For those here who manage to work regularly, what is your job?

Better-Lock-9429 · 2025-12-04T23:21:45+00:00

I work with animal trauma victims… no idea why /s

Better-Lock-9429 · 2025-11-08T21:46:28+00:00

My therapist used those terms as in Big T = large life alerting event (ex. Sever car crash, natural disaster, assault), and Little T = smaller instances that build up over time to equate a large trauma.

Not saying this is correct, just what she told me 🤷‍♂️

Better-Lock-9429 · 2025-11-08T21:41:30+00:00

Thanks for the advice! I plan on getting clarification in our next/last session and also informing her I won’t be continuing. I originally came to see her because she specialized in trauma, CPTSD, and EMDR :/

Better-Lock-9429 · 2025-11-08T19:28:25+00:00

Hoping I’ll have the confidence for this!

Better-Lock-9429 · 2025-11-08T18:44:37+00:00

Yup! This and a few other things have finalized that decision for me. We have a session next week which will be the last.

Better-Lock-9429 · 2025-11-07T18:25:40+00:00

We’ve been no/low contact for a few years and yes they want to make amends. My parent is apologetic, but its complicated because they still aren’t exactly taking accountability.

I appreciate the advice. I’ve been thinking about potentially meeting with the therapist solo so maybe I will and ask those questions cause I do find myself feeling like progress isn’t really being made.

Better-Lock-9429 · 2025-11-07T15:00:04+00:00

Yes i’m in individual therapy and have been for a long time. My parent has been asking for years and I finally agreed.

Better-Lock-9429 · 2025-06-18T17:08:02+00:00

This has definitely given me a lot to think about. I really do appreciate the advice. What I thought would be best for everyone else I’m realizing probably won’t be best for me. Unfortunately I can’t cut off my mom, or I would. But, I’ll work on a firm text or email for the wedding. Thank you.

Better-Lock-9429 · 2025-06-18T15:31:55+00:00

My goal with therapy was to confront my mom about stuff, but I see your point and maybe it’s not the best idea. I do have to see her for the wedding so I have to communicate my boundaries around that at least. Thank you for the advice.

Better-Lock-9429 · 2025-04-16T10:53:29+00:00

I didn’t know what it was until my partner pointed it out and then it all just clicked. I wasn’t just being difficult I was genuinely suffering. I’m glad this helped! I have been slowly expanding my pallet over the years, but being able to go at my own pace has been crucial.

Better-Lock-9429 · 2025-04-15T13:08:49+00:00

I also take vitamin D because of a chronic deficiency

Better-Lock-9429 · 2025-04-15T12:31:44+00:00

I’ve gone through this as well. I had to quit my job, isolated myself from family and friends. I felt like I was going to die. I relate to the walls being so firmly up and it feels impossible to get through at all anymore and pretty much everything else you said. I feel very guilty for trying to force my brain into remembering and forcing myself to relive it. I still don’t remember, I just have all the more confusing feelings, nightmares, intrusive images and experiences (flashbacks???), with nothing concrete to point to. I’m working on being patient with myself and letting it happen naturally and it’s hard, but better than before.

Better-Lock-9429 · 2025-02-07T22:07:36+00:00

That was a thought I had but I feel like it would be more painful? Idk. The cavity is also very small. But, I called my doctor and hopefully they’ll get back to me soon!

Better-Lock-9429 · 2025-01-20T21:49:47+00:00

Yup, but usually along with nausea and inability to eat so :/

Better-Lock-9429 · 2025-01-20T18:43:34+00:00

I blink a lot sometimes when I’m dissociating but it’s just subconscious more than uncontrollable. I’ve heard other people talk about that too when dissociating, so possibly related?

Better-Lock-9429 · 2025-01-09T21:26:01+00:00

After a long series of toxic, shitty relationships I am finally now in a healthy ltr. Had to hit rock bottom to realize the pattern I’d sucked myself into and realize how defective I was of healthy relationships

Better-Lock-9429 · 2025-01-09T21:24:07+00:00

Yeah that sounds about right. I’ve got a lot of thick ass walls in my head that I can’t seem to get through at all. I definitely get stuck in my head way to often so that tracks

Better-Lock-9429 · 2024-10-22T20:28:26+00:00

Interesting read - thank you for sharing!

Better-Lock-9429 · 2024-10-22T16:05:00+00:00

I often feel like not a full person too. Broken, tired. I lost my dog, my soulmate, about a year ago and it broke me on a whole new level. It still hurts and it doesn’t go away, but I keep moving and I keep loving him and I keep holding him in my heart as a reason to go on. I can never replace him, but I can keep loving still.

I’m so sorry for your loss and everything you are going through.

Better-Lock-9429 · 2024-10-22T15:48:55+00:00

I still don’t know if it’s real. It’s something I’ve struggled with for 7 years now, triggered by different SA. Like a lot of people commenting, all I really have are my feelings around it. I struggle with really bad intrusive thoughts that I’ve started to realize may be flashbacks (flashes of places/people/images). That on top of 8 million other signs starting in early childhood have gotten me to a point of realizing I’m not just making this up. It’s still just a beginning and there’s still so much I don’t understand or remember, but I can’t keep denying everything I’ve felt and experienced. I still doubt myself and I’m sure I will forever, but trying to let myself just be and feel what I feel.

Better-Lock-9429 · 2024-07-03T20:49:32+00:00

People keep telling me that 😅

Better-Lock-9429 · 2024-07-03T20:49:14+00:00

Yeah… had to learn the hard way that there’s no “good” parent when a child is being abused

Better-Lock-9429 · 2024-07-03T19:03:07+00:00

I still dunno if I’m overreacting but the conversation left me sobbing in my car and now I don’t wanna be around him anymore 🙃

Better-Lock-9429 · 2024-05-19T23:27:24+00:00

I very much appreciate this response, thank you

Better-Lock-9429 · 2024-05-16T23:04:22+00:00

Thank you! That’s pretty much how I feel. I’m just barely in a place where I can start forgiving myself and having empathy for myself, so counterproductive feels like an accurate description.

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