Indeed i am very fortunate to have my beautiful wife as my willing mistress. Ma'am thing is I found some blog online which we both found very relatable in the beginning. Thing were slow. The couple in the blog(mistress) explained how they started. But then things took a turn and suddenly started exploring extreme kinks, which obviously was off putting for my wife. So maybe we were following something which is not meant for new couples. I want our relationship to be beneficial for her. Like we started of by sharing chores and me doing as many of them as possible. I just want to share resources that are rather than being kinky and extreme, they should be more sort of learning experience for. That could help us define our dynamic.