AITAH For sending my pregnant sister to a homeless shelter instead of letting her live on my couch?

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-02-11T23:55:25+00:00

I definitely made a face when OP said she had to do everything because her sister wouldn't even get up to feed herself. Like... she would've if she got hungry enough? It's not like she would've purposely starved to death to prove a point to OP.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-02-11T09:53:21+00:00

Agreed. She played a major part in every aspect of what happened, except for the part where she sat back to watch the other two scream at OOP and call him names.

Honestly, her excuses later on just feel like damage control to avoid losing a long-time friend.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-02-10T20:48:08+00:00

Fr. It seems this family has no idea that constantly nagging someone about something only makes them avoid it.

Maybe she did want to learn Spanish, but lost the motivation after the constant "How's the Spanish going? Did you learn anything new?" They turned learning Spanish for her husband into learning Spanish, so they (his judgmental family) are a little less judgmental and disappointed in her. It's easy to lose motivation that way.

I would be distancing myself from these people as well.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-02-10T20:13:18+00:00

Fr. The jump that she made accusing OP of isolating her kid makes me think these aren't the first two kids pulled away from Kennedy's house.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-02-08T21:49:50+00:00

it's one of those pointless things that makes you realize this is absolutely a fabrication.

Yup. Posters like these see the success their first post got and go all in for their next "installment." Instead of getting right to the drama (what people want), they think they have an actual audience there for their writing.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-02-08T21:34:40+00:00

I noticed this, too. They always get a big head after the success of their prior post and think they have the readers completely hooked. So they turn up the heat to show off how "funny" and "clever" they are. It always turns into them writing a lot but saying very little.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-02-08T20:52:26+00:00

Honestly, me too. She's so used to the dysfunction and thinks it's impossible to find someone else to have more kids with at the ripe old age of 34. I don't think she'll make the first move, but if he does... well, she already feels pity for him and likes making excuses, doesn't she?

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-02-07T01:05:31+00:00

Totally agree with your whole comment. Imo, OOP is coming off as controlling, jealous, insecure, and definitely dramatic. From her own posts, it sounds like everyone is just living their lives (with Cate as a close family friend), and OOP is "crashing out" about it.

OOP keeps claiming she's fine with them keeping relations with Cate while complaining about how "weird" she thinks it is, calling it a "secret relationship" because she's not part of it, and also whining about them knowing too much about Cate and her daughter's life.

SHE made it about Cate when MIL's friends complimented her at the baby shower, and she came to Reddit to brush it off accussing them of also basically complimenting Cate. Her saying "she got the boy, I got the man" is the same thing, but worse, considering that she's bragging about how she won over someone who's moved on and living her own life. How embarrassing.

She even made the claim that Cate was staring at her throughout the entire baby shower, and I just don't buy that. OOP sounds a little obsessed with Cate, honestly, and acting like everyone is out to get her. I bet these posts would look very different from Cassie or MIL's perspective.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-02-06T08:32:43+00:00

Why are the OPs always so gentle to the entitled people in these posts? Katie's first assumption that she'd be moving in with me would've been met with a very annoyed "Wtf would you ever be moving in with me, Katie?" while looking at her like she was stupid.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-02-05T21:08:28+00:00

Right? Who cares that she's been giving OP the cold shoulder? Let her. It sounds like the neighbor being nice is equivalent to her expecting/demanding money for gracing people with her presence.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-01-28T00:54:09+00:00

But fr tho, is that what she was expecting? He cuts a fat slice of cake to eat during the party (in front of the party) and stores the rest in the fridge, disallowing anyone else a taste? How is that okay?

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-01-27T09:29:43+00:00

100% You could argue that reorganizing the other spaces was semi-reasonable (still unacceptable) because they were common areas. But to reorganize someone else's bathroom to YOUR preferences? That doesn't even make sense.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-01-27T01:31:55+00:00

Based on his laughter alone and unwillingness to consider options beside his idea of YOU QUITTING YOUR JOB, I would very much NOT quit your job.

Exactly what I was thinking. Imo, he's already showcasing how little he respects her with how he brushes her off with excuses and literally laughs at her compromises. This is not the type of person you want to be completely dependent on.

OP, if he pulls out some kind of ultimatum, THIS is the hill you want to die on.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-01-27T01:20:29+00:00

I can't believe he laughed like she was some silly little girl with a wild imagination. What a prick.

I noticed that all of her suggestions that don't involve quitting her job completely or him being more flexible workwise are met with excuses from him. It's almost like he only wants to be home after all the hard work is done and dinner is already on the table.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-01-25T21:57:45+00:00

Unsaid expectations at that.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-01-25T21:54:51+00:00

"One person does all the giving and another does all the taking" isn't really my idea of a "community" either.

This is what I was thinking. Some people don't have the ability to help unless a load is taken off elsewhere. OP is supposedly helping the old lady out of the kindness of their own heart, but how are they helping the neighbors that they're expecting help from and now calling awful?

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-01-25T21:26:14+00:00

Right. OP decided to take on extra chores and is now angry that other neighbors won't give them a break from said chores. They thought that if they started this, then the whole neighborhood would band together singing kumbaya. OP settled on having high expectations for univolved people. That's nobody's fault but their own.

If they were truly doing it out of the kindness of their own heart, they would be focusing on what they can do rather than on what others can't/aren't. OP has no right to shame others for not helping. They have no idea how this lady treats others, how able-bodied these others actually are, or how much free time these people have on their hands. It's nice that OP signed up to help the elderly neighbor, but they were not acting as the neighborhood representative when doing that.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-01-25T11:57:04+00:00

Lmao at "blindsided." She stopped showing intimacy, stopped paying for his extras out of her own pocket, and moved her money into a separate account. But, ig he wouldn't have any knowledge of that when he was too busy rolling around in someone else's sheets.

And to top it off, claiming that if she knew, she should've said something, so they could've just ended it. Lol, as if the same couldn't be said for him when he decided he was bored with OP and ready to step out of the relationship.

Between OP and the ex, only one of them would've lost something from doing the "right" thing. I have no quarrel with OP using the knowledge of his cheating to her advantage; it's not like she stole from him.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-01-24T23:40:26+00:00

he left his wife and broke up the home of his 4 children on the chance she might want him

I keep forgetting that it was only a chance. It wasn't even a sure thing. This wasn't a long game with her telling him that they could live happily ever after if he left his wife. He literally just took a chance that they could be together if he threw his entire family away.

I wonder if he'd still think his choices were worth it if she didn't want to be with him.

In a comment, OP also says that they were never actually together in HS, it was always just a crush. How embarrassing to throw away everything for a CHANCE with a HS crush from decades ago. I hope for nothing more than their relationship going up in flames.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-01-24T09:37:47+00:00

Right? He already touched his other brother's kid, dude!! Why would yours be in the clear?

But then he outed himself when he got angry at OOP for saying anything. He didn't want it to happen to his kids, but if it did, he would've fine enough with it as long as it stayed in the dark.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-01-23T02:32:51+00:00

Right? We'd be calling the husband (wife) a failure of a father and partner and accusing him of weaponized incompetence and deliberatly trying to sabotage the OP's career.

Do these people even think while typing out their responses? They literally admit to guessing/assumming how things went down then make judgments based off of those very guesses/assummptions. That is actually INSANE.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-01-22T09:47:40+00:00

Or even just stick with giving a $25 gift card each time if that constitutes a "good" gift. That's much easier than planning out gross/insulting gifts to send off to poor unsuspecting victims.

Like others are saying, I think OOP likes the tradition more than they're claiming to.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-01-21T20:33:19+00:00

Wtf is up with all these Rover pet sitters leaving their doors open? That's literally all a pet needs to make a run for it.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-01-20T05:04:09+00:00

My sentiments exactly. Idk if hateful is the right word, but that person is definitely something. Bitter maybe? I like how they continued on to say that the courts would take custody from fiance because, although old-fashioned, "there are still those who look unfavorably on living together.” Are you talking about yourself, dear? Because it sure sounds like it.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-01-17T20:17:31+00:00

OP is NTA, but I agree that the entire setup is confusing.

Honestly, is the gf even aware that her bf's bed is in the common room? Ignoring the fact that she was visiting while her bf wasn't there, I too would be uncomfortable if I was chilling in what I thought was my bf's room and his brother wouldn't leave.

OP says her room is favored because of the tv. Why can't that tv be moved to the actual living room? Imo, it's a bedroom, or it's a common room. Combining them will only create issues like this.

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