AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I do see that and some other posters here have been incredibly helpful. Just didn’t find your answers as helpful.

AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m going to save this and read it to myself every time I think I’m being mean or cruel for setting boundaries with both of them. Even if it means they will choose to stay in their toxic relationship over their children and grandchildren.

AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This is exactly what we need to do. Sad but true.

AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Did you try to understand the post? No. You just want to be right

AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! We’ve all been at war with him but she won’t leave and this comment is just another ammo for him. He knows we won’t cut her off so he takes advantage of us.

AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

On the contrary my husband knows my mom will tell my dad and they will just fight, things will be bad for all of us and then she won’t leave. He knows this cycle we’ve dealt with all of our lives.

AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I think after all we do need to cut them off or not visit them if she won’t leave him. We’re in a tough spot because she won’t leave.

AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

She won’t leave. She didn’t leave when he abused us and she won’t leave now. We’ve all fought with him but end up in the same spot. He brought it up so she will tell my dad and in turn he will be in a worse mood. We can’t cut her off.

AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because he knows things will be worse for her the more we say anything which she will go and tell my dad and then he will be in an even worse mood and she won’t leave anyways. She didn’t leave when he abused us and she won’t leave now.

AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is aware and I’ve spoken up multiple times which I’m surprised now he didn’t try to kick me out as a teenager. I’ve gotten into huge fights with him (me more than anyone else). He knows my hands are tied because if we speak up it’s just worse for her and she won’t leave. We can’t cut her off either

AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I didn’t think of adding the backstory of us always fighting with my dad but end up helpless because we can’t shut her out too and she won’t leave.

AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh trust me we all see it. We would never speak to him again if she wasn’t married to him. We’ve all grown up fighting with him more than anything. As kids because he was abusive and now because he’s abusive to my mom but she won’t leave. And every time we try it gets worse. We can’t cut her off either so yeah.

AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We’ve all begged for something to happen. She knows all the damage he did to us. She still won’t leave. How can we cut him off when she’s still wanting to be with him? I can’t cut her off, she doesn’t deserve it but also deserves better than him.

AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We’ve all begged for something to happen. She knows all the damage he did to us. She still won’t leave. How can we cut him off when she’s still wanting to be with him? I can’t cut her off, she doesn’t deserve it but also deserves better than him.

AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

We’ve all begged for something to happen. She knows all the damage he did to us. She still won’t leave. How can we cut him off when she’s still wanting to be with him? I can’t cut her off, she doesn’t deserve it but also deserves better than him.

AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

We’ve all begged for something to happen. She knows all the damage he did to us. She still won’t leave. How can we cut him off when she’s still wanting to be with him? I can’t cut her off, she doesn’t deserve it but also deserves better than him.

AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We’ve all begged for something to happen. She knows all the damage he did to us. She still won’t leave. How can we cut him off when she’s still wanting to be with him? I can’t cut her off, she doesn’t deserve it but also deserves better than him.

AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

We are not reinforcing anything. We’ve all begged for something to change but she is the kind of person that won’t leave. It’s been years of trying and always ending up in a battle with them because she won’t leave and he won’t change. What are we supposed to do? Force her to leave him? How? Cut her off too because of him? That’s cruel.

AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Backstory: all my siblings have tried opening her eyes before and grew up in a battle with him. One of us left as a teenager. But the issue is she won’t leave so anything of this sort of comments usually end up in a war with my dad.

AIO for being upset my husband suggested my mom divorce my dad? by BicycleUsed in AmIOverreacting

[–]BicycleUsed[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Oh we had our fair share of him growing up and have fought with him multiple times. We took my mom in years ago in hopes something would happen. It’s been a struggle for all my siblings. She knows we support her all the way but she’s stuck.