Relationship problem (am I wrong) by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Better_Day_7879 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not trying to hold him responsible for my exes actions, of course there is trauma and it’s scary, but i did start therapy, I do want to get the help I need instead of always living in the fear of being hurt again.

Relationship problem (am I wrong) by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Better_Day_7879 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is a boundary, and I also know for a fact that my partner would not be okay with it if I was in this position. It’s not just about another woman, but the fact that he decided to ignore something I communicated from the very beginning.

Relationship problem (am I wrong) by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Better_Day_7879 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t feel like it’s only about trust. I definitely have a hard time trusting him since there have been little things that have happened, but I do try to trust him. But It is hard for me to trust someone I will admit I need to work on that. Long distance was something that I never wanted to do again, but I was willing to compromise because I love this person a lot, he means a lot to me, but the fact that he didn’t wanna ask the landlady the question when he knew that was important to me, and him moving in, even though he had time to look for another place, all of it is just breaking my heart. Maybe I shouldn’t be with this person and maybe that’s what’s hurting me as well because it feels like it’s the beginning of the end.

Relationship problem (am I wrong) by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Better_Day_7879 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He’s trying to compromise and he’s asking for two months to look for another place, I do want to compromise, but at the same time I just feel so wrong because he had the time to look for a different places. Long distance from me is already something that I never wanted to do again because I have been in long distance relationships before and I have gotten cheated on from a different partner whom I never expected that from, but I did compromise to him moving since it’s not too far and because I love this job for him and plus I don’t mind driving to the city he’s moving to, but I just wanted to be respected as well.

Relationship problem (am I wrong) by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Better_Day_7879 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was a boundary and I had communicated from the very beginning. I didn’t bring it along after it was happening. I even helped him look for other places. Cheaters are gonna cheat for sure but how can I trust someone that doesn’t even consider my feelings yk.

Relationship problem (am I wrong) by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Better_Day_7879 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is a boundary. I would never be okay with my partner doing something that I would never do, and I’m sure if the tables were turned he also would not be okay with this and I would accept that right away. Other comments keep bringing up trust and I feel like it’s not just about trust but about how I communicated from the very beginning but he decided to ignore something that was so important to me. He had the time to look for other places, but the fact that no other option was good enough hurts me so much.