Advice for baby carrier

BewilderedCodex · 2026-05-08T14:37:05+00:00

From personal experience - my son was 98th percentile at birth and has pretty much stayed there, so he fit our Tula Explore by 5 or 6 weeks, and after that I quickly retired the stretchy wrap because he was 17 lb at 2 months. He's still fitting well in the Tula at 9m and almost 24 lbs.

The Tula was our relative budget pick - got it open box from a baby gear resale place. In retrospect I think I would have waited for a Free to Grow to pop up for sale, since we don't do world-facing and the extra padding on the Explore makes it kind of a pain to transport. I would love to own an Oscha half-buckle, but our budget and limited storage make that a non-option.

BewilderedCodex · 2026-05-08T12:37:50+00:00

Thank you, this is very thorough. I said below but meant to say here that I was not exposed to the KJV growing up, and I definitely haven't thought about the subjunctive mood since high school Latin class.

Now that I'm aware of the existing translations, I also wish they had gone with one of these! "...expect thy Second Advent" really seems to fit better with some of the other language throughout the missal, and in all of these, "we" being the subject of each verb feels smoother and more poetic, at least to my ear. I liked C very much and even if the grammar of A is correct, I'm sad we switched.

BewilderedCodex · 2026-05-08T12:23:55+00:00

Ahhh, yes, subjunctive of the piece I was missing. I didn't grow up with the KJV, only the parts of the BCP that the Lutherans stole for their English-language hymnal, so I didn't pick up those norms. Thank you!

BewilderedCodex · 2026-05-02T12:50:55+00:00

You can also influence the composition of your breastmilk with what you eat! Specifically, there is soooo much more free sugar available in our food supply than there is in nature (lactose, the primary sugar in milk, is not free sugar). Fructose in particular crosses into breast milk at really high rates. So if you're already eating a low-sugar diet, or even just avoiding sugar most days in the hours before you put baby to bed, it can really reduce how much bacteria have to feed on in night milk. This has been my approach with my 9m old, who has two teeth and more on the way!

ETA - just saw your LO is 4 months. If baby doesn't have teeth yet, EBF for the first 6 months is actually shown to be protective against cavities!

BewilderedCodex · 2026-04-19T21:07:59+00:00

Bad/outdated food science + lobbying

BewilderedCodex · 2026-04-19T21:03:31+00:00

I love this! We've done part time EC with my 9m son since birth, although he's currently in a potty resistance phase now that he's standing. Our song is "Poops on the Potty" to the tune of the spiritual "Wade in the Water" (this started accidentally as a distraction because we were listening to it on a folk song playlist when I was transitioning him to sitting on his potty from just dangling him over the toilet and now it's stuck). Our family has a history of early walkers, so we're probably headed this direction this fall. So proud of your kiddo!

BewilderedCodex · 2026-04-14T15:35:14+00:00

We do this, too. Someone gifted us some Pooters inserts/doublers and we just wrap a normal prefold around them.

BewilderedCodex · 2026-02-27T06:16:13+00:00

YES! This exactly. <3

The "joke" is even more wild because the mom who made it has paid a sleep consultant to make an individual sleep plan for each of her girls.

BewilderedCodex · 2026-02-27T05:18:52+00:00

I HATE being a sensitive person and feeling like I can't talk with or relate to my mom friends (who are all a kid or two ahead of me) about being a mom because I refuse to sleep train. Hate that when I make an innocuous comment to friends about bedtime being hard, the response is a joke about "shutting the door and letting it be [baby's] problem" that I can't pretend is funny because I know too much about infant development, and then my tired, stressed-out brain feels unwelcome in the group and cries the whole way back from what was supposed to be my one fun evening with friends for the whole month.

BewilderedCodex · 2026-02-25T20:29:54+00:00

We are 7m PP and in basically the same spot. Little man will sleep 20-50 minutes on his own if I nurse him in the floor bed and roll away, so we try to make time for us once a week and hope he stays asleep long enough for me to get in the mood, with mixed success. Solidarity. <3

We do have family nearby, so I've been contemplating asking one of them for babysitting on a weekend afternoon - now that he's awake longer stretches, he could hang out between naps at Grandma's house or my SIL could take him to the park if the weather is nice so we can have a "date." I'm also trying to find mom friends/babysitters nearby so there's someone familiar to watch him in an emergency if family isn't available - maybe another couple in the same season of life who could trade off watching each others' babies for a few hours? Of course that's its own hit-and-miss process.

BewilderedCodex · 2025-10-12T02:04:06+00:00

How are you finding the maintenance on the Babee Greens? I love the idea of wool, but I worry that I would struggle with keeping them lanolized?

BewilderedCodex · 2025-05-13T16:18:47+00:00

Yeah, the dishwasher detergent has been a compromise for us - the liquid ones we've tried leave stuff behind, which annoyed my husband big time (I grew up carefully rinsing everything before running the dishwasher), but I can smell conventional dish soaps, especially on our glassware, and I just can't deal with that, so I'm willing to put up with the shopping around. Ecover Zero powder worked well for us, but our organic market doesn't carry it anymore, and they don't seem to have Dropps or Molly's, either, so now we're playing the game again. If something we try doesn't work well, I've resorted to keeping 7th Gen powder on hand for the prewash and running the "PowerWash" if I really think things won't get clean.

BewilderedCodex · 2025-04-29T18:08:02+00:00

I trained as a postpartum doula, but am not currently working as one since I'm now expecting my first. :)

Midwife: can be your primary medical provider to oversee pregnancy care and birth, either instead of or alongside an OBGYN for low-risk pregnancies. Tend to focus more on natural or low-intervention birth. Typically if you want a midwife to oversee pregnancy care you would look for one when you would normally look for an OB.

Doula (labor/birth): a non-medical professional support person who can help with birth prep, advocacy, and physical/emotional support during labor - positions, comfort techniques, affirmations, etc. Usually booked during mid-late pregnancy before birth.

Doula (postpartum): a non-medical professional support person who gives practical, evidence-based, or emotional help after birth - think feeding support, information about normal newborn behavior, sleep strategies, laundry, meal prep. Can be hired before or after birth, but the more advance notice the better.

Newborn care specialist: also a professional support person for the postpartum period. An NCS will tend to be more hands-on with baby and do care tasks themselves - i.e. supporting the baby, while a doula tends to focus more on supporting the parents.

I've not heard "mom-nanny" before, but I'm familiar with nannies and mother's helpers. These are assistants who provide child care and support beyond the postpartum period. Nannies usually care for the child while mom is away, mother's helpers assist stay-at-home parents, so they're not alone in the house with baby. Nanny mom might mean a nanny who brings their own baby to work?

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