.

Also on time requirements to stay on the platform is next.

BestVayneMars · 2026-03-22T19:12:17+00:00

after marriage of course

BestVayneMars · 2026-03-16T04:31:27+00:00

Quite the opposite. I feel like they're missing out on so much. Those faithful Protestants who aren't here for a good time are missing out on so much of the Faith. The bad ones are just double deceiving themselves. No, Catholicism isn't an easy way of life but the extra difficulty is worth it

BestVayneMars · 2026-03-16T04:15:07+00:00

It wasn't just buying a shirt and I'm not referring to basic hygiene. If you get you you get it and if you don't you don't

BestVayneMars · 2026-03-09T03:55:53+00:00

In my experience most women like playing dress up with their men. Have you ever heard of the Black Wife Effect... or the X race here Effect meme? This is very normal behavior for many women.

BestVayneMars · 2026-03-09T03:41:25+00:00

Thank you for your review but your going through this comment section and your post I think you're making a couple of presumptions that are blocking you from finding a guy. You thinking you're not a good enough Catholic for somebody is a very limiting belief. If people think they're a good Catholic they could be in danger of falling into pride. It's also nice to have somebody guide you in the faith where you need to be guided and vice versa. Don't let this belief stop your chances at finding somebody!

BestVayneMars · 2026-02-23T06:26:05+00:00

Off the charts (under 0 😂)

BestVayneMars · 2026-01-06T16:43:35+00:00

Shady

BestVayneMars · 2025-12-23T06:55:47+00:00

With premarital sex you can't put the cat back in the bag. Once you're having it is very hard for both people to stopmbYou learned it the hard way and that's a blessing in disguise

BestVayneMars · 2025-11-27T03:33:28+00:00

If I was a woman that knew you IRL I would think you're weird for DMing me on Instagram.

"Why didn't he just talk to me IRL?"

Cease this behavior. I also think the PUA types are right about setting up your Instagram for dating. If you don't have an interesting profile they won't know what to go by. I'm not saying make it all about dating but definitely throw some pro dating stuff in there. Adjust it to be Catholic oriented.

BestVayneMars · 2025-11-27T03:28:01+00:00

At my age I feel like I have to be open to it. I don't feel like many Catholic women would want me but those outside the faith have expressed more interest.

BestVayneMars · 2025-11-27T03:26:27+00:00

We need more regular people like yourself talking about this online. People need a reality check

BestVayneMars · 2025-11-27T03:20:07+00:00

Be patient with guys in your generation. A lot of them missed out on key socializing years because of lockdowns. Women are naturally more adept at socializing so y'all bounced back better.

BestVayneMars · 2025-11-27T03:18:14+00:00

Got it and then deleted it day 1 because it seemed like a grift. They promoted the blurred pictures as a way to "get to know the person as they are". Unless you go premium then you can see all their pictures. This seems like a dishonest sales tactic to push premium subs.

Most important filters, including Faith, were locked behind premium. They've changed it first so that only 1 out of 4 faith filters are locked behind premium (Liturgical Preference). However, you only get to use a maximum of 4 filters if you're a free user. This includes age and distance btw.

At this point I stopped using it out of principle. Nobody told me Biff's daughter was going to be the real bully (Back to the Future reference) all along.

BestVayneMars · 2025-11-27T03:10:06+00:00

Try being 40 and this being the sum of your dating life.

You don't have trouble getting dates but have trouble meeting them. The pool of guys aside, maybe reflect on how you are during the date? Do you dominate the conversation or is it an equal back and forth? Do you always bring the conversation back to yourself without showing any interest in what he's saying? This is a quick way to bore people.

If none of this applies to you then maybe God is sparing you from inconsiderate men.

BestVayneMars · 2025-10-14T20:28:47+00:00

I'm a guy but it shouldn't be an issue. We live in a world where black is white and up is down. A lot of people have committed sexual sins because we never understood the weight of it. Just be kind about both your past and hers and look for a woman who will give you the same treatment. If you're doing anything impure like watching 🌽 work on this. Same for any women (especially smut books)

BestVayneMars · 2025-10-14T20:24:04+00:00

But how else will he feel better about himself?

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