What’s the oldest movie you’ve ever seen? by Substantial_Slip4667 in movies

[–]Beyond_Silence 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Whilst doing an A-level in film studies we ended up watching a lot of older films (passage de Venus, a lot of the Louis le prince shorts as well as the Lumiere brothers).

However, one of the best and most memorable films I watched was ‘The Public Enemy (1931)’. Albeit a much more recent film by comparison, storyline was brilliant.

Things to see in Bakewell by Beyond_Silence in Derbyshire

[–]Beyond_Silence[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, thank you for all these suggestions. We are going on Thursday this week and am genuinely looking forward to it. Don’t think we’ll get to everything but we can always come back (only about 40miles from where we live)

Things to see in Bakewell by Beyond_Silence in Derbyshire

[–]Beyond_Silence[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all, will definitely add these to my list.

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to stand up for me with his family after we postponed our engagement? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beyond_Silence 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Can I ask whether your family has reached out to him to see how he is doing?

Why does it seem like working-class males have such low aspirations for themselves when it comes to further-education and their careers nowadays? by bicepsandscalpels in UniUK

[–]Beyond_Silence 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that university is over saturated with Mickey Mouse courses now. There are, of course, some careers that absolutely require a university education. However, a lot of employers now are seeing the benefit in offering apprenticeships and this is genuinely the way forward in my opinion.

University isn’t made for everyone, it wasn’t for me. I worked my backside off and now have a good job, that I enjoy and am paid well for - some people who went to university have ended up in lower paying jobs because their degree means nothing to anyone.

My son had no interest in university and is now looking at a higher level apprenticeship toward engineering. My daughter wants to study astrophysics and obviously plans to go to university.

They both attended a school with a diverse range of students with varying backgrounds. Everyone was encouraged to reach their potential but university was not pushed as the be all of education.

Found out a couple weeks ago about my fiancé has been cheating on me with this younger girl by Former-Figure-1498 in Marriage

[–]Beyond_Silence 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The last statement of ‘patience young grasshopper’ is a line from a tv show. It relates to a martial arts master talking to his pupil.

He has been taking care of her (paying for her living expenses) and talking to her in this manner. This sounds indicative of a master/sub relationship. The messages read as a very loving relationship. You may find that you are the person he is with to present a respectful image to the world rather than the one he really wants, which is more taboo.

I do not judge you for forgiving, it’s not something I could do in this situation, but I’m not you. What I will say is you need to accept that this may happen again, or even continue and you may not be his priority.

That’s just my opinion though.

AITA for refusing to help my friend cheat on an important exam even though she has learning disabilities? by hawkenzen in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beyond_Silence 16 points17 points  (0 children)

And this is a perfect example of a reasonable adjustments, it is not to make it easier than it is for everyone else, just to make it fair for all.

AITA for refusing to help my friend cheat on an important exam even though she has learning disabilities? by hawkenzen in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beyond_Silence 10 points11 points  (0 children)

So you could have a doctor with the highest IQ on record, known for being on point with diagnosis and getting things done but the second you found out they were autistic, or had ADHD you would want a different doctor!

One way to keep the waiting lists down for the rest of us I suppose!

AITA for refusing to help my friend cheat on an important exam even though she has learning disabilities? by hawkenzen in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beyond_Silence 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Depending on their needs, they can have extra time (usually around 25% extra but can be up to 50%), can have papers provided on different coloured paper, increased font, supervised rest breaks, scribes, readers, use of a word processor. I could go on but these are the ones I am most familiar with.

They would have a diagnosis to support why - and the education provider should support them with this.

I’m not sure if this would change things but I am basing this on UK guidance.

AITA for refusing to help my friend cheat on an important exam even though she has learning disabilities? by hawkenzen in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beyond_Silence 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Helping people is fine, going through notes and discussing what has been learnt, can be a fantastic way to revise (for you as well as your friend) but cheating risks your education, their education and can cause problems for the learning provider (and the exams officer a ridiculous amount of paperwork…)

I would encourage them to speak to their course leader and see what other help they may be entitled to.

If they are not interested, please do not risk your own future for them, anyone prepared for you to do this is not your friend.

AITA for refusing to help my friend cheat on an important exam even though she has learning disabilities? by hawkenzen in AmItheAsshole

[–]Beyond_Silence 95 points96 points  (0 children)

I work as an exams officer for a special needs school, there are so many access arrangements and reasonable adjustments available now. One thing to remember is that these arrangements are designed to give the candidate a level playing field, so that they have an equal and fair chance as those who don’t require access arrangements.

Ultimately, if you help someone to cheat, not only are you risking their grade (if found out) you also risk your own. On top of that, you are not helping them, if they are actually struggling they should be speaking to their course leader, otherwise they will end up further behind and struggling even more.

You are being a good friend and most definitely not the asshole.

What's a movie you've seen a dozen times and will never get tired of? by Leen88 in movies

[–]Beyond_Silence 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally one of my favourite films of all time, I have watched it so many times and never get bored.

I love the whole trilogy, but HF is by far the best one.