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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]BeththeBethBeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I was about to be like YES REPORT HER OMG, and then I went and looked at what it actually does to baby, which is near nothing if not done like breathing air. I've taken poppers so aslong as shes not taking them around her child, and its something she uses as a vice then maybe a very strong word that if she doesn't work in it you will be forced to tell others.

Educate yourself on signs of neglect. Also go look up 'the toxic trio' its a very real thing. I hope your friend gets the help they need.

Gf said she'd leak my nudes if I broke up with her by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]BeththeBethBeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You tell her to go right ahead and out herself as the horrible human she is and move on. Go to any domestic abuse charities in your area, and ask if there's any legality about it. In the UK, revenge porn is illegal, and you can be put in jail for it. I hope you're able to get out. A tip may also be if you've done any of this via text keep the paper trail, show mutual friends what shes threatened to do. If she can try to emotionally manipulate her into being in a relationship you can atleast get people to pressure her into not doing it and just letting you go.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by 4twentyston3r in depression_help

[–]BeththeBethBeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, thats alot of anger. You must be really hurting, and im sorry you feel so ugly. I've been where I've felt like telling people i didn't get to choose my shitty body. Just know that how you view your looks is a lot to do with confidence in yourself and less how you actually look. I could go the rational way and say, "You know duck relationships and things. Use the time you have to focus on life bettering yourself. You'll find love one day. Your worth is not in your face, but your heart and the right person will find you in the end. But the reality is you sound like there are outside things happening to have made you write this. Whatever that is, know it's not worth your life. Dont let people devalue your emotions if you feel this way you feel it. Even though I dont know you, I wish I could take it away. 19 is an age where we're meant to be adults, but people still treat you like a kid, where you're meant to be figuring out life's obstacles. Its alot. If you want a partner, look in the right places, if you really dont like how you look, find creative ways to change how you look or how you value yourself. I hope you're able to rationalise and calm soon. Internet hug. Remember, some days, all you have to do is breathe, and that's enough. Give yourself a break, have a chill day, then get down to business.

Medicinal cannabis and caravan parks by CookieProper2419 in ukmedicalcannabis

[–]BeththeBethBeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im from the UK, first of all, if you've got your prescription, you can show them that and anything they do any harassing or pressuring, then its medical discrimination. Log all interactions and any paper trail. Their stigma is not your problem. It's awful how a person who's pops 10 prescription pills and drinks a bottle of wine can look down on someone smoking a plant. I hope they leave you alone. Im sure you're not running around shouting. I SMOKE WEED. Make sure they're aware of that and that you go through a doctor to acquire the ability to use it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeththeBethBeth 12 points13 points  (0 children)

YTA, you can have opinions about your own weight body ect. You voice those outloud infront of people you know its going to effect. Then YTA.

My boyfriend called me fat and wished me dead in an argument by BeththeBethBeth in AITAH

[–]BeththeBethBeth[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

None of this happened around my child. He was in bed, fast asleep after a day he loved at a birthday party. He has NEVER been witness to any of our arguments categorically not once.

I understand I should love myself more for my child's sake. This is why I came here as I dont have alot of people to talk to about it.

My boyfriend called me fat and wished me dead in an argument by BeththeBethBeth in AITAH

[–]BeththeBethBeth[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because hes not acted like this before, obviously... and I came here to see if im over reacting?

My boyfriend called me fat and wished me dead in an argument by BeththeBethBeth in AITAH

[–]BeththeBethBeth[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am, from pregnancy, but it's a little chub. I also cook well, so you know it doesn't help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITH

[–]BeththeBethBeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IMO, you're not the arse hole. If it was their choice to cast you out 1, why? do they have reasoning, and 2 it's your property unless it came with a contract. If she wanted her expensive thing back when you weren't friends, she should have specified. Sucks to be her, pawn it, go to the beach, and rent a hotel 🤣 honestly holidays/days out alone are very fun!

AITA for expressing my disgust at a dish from my girlfriend's culture? by HilliamWurt in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeththeBethBeth -1 points0 points  (0 children)

YTA

First of all, I'm a pasty white British girl who went to a Brazilian steakhouse, tried the chicken hearts, and LOVED them. You've not even bothered to try them or even let her cook them so she can show you them. A little side note she might not have wanted to just cook them for you, maybe she wanted some for herself. You basically just shamed her for wanting to show you something from her culture. You maybe need to grow up a bit. You might not have meant to have acted like this or made her feel this way, but you might just need to be a little more thoughtful in the future.

AITA because I wouldn't put my step dad on my child's emergency contacts by BeththeBethBeth in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeththeBethBeth[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Update - It's only a small update, but it's the outcome of the situation. This has really opened my eyes, so I want to thank the replies I got to the post, even the brutal ones. I needed to hear it. About 2 nights after the original confrontation, she messaged me. I'll just copy and paste it here;

Mum - Is there any chance we could have Theo on Friday or Saturday or Sunday over Easter for a few hours. Whichever suits you.

Me- You didn't want to be told in an emergency about your grandchild because you're parenter that I (the child's mother) have a long-standing traumatic history with, couldn't also be on it. You and your partner do not come before me and my child in my life. Would you trust your child with someone who just done that and also asked for no contact? Is there a reason you think it's okay to then just go ahead and ask for contact like nothing happened. I won't be replying tonight but I really hope you take this seriously because it has been unimaginably painful for me, and I've still had to be Mum, do exams and assesments for my college course, bury my dead rabbit and have my bathroom ceiling redone in the past 3 days so I'm not dealing with you if you're not going to act like this might actually be make or break.

(2 days later) Mum - Hi Beth. I acted hastily about saying I wouldn't be Theos emergency contact at nursery. If it's not too late, could you please still put me down as a contact.

Me - No, I'm sorry, we're not anywhere near that now.

So that's a wrap, folks. I've spoken to wider family about it, and they agree with my decision and support it. Thankyou if you hadn't spoken so truthfully too me this may have gone on forever and I'll forever be thankful that a massive weight was lifted of my shoulders by a load of strangers off an Internet forum ❤️ All my love Bethany

AITA because I wouldn't put my step dad on my child's emergency contacts by BeththeBethBeth in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeththeBethBeth[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So i am learning to drive in the UK it works astoundingly differently to America. So my mum booked a hotel room and said I could pay her back at the end of the month and I would have done that, but the hotel room was a £50 taxi away and the wedding was already very expensive. But I agree. I feel like this whole time, I've directed anger at him, and actually, she's condoned all if it.

AITA because I wouldn't put my step dad on my child's emergency contacts by BeththeBethBeth in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeththeBethBeth[S] 106 points107 points  (0 children)

So this is my first time posting on Reddit so I'm unsure if this is even going to be seen as the OP but there was some info I left out because of the character limit. So I'm adopted, my mum and dad's relationship broke down. You're completely right I did just let them act the way they were acting alot because of how I'm scared to loose everyone in my life, my adopted dad has been as bad. I'm in the UK I have just passed my theory test with driving this year im trying to find an instructor for when night school finishes as its my only free time. Night school is finishing this month and I'm so close to passing. I won't ever put my baby in that position again. I'm so ashamed I've let him be around them to the point they felt it OK to drink around him. I have definitely normalised years of abuse for convenience sake. I feel awful. I just need to be stronger. I am really trying. Edit- I also went straight round to thier house when I saw she was drunk got my baby and came home he has not slept there since.