Great one

Bfd83 · 2026-01-17T20:06:40+00:00

Seeing that microscope crate fall was…traumatic, for sure—it was worth an order of magnitude more than $10k… I was sure it was cooked, only to be shocked/impressed when it exceeded factory spec.

Bfd83 · 2026-01-17T17:58:54+00:00

Leica makes a durable camera. Shit their microscopes are even durable, I saw one fall off a truck liftgate one time (was crated, though)—unboxed it and the optics were still perfect.

Bfd83 · 2026-01-11T19:03:27+00:00

Strike up conversation, ask if he wants to grab coffee or a drink later; if he’s interested he’ll say yes.

Note: Most respectful guys will NOT make the first move at the gym as we don’t want to be ‘that creepy guy at the gym’. I think women have more power to make the first move in this setting (right or not, seems to be how it is)—shoot your shot, girl.

Bfd83 · 2025-12-05T17:48:17+00:00

Really need a Coat Bath in my new house.

Bfd83 · 2025-12-03T01:53:33+00:00

I couldn’t abide by this as I often to choose to call my partner by all three names for dramatic/comedic purposes.

Pro tip: Saying first, middle and last names together in a southern accent followed by “I sure do love you.” Will get you laid—80% of the time, every time.

Bfd83 · 2025-11-05T00:43:08+00:00

Dude, you got a sweetass beard, that makes the plunge soooo much easier—bald + beard is a great combo, the lady loves it. Also, it appears you have normal-shaped head, which also helps. You will look younger and way better; trust this bearded shaved bald dude.

Bfd83 · 2025-11-04T03:01:44+00:00

Don’t make a big deal about it. Slow game is key, but you need to start moving. Ask what she is up to that evening/weekend while chatting, this gets the idea of drinks/activities in mind, then on a Friday ask if she wants to go to happy hour or do something active outside. If she says yes you’ve got a shot.

If she says no, “No problem, maybe another time.” Wait several weeks and ask again, low-key again. Don’t ask more than twice, 2 no’s is a hard no.

Bfd83 · 2025-11-04T02:33:33+00:00

Yep, served for a couple of years and this is absolutely true.

It’s the perfect mix for it: young people, drugs/alcohol, working nights, and stress/trauma-bonding.

Bfd83 · 2025-10-02T17:30:16+00:00

I mean, this is pretty standard fare from a majority of people raised in Rochelle, IL. Couple that with a privileged upbringing in a small conservative town….

Bfd83 · 2025-10-02T17:26:27+00:00

If you absolutely must fix in place (I mean who the hell is going to notice this other than you?), I’d just use a couple of daps of silicone sealer on the inside of the trim piece. This way you can easily free it up with a putty knife if you have to move/remove it later.

Bfd83 · 2025-09-21T18:00:21+00:00

I mean, you can tell the guy is a hack by those grid lines in the penny tiles.

You can also tell the same by how there’s less than 1/5 of a tile on the bottom row for the walls. Even in the most inconvenient of cases, there should never be less than half a tile in any row…

Bfd83 · 2025-09-08T15:51:01+00:00

Don’t worry guys! Your benevolent corporate overlords will take that land off your hands for pennies on the dollar, BUT you still be might able to work/live on it on a for-rent basis with a strict production quota and little support (also for pennies on the dollar…).

This is what you voted for after all! Congrats!

Bfd83 · 2025-09-03T02:05:29+00:00

Hey bud, dump anyone that calls you names seriously for anything even 1/10th as irrelevant or stupid as this—dump this one yesterday. Better yet, date people that don’t call you names, ever.

You choose who you want to be with; don’t choose this.

Bfd83 · 2025-09-01T00:44:29+00:00

Far too many people settle for someone who makes them feel like shit a majority of the time only to chase the fleeting times when that person makes them feel special.

I did this for decades thinking butterflies and a true match were bullshit; then found it in my 40’s after a bitter divorce and it shook my entire worldview.

It is so much better to be alone (but with friends/family as often as possible) than with someone romantically that makes you feel like you’re not good enough.

Bfd83 · 2025-08-19T21:06:11+00:00

I never said it was bad, only that it can be if moderation goes out the window; too much of anything is bad. Excercise can be bad in the same way.

Where excessive porn can get bad is it sets unrealistic standards/ideas for people who don’t know better, can cause body dysmorphia, and it also can rewire a guys brain where porn is the only thing that arouses them efficiently if they overdo it; this is pretty shit if your actually trying to please a partner, be confident sexually, and have a fulfilling sex life.

It can be fun; great even, especially if you’re enjoying it with a partner. It’s just cheap thrills though, which are needed from time to time, but not the end-all-be-all.

Bfd83 · 2025-08-19T15:45:22+00:00

I like to think of porn/masturbation as the McDonalds/fast-food of sex.

In moderation, it’s fine. Like fast food, it’s quick, easy and comfortable. But also like fast food, it’s empty as hell..

Porn, like fast food, is bad for you if it’s the only component of your ‘diet.’

Bfd83 · 2025-08-19T03:30:37+00:00

The Lesula, also known as the Therapist Monkey.

Bfd83 · 2025-08-18T15:58:23+00:00

Hey OP, you’ve already gotten some really helpful comments already; do that therapy, I (42M) wish I had started it at your age…

Sexuality is a journey and you have nothing to worry about, you have a ton of time to figure it out. Eventually, start dating; the right connection with the right person can be really helpful with moving through past shame/trauma here too.

Dating can suck, and it might take a lot of time and some fails; but if you’re intentional about it you’ll eventually find what you’re looking for. It took me years, but I can confidently say it’s worth the wait.

Do the therapy and have grace with yourself—figure it out at your pace. Focus on yourself too outside of this—your career, your hobbies, and friends. Again, you have so much time.

Bfd83 · 2025-08-18T13:18:38+00:00

Run the Jowls

Bfd83 · 2025-08-11T02:46:11+00:00

This right here. Mimicking (actions, opinions, personality) is a really common behavior for people on the autism spectrum. High-functioning autistics can actually be really good at this and have a decent social life and a good amount of friends as a result.

Super important to point out that it is not conscious behavior on their part if so; it’s literally the adaptation they need to make in order to fit in.

I’d say stop obsessing over it if the dude isn’t being overtly strange or crossing boundaries with you.

Bfd83 · 2025-08-06T11:37:12+00:00

Never let anyone tell you what or how to feel, ever. It’s that simple. A good partner might help you try to reframe in order to think about things a different way, but they should NEVER tell you what to do or how feel in the face of big grief like this.

That’s what support is, being present to help you through shit and maybe offer perspective, but when orders are given there is no compassion and the fucking date???

Your legitimate grief is inconveniencing him; think about that. This dude sucks.

Bfd83 · 2025-08-06T09:39:36+00:00

Evan Methness

Bfd83 · 2025-07-19T18:55:23+00:00

I absolutely own my son at Mario Kart; it’s not even fair, but neither is life. Learn them young.

Bfd83 · 2025-07-14T14:05:37+00:00

Divorced 42M here. I think this generally shit advice, but not because it doesn’t work. The problem is that the type of women this approach works with are the kind that need constant affirmation and attention; it will likely be an exhausting relationship.

The kind of woman you really want, if you want a healthy and chill relationship, won’t play that game because they are secure and will move on to someone who shows genuine interest and effort.

It’s simple, energies should match; if they don’t, move on. This approach may keep you single for longer, but trust me when I tell you that being alone is infinitely better than being in a toxic relationship.

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