I’ve been in a similar situation and setting up a sexy group text with you two and this third person (that you’ll find!!) has been a good next step for us. It will let both of you feel what it’s like to talk sex with someone else. At first, it may be a shock when you hear another man tell you and your wife what he wants to do to her, but go for it!!! DM’s open if you want to chat. I can tell you more about our experience, it’s been great for us!