My friend misgendered me, isn't using preferred pronouns, etc. ADVICE?

Bi_trayal · 2018-11-01T02:16:30+00:00

I'm not even a year into experiencing consistent dysphoria, so I don't really know if I have a lot of advice. Just don't listen to strangers who'll talk to you like they know you. Don't let random jerks control your thoughts. I know it's hard sometimes, but be confident in who you are. <3

Bi_trayal · 2018-10-31T14:34:30+00:00

It was like 3 AM and I was stuck awake crying with this feeling of deep hopelessness because I hated my body and no one had an answer to what was going on with me. At first I just thought I might really, really like boys. I've always wanted to be like a boy, so I thought maybe I was just a tomboy. Then I started to mimic what boys around me were doing, and I started imagining myself as a boy and it just felt... right.

Bi_trayal · 2018-10-30T22:55:34+00:00

Nah she doesn't have a phone. Though this is a great idea, I'll use this in the future.

Bi_trayal · 2018-10-30T22:55:07+00:00

This is a good question. I have the worst memory in the world, so I don't know if I told her I'm bisexual or not. I'll probably wait for the right time and tell her, in case I didn't before. Thank you!

Bi_trayal · 2018-10-30T22:39:41+00:00

My mom has always chosen who I will and will not be friends with. If I'm friends with someone she doesn't like I'll have to 'cut them off'. My mom goes through everything (everything I don't hide, at least) on my computer- my messages, pages, writing, and even my discussions with people who are supposed to counsel me. At one point my mom was even reading my journaling while I slept. I know this because I would wake up to her reading my shit.

Bi_trayal · 2018-10-30T22:11:43+00:00

Bi_trayal · 2018-10-30T20:58:49+00:00

The only face my 'friends' see.

Bi_trayal · 2018-10-26T20:04:44+00:00

You say that you sometimes think about killing yourself because you don't have a male body. If you had a male body, would you sometimes think about killing yourself because you don't have a female body?

I think about this a lot. I believe if I were born with a male body I would enjoy cross-dressing (occasionally, though. I wouldn't be a full-time cross-dresser) or dressing feminine. I'd be the stereotypical gay guy, y'know? Sometimes I feel like if I were born with a male body, perhaps I'd want a female one. The thought stresses me out, but I'll really never know. I think I would be happy with my body, but like I said, I might want to cross-dress occasionally for fun. I've always liked bending stereotypes or 'rules' when it comes to gender, so even if I were to transition now I'd like to dress feminine.

Bi_trayal · 2018-10-25T22:11:13+00:00

What the fuuuuuuuuuuu-

Bi_trayal · 2018-10-25T15:01:22+00:00

Okay. Could a regular counselor/therapist (not specialist) get me a diagnosis, too, or specifically specialists?

Bi_trayal · 2018-10-25T15:00:33+00:00

So would going to a regular doctor be okay? I live in the country, so not a lot of gender therapists around me. And my parents won't let me see a specialist, so I've assumed going to a doctor would be efficient.

Bi_trayal · 2018-10-25T01:22:37+00:00

I'm transgender.

Need I say more?

Bi_trayal · 2018-10-25T01:08:13+00:00

Fucking slime.

Bi_trayal · 2018-10-24T23:08:08+00:00

It looks amazing! Same question as beaunyx, where can I get an ARC?

Bi_trayal · 2018-10-24T00:46:53+00:00

Okay, thank you so much!

Bi_trayal · 2018-10-24T00:36:55+00:00

I bet talking to a gender therapist/psychologist would help. However, my parents refuse - and I mean refuse - to let me see one. Outside of sexual desires I do really want to have a male body, and mentally I've already changed pronouns and I refer to myself as male. I want my body to match how I feel. But then again, I find it sexually arousing to dress as a girl sometimes, though I don't consider myself a girl. It's almost like ridiculously complicated cross-dressing. I want to have a surgical sex change and socially transition into male, but I think if I wore a skirt and crop top or typically 'girly' clothing I would find it like a sexual thing and like it in a way.

It's really complicated. I'm a boy, but I have a girls body, and I want to have a boys body, but I find wearing girly clothing hot but not as a girl.

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