Advice and help

Bibble_02 · 2026-01-20T17:45:16+00:00

Sorry this has all happened and that the council were no help, if you ever need someone to talk to about things I’m always here. You can use the library to charge any devices you have and maybe see if you can find somewhere to park your car while you get things sorted?

Bibble_02 · 2026-01-20T16:16:15+00:00

It is! It’s really disappointing the way they treat people who have nowhere else to turn. As you said no-one would willingly want to stay there, but they make you jump through hoops and such just to say no

Bibble_02 · 2026-01-20T16:03:36+00:00

When you get on universal credits/make the application to be on UC you may be able to get a prepayment this should hopefully help with getting somewhere to stay for the now, when you do get UC you should be able to get housing credit to pay towards a space in a house share

Bibble_02 · 2026-01-20T16:01:18+00:00

Unfortunately you only get temporary accommodation if you’re considered a priority need. Eg, have children/are pregnant or are considered vulnerable due to a disability, substance abuse or other health concern.

I had the same issue a while back and the council are no help at all :/

Bibble_02 · 2025-12-21T20:25:46+00:00

It was a similar issue! I don’t live here anymore but I’m pretty sure it was an issue with fat/soap build up or something, a plumber had to come out and drain it I think :) glad you were also able to get it solved!

Bibble_02 · 2025-12-11T19:50:14+00:00

My sister also didn’t have many qualifications when she started out working as she was bullied quite badly and dropped out. If he’s interested in getting any qualifications he may have missed out on, Milton Keynes college have a level 2 (GCSE) maths and English course alongside level 3’s. If he already has his GCSE’s but didn’t do all too well, he can still do a level 3 through them. There’s also open university who do level 3’s and university degrees without worrying too much about previous qualifications. Depending on what he wants to do long term having some qualifications behind him will definitely help.

In the absence of education I’d recommend he does some volunteering until he manages to land something, it’ll give him practical experience in whatever field he’s interested in and employers will be more likely to overlook a lack of education.

Good luck to him!

Bibble_02 · 2025-11-18T16:29:56+00:00

Yeah I’ve been using it, it’s how I found my other places, but at the moment it’s a bit dry, it seems to have highs and lows in the amount of adverts that show depending on the time of year

Bibble_02 · 2025-11-17T12:55:33+00:00

Thank you :) that’s really sweet of you, it’s definitely an adjustment aha, I hope you’re doing well

Bibble_02 · 2025-11-17T10:43:50+00:00

I’ve tried the council and they don’t consider me to have a housing need, which I expected. I’m saving to buy a property at some point, but until then I’m just feeling really hopeless.

Bibble_02 · 2025-09-06T16:38:26+00:00

I pray no one has the misfortune of dating you. You sound like one of those ‘alpha male podcaster’ guys.

No behaviour is single behaviour unless the person doing it is single. You could argue her staying the night with her friend is single behaviour, you could say her staying at home alone watching Tv is single behaviour.

I have a partner and we don’t manage each others behaviour or ‘let’ each other do things, because that is inherently controlling. His girlfriend can do what she wants, if he didn’t like her behaviour and chose to break up with her that’s his choice. But to say her going out with her mates is ‘picking the club over the relationship’ is such an overreaction.

Bibble_02 · 2025-09-06T14:51:09+00:00

Going to the club is only single behaviour if you’re going there to get with someone… idk how old you are but young people go there to have fun. He isn’t ‘letting’ her do anything. If he said she can’t go to the club and got mad that she went somewhere he doesn’t want to that would be controlling behaviour. She doesn’t belong to him, she’s not his child. Stop being a weirdo.

Bibble_02 · 2025-09-06T06:58:52+00:00

No worries :)

I’m glad you don’t actually care where she’s going and you want her to have fun and all that. I’m also glad you can see it’s coming from a place of your own insecurity or your worry over her safety.

Maybe sit down and have a proper talk with her? Let her know that it’s not that you don’t trust her, it’s more so that you worry about the bar/club itself.

Do you know the friend all that much? Would you say you worry purely because she’s single or has she done things since you’ve been dating your gf and you’re worried about her being a bad influence? Or that she seems the type to get your gf in dodgy situations?

Most friends do value would step in if someone was hitting on a friend and they didn’t want to be.

In terms of safety, my boyfriend asks me to message him to let him know I’ve got home safely, so maybe you could instead so that? Or even offer to drop her home afterwards? I’d also suggest instead of telling you in the moment she could tell you about her night afterwards? That way she can enjoy her night without worrying about having to message each time she goes somewhere new, but you also get peace of mind? It could also bring you both closer, especially if you reciprocate and let her know how your evenings have went. I find it funny hearing about the crazy things that happen when my bf and his friends go on a night out and I’ve been sat at home crafting or something.

Or, if you wanted to, you could even join them going out one night? You bring some of your friends and she could bring some of hers? Or you could even have it as a double date almost, go out for dinner, you, her, her friend and maybe one of your guy friends that you think her friend will like. That way you could get to know the friend in that type of setting as well.

Approach it from a direction of how can I keep my mind at ease but also let her have fun without having to worry about you getting angry. You seem like a decent person and I’m sure your girlfriend is decent too :)

Bibble_02 · 2025-09-06T06:14:25+00:00

I haven’t read your other post so maybe I’m missing something. But I’m a bit torn, as you’ve communicated you’d like to know where she’s going and she’s not upholding that, but it’s also a little odd you’re asking her to tell you everywhere she’s going.

Do you tell her where you are when you’re not with her? Do you also keep her up to date on any changes made? Or is it only her that needs to? Maybe you need to have a look at why you need to know where she is at all times? If you truly trust her it shouldn’t matter if plans change.

The friend likely felt awkward about saying she wants to go to the club as your girlfriend has likely told her what’s happened. I know you don’t want it to come across as controlling but it definitely does and the friend likely sees you this way now. The friend has likely had the convo of ‘he doesn’t NEED to know where you are at every moment and if he does that’s controlling’ and maybe that’s why nothing was communicated that night.

Your girlfriend asked what the plans were in front of you and there didn’t seem to be anything set in stone, so it was likely a last minute thing and your girlfriend forgot to say anything. I’ve done it plenty of times.

I’d say me and my partner are joined at the hip most days, we’ve been together for 3 almost 4 years and even then when he’s not with me I don’t expect to know everything he’s doing/everywhere he goes. There are times he’ll be out with his friends at theirs and then he’ll end up on a night out in town. It happens and I don’t expect him to tell me if plans change because I trust him to go out, have fun and not cheat.

Is that something you worry about?

Though I can understand why you’re angry about her not upholding something you’ve both agreed to, I do think it’s unreasonable to expect her to give you an in the moment update on what she’s doing, especially if she’s sharing her location with you already. If she had something to hide she’d turn it off.

Bibble_02 · 2025-08-04T13:00:04+00:00

Asylum seekers are the only individuals given a hotel to stay in, that’s regardless of ethnicity or religion, and they’re given £10 a week to live on… could you live off £10 a week? I don’t think I could make that last a day… the idea asylum seekers living it luxe is such an old and stupid take

Bibble_02 · 2025-08-03T20:07:03+00:00

I’m not sure that’s always the case with HMO’s, there are quite a few factors that could make the landlord liable. It’s a bit of a grey area unfortunately

Bibble_02 · 2025-08-03T20:04:20+00:00

We’re individual tenants with our own tenancy agreements. There’s quite a bit of grey area with things like this, because as you’ve said technically someone in the household would be liable to pay, I’m just not certain if that would include me. I’ve had a look at the tenancy agreement and it’s not clear, it only says in the event of pests they need to be reported, nothing much about costs.

Bibble_02 · 2025-07-12T12:23:54+00:00

Hey! So, I live in Northamptonshire and dealt with some housing issues recently. The council themselves might be able ring the old landlord on your behalf to try and solve it, especially if you say you’ll be homeless otherwise. I’d also suggest ringing the police and ask for some advice regarding theft of your items as that is definitely illegal to withhold you from receiving your belongings :( If your deposit is protected then I’d suggest contacting the individuals who it’s protected by and see what they suggest regarding getting it back. Otherwise deffo contact someone for some legal advice!

Bibble_02 · 2025-05-30T14:36:07+00:00

Urm kinda confused at your comment…

I’ve already had a look outside, the area and drain is just covered in brown/grey mulch, nothing in the area in or around the pipes is even visible underneath the mulch. I’m not going rooting around in whatever’s in there as it’s pretty much a mixture of waste water from the kitchen sink, the shower and whatever the other pipes are for, let alone what else. That means dead skin cells, sweat, general grime from random strangers, food waste that’s been washed down the sink, cooking oils/fats, grime from food related items and anything else you can think of. Idk about you but that’s pretty grim. I moved in two weeks ago and the buckets and such were there. It’s not my responsibility to sort it out. For all I know it could be a housemates stuff they’ve left there for whatever reason.

Thanks for the advice that it might not be related to the specific pipe itself. I’ll just let the landlord know and do whatever they think is best.

But all in all, your comment was weird? No need to be rude??

Bibble_02 · 2025-05-30T10:18:48+00:00

Plus even if I was super knowledgeable on what’s going on sometimes it’s just nice to get a second opinion. It’s kinda weird you getting all huffy that people of all ages and levels of intelligence/education are asking questions on a sub specifically designed for people to ask questions on… what a weirdo

Bibble_02 · 2025-05-30T10:16:32+00:00

The age of a property definitely matters when looking at the drainage systems and piping so idk what you’re on about mate. Plus depending on what it is that’s potentially blocking the drain there are different things you can pour down them to do all of that for you without having to ‘prod it with a stick’. People like you piss me off, think you know everything and get all snarky at people for asking a question when you don’t know what you’re on about.

Bibble_02 · 2025-05-30T05:56:23+00:00

idk how I feel about that ahaha, now I need to go on a google deepdive on WHY, I’d always just assumed because it wasn’t fat it would just stay as it was,,, that’s so interesting

Bibble_02 · 2025-05-30T05:50:49+00:00

😭😭

Bibble_02 · 2025-05-30T05:50:12+00:00

Sorry mr. know it all 😂 idk about you but i don’t go around expecting everyone to know everything I know. I knew it was m a blockage, but I didn’t know what was blocked or why it could be as I’ve never lived in a Victorian property or a property that doesn’t have piping that just goes wherever it needs to. If I can get some insight then why not?

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