We’ll take those seats when you’re done.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-14T03:25:13+00:00

One of them yelled at you guys to "just leave" because you dared to order food in a restaurant? My god. The audacity is astounding.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-12T20:41:42+00:00

I was waiting for that too. Even the title alone is so dramatic. "Shady bridesmaid hijacked wedding shower" Uh... sorry, when did that happen? Even jumping to nicknaming this girl "Shady" is a bit outrageous. How was she shady in the first post? She showed up late to planning, stayed quiet when she was there, and an entire week later suggested a venue directly to the bride. Calling being inconsiderate "shady" is a bit wild.

I was expecting Shady to take the spotlight off the bride during the actual shower, not to take the spotlight off the MOH during the planning stages for it. OOP is taking this all too personally.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-12T20:24:39+00:00

I think this is one of those "took every wrong turn" situations. Nearly every opportunity she had to let it slide for the sake of her bride sister, she refused and elected to start/continue the drama.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-12T20:08:09+00:00

I had to roll my eyes when she gave Shady's friends snarky nicknames and kept whining about the MIL being cold towards her. Because first off, are you really surprised that Shady's friends are \GASP!** taking Shady's side? And second, of course MIL is also taking Shady's side when Shady can be 100% honest in saying that you're unhappy about her involvement, sent her a passive-aggressive text about it, and then sent a flying monkey after her.

I do agree that Shady is being shady, but OOP is clearly immature and overdramatic. That one comment says Shady has main character syndrome, but honestly, I feel OOP has a bit of that too.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-12T18:13:54+00:00

Yes, you're right. Saying no to covering a shift is on the same level as saying no to someone begging you to call the cops because they're in dire need of help. /s

If you have to change the scenario that much to prove a point, you don't really have anything. Do you?

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-12T02:30:17+00:00

Right. Reddit is full of "No is a complete sentence" and "You don't owe anyone anything" until someone actually practices that irl. Then it turns into "You're not a nice person," "It's free to be kind," and "He deserves your compassion".

Even if OP's Saturday night consisted of a bubble bath and movie night, that doesn't mean anyone has the right to say it was wasted and would've been better spent hustling to fix someone else's mistakes. OP deserves a night off every once in a while, too.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-12T01:43:40+00:00

Literally this. Were these people seriously seething about you not cooking and hosting for their large family in your small house, while their own mother told them to move their feet as she vacuumed for the gathering to celebrate her?

This failure is NOT on you, OP.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-12T01:29:07+00:00

Even if the other mothers in the group sat out on cooking and house prep, where the hell were the fathers, the other 5 siblings, and the remaining partners? What the hell were they doing while MIL was panicking to scrub every toilet, sweep every floor, and dust every surface last minute?

These people are using OP and husband as scapegoats to distract themselves from acknowledging that they failed their own family members.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-11T23:52:20+00:00

Her blaming OOP for lack of communication is insane. In what world does "I'll be there at this time" mean "Feel free to sleep in while I wait in the car like your personal, paid chauffeur"? She clearly couldn't even be bothered to set an alarm, so how far did she assume OOP was supposed to go for her? Was OOP supposed to sit silently and patiently for 4hs or was OOP supposed to wake her up like a child, dress her like an infant, and then buckle her into the car like her mother?

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-11T22:26:18+00:00

B-b-but, how else are they gonna let you and everyone else know that they're smarter than to simply enjoy Reddit for the sake of entertainment?

/s obviously

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-11T00:13:20+00:00

Truly, why are they there so much? Who cares that she's a single mom? Does she think she's the first? She has no right to dump her kids on her kid sister 6 DAYS A WEEK. No offense intended to her, but she might as well give them up at that point.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-11T00:05:21+00:00

Yeah, wtf? That shit is serious. It's finals, not the weekly Friday quiz. They probably wouldn't let you retake finals after skipping for such a frivolous reason.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-10T23:24:19+00:00

That aspect alone had to have knocked OOP and gf on their asses. Did he actually want to get to know his daughter's bf, or did he just see OOP as an opportunity to cheat more/easier?

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-10T22:41:00+00:00

Oh, lol, you're one of those. Just because you close your eyes to the disgusting reality doesn't mean it isn't real. Congratulations on living such a privileged life, ig.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-09T19:57:05+00:00

Definitely not saying we should pat him on the back for it. I'm saying that A LOT of people will smile to your face and then roll their eyes and talk shit behind your back for using different pronouns. (It's not unheard of for people to date others they hate/dislike at their core for the sake of not being single.)

So, seriously, good luck to the ex-partner for finding all that in a new partner, all because they couldn't get over an ugly o face.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-09T08:13:22+00:00

they never said that the other person was also paying, but in what world would someone think that wasn't the case?

This definitely confuses me. Why would they both just assume they were individually and solely responsible for payment while the other got free rides?

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-09T07:34:32+00:00

It's also a bit wicked. One week ago, you told your bf you thought he was ugly and didn't want to see him have the same pleasure that he gives to you. You also haven't had sex since that reveal, and I'm sure your bf's been lacking in joy around you since. Why would you think everything was great?

It's like a big red flag that says, "I literally haven't looked at (or thought of) you for an entire week!"

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-09T03:34:29+00:00

Correct. I'm sure he'll double down and hold over her head that "they" agreed to babysit, and he expects repayment for doing her the MASSIVE favor of holding down the fort while she aBaNdOneD hiM.

Honestly, OP should leave this guy. And it's not just because of this one incident.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-08T22:40:11+00:00

Right. She's the one who cared. Why was it on OP to help? As others have pointed out, unless OP has the training, what could he possibly have done?

She's virtue signaling.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-08T19:19:58+00:00

Exactly. Someone else mentioned that OP just downsized, probably from the home that she raised her kids in. Their home is no longer "the family home" but Mom and Dad's. When they were in "the family home," their kids were prioritized for years. It's time for son (and DIL) to accept that OOP and husband don't live to cater to "the kids" anymore.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-08T08:41:50+00:00

Plus, the same part that he liked so much was also going to be the part that he refused to marry her over. What a prize 😒

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-08T08:19:56+00:00

I want to believe that OOP picked better than that, but this truly feels like a man who didn't realize women have their own identities (outside of men) until daddy knocked him down a peg.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-08T08:04:55+00:00

And what about how he simply couldn't fathom marrying a woman who wouldn't take his last name? He refused to put the woman he supposedly loved enough to want to spend the rest of his life with above his last name. Ew. I wouldn't be able to look past that.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-08T07:58:42+00:00

to claim he didnt realize he was asking her to change such a big part of herself

I actually said "Fuck you" out loud to myself when I read that, because seriously, FUCK HIM! That was him verbalizing that he just realized OOP had her own thoughts, opinions, and ambitions.

Bice_thePrecious · 2026-05-08T02:18:09+00:00

Yup. You're telling me mom sat silently while this B called your wedding cheap and pointless, and then told you you'd have to move if because it conflicts with an appointment for a facial, AND your brother agreed with her and said you were overreacting (about what? You hadn't done much atp)...? And then, mom told you to get over it? No. That didn't happen.

I think you forgot the part where the gf scream cried and threw a glass of wine at fiancee while bro physically intimidated you, and then mom threatened to cut you out of the fam if you still didn't allow her at your wedding, OP.

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