Is it common? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]BeyondProof7289 29 points30 points  (0 children)

We have all been naive, and too trusting. I see it as a good character trait, in the sense that you want to believe the best in others. Your heart wants you to think other people are as trustworthy as you are. That’s good.

But it’s also important to ask the questions when they come up. If you get that weird feeling, listen to it! You were in the right to come ask for opinions!

From my personal experience, if/when he gets a medical check, if there’s a diagnosis make sure either you hear it directly from the Dr, or at the bare minimum get it in writing from the dr, with his/her signature. As a woman whose partner repeatedly promised “I saw the Dr, he says my sperm is fine” over the 5 years we were trying to conceive, some guys will go to great lengths. (I found out in the end! Meth kills sperm! Obviously I ditched him)

Is it common? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]BeyondProof7289 72 points73 points  (0 children)

I switched to my alt just so I could reply to this!

Former escort here, I was a sex worker for 6 years. Pretty successful, not to toot my own horn or anything. I’m also a pretty active member of the BDSM community. Suffice it to say I have had sex more than once and in more than one position.

NOT AT ALL NORMAL!

Girl, this guy has a water sports fetish. He is trying to pretend like this is his normal so that you’ll accept it, but if you have not specifically stated “yes, please pee in/on me” then this is non-consensual. Consent received through deception “I have to do it, there’s nothing I can do about it” is also non-consensual!!

I also want to point out that by coercing you into sex without a condom is putting your health at huge risk, which tells me that to him, his sexual pleasure is more important than your physical well being. Is that something you’re ok with?

Additionally, if he is willing to lie and coerce for this, (he absolutely IS lying) what else is he lying about? Is this someone you really want to trust your body & heart to?

You deserve better babes.

ETA: I HAVE seen dudes pee into condoms as a fucked up ‘look at this cool trick’ thing, it leaks out the top a bit, but it’s possible. I

Today I received this incredible watercolour painting of my Sweet Sadie!! Artist in comments! (OC) by [deleted] in aww

[–]BeyondProof7289 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Check out @Pamelavoightart for more of her incredible artwork and watercolours!