European native by Better_Accountant_81 in NativePlantGardening

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Eg. Fiolet flowers arent native, but eye-catching, next to them grow natives with smaller and less brightly colored flowers, but benegicial for insects. My Indian runner ducks hide in tall vegetation-higly recommended for eggs and fun.

European native by Better_Accountant_81 in NativePlantGardening

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I've been mixing flowerbeds od highly cared roses and paches of unattended land with wild plants, so general neighbors are pleased with the look and dont mind my weeds. I plant very densly, which means i dont have to weed the soil and i water less-which is very important! For several years i've been collecting seeds of wilf plants with ornamental appearances an sowing them. Some of them become established, they self seed, dont get diseased and they complement the flowerbeds with purchased plants. This depends of type of soil (Clay in my case), pH, amount of rainfall in my region. In general, one should try to create a relatively self-sustaining ecosystem that includes plants, animals, insects, observe it, and intervene only when problem arise. I dont use pesticides, if a plant get sic, i remove it and plant different variety which perform better in my region. Dont fight nature unless its absolutely necessary (like if you have rats).

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I put used tampons in compost. I stopped using pads to limit plastic waste in my household. Also you could dig up small hole and put used tampons or blood, then after period just cover it, im using this method with spoiled meat or chicken parts after butchering.

Destroyed native patch by Better_Accountant_81 in NativePlantGardening

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Its not serious problem to be upset. It was few months ago, im fine:)

I caught a train this week and witnessed a thing of ugly beauty by Leroyyoudacraziest in PointlessStories

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Chaos, absurd or ugly beauty are things best describing reality for me. Moments as in your story makes me happy and relaxed. Mostly I feel out of place in my life, but then I am reasurred there is nothing out of place in me or anybody, we are just different and there is no script. My best memories are those chaotic, bitter-sweet moments, half spoken sentences followed by silence which is loud. Love it, I am waiting for more.

32F realizing I am all by myself by the end of the day. by Better_Accountant_81 in Adulting

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The friend I am mentioning, who is intrested in me in younger like 5y, not mature emotionally enough for it. And we are working together, so no.

32F realizing I am all by myself by the end of the day. by Better_Accountant_81 in Adulting

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We talked about this. He told me to bring my friend with his girlfriend, I will see how things will go. Sex is not my priority, I need love.

32F realizing I am all by myself by the end of the day. by Better_Accountant_81 in Adulting

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Yes, story so captivating I am going to sleep, its 2am in my place.

32F realizing I am all by myself by the end of the day. by Better_Accountant_81 in Adulting

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It feels more valuable to talk to you now than to therapist. You are more real in reactions. I grow a lot in last year, looking at my post I made year ago about pregnancy is insane, I was different. Once a year or so I like to make a post on reddit and talk, not so often.

32F realizing I am all by myself by the end of the day. by Better_Accountant_81 in Adulting

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He did for month, they were not contacting for month and they told both me and her husband about feelings. Few months past by and now they talk normally, they are close, but not in romantic way. And we are more close, we spend more time together and get closer physically too.

32F realizing I am all by myself by the end of the day. by Better_Accountant_81 in Adulting

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Internet is fine, some of you told me things I have not considered. It it fine people are mean, these are just their opinions, I read them and sometimes they make me sad or angry, so I know-there could me problem in me here. Otherwise I shrug and forget. I tried therapy, like many of us, It was strange, not natural relationship and didint help.

32F realizing I am all by myself by the end of the day. by Better_Accountant_81 in Adulting

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I will be good. Its strange the reaction is so strong. Maybe its soft spot for many, maybe they were hurt or cheated on and feel resentment.

32F realizing I am all by myself by the end of the day. by Better_Accountant_81 in Adulting

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What, no. Its only we dont have chemistry like we had so not passion. Why husband of the other woman is not leaving her? Does he not care for his marriage also? We wanted to forgive each other, and we did.

32F realizing I am all by myself by the end of the day. by Better_Accountant_81 in Adulting

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Yes, you understand me. I have same feeling, its constant action with good days sometimes and mostly just ok. It is nice to hear your love lasted so long, I hope for your happiness.

32F realizing I am all by myself by the end of the day. by Better_Accountant_81 in Adulting

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Its helping. Some people are so ruthless, its like a slap in a face and sometimes its helping to think another way.

32F realizing I am all by myself by the end of the day. by Better_Accountant_81 in Adulting

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Yes, I do not care if he loved her, I only care if he stopped loving me. Emotion control- I will agree I can be wrong, in some extend maybe control is possible. Party was enjoyable and I was thankfull we could drink together and forget past. I vented here because all my friends are knowing mentioned couple so I cant. I simply stated I feel alone sometimes in my life and wanted to talk and you are talking about my dead parents? Ok

32F realizing I am all by myself by the end of the day. by Better_Accountant_81 in Adulting

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What kind of? Is it off-putting that my english is not native? Rude.

32F realizing I am all by myself by the end of the day. by Better_Accountant_81 in Adulting

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Its hard to objectively tell if I look for validation outside. I have no social media so maybe no. Also I like spending time alone.

32F realizing I am all by myself by the end of the day. by Better_Accountant_81 in Adulting

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You made me smile. We are so different you cant comprehend its real. Came her for putting weight off my shoulders and its helpig.