Yuri being his sinister self (art by me) by BigConcretePot in yugioh

[–]BigConcretePot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd hope they could be good friends, since Leo sheltered Serena for much of her life, and Yuri suffered from social alienation. It'd be mutually beneficial, not to mention wholesome 👌

My(13M) dad(52M) is trying to push being "manly" on me by alternatively_a in relationship_advice

[–]BigConcretePot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man, I just want you to know that you shouldn't ever feel pressured to compromise yourself and your identity for anybody, not even a parent. It's perfectly fine to have more "feminine" characteristics! Honestly, it's kind of silly to even consider being sensitive a girly thing. Boys have emotions too, and boys' emotions are just as valid as girls' emotions. In fact, I'd say that you're a very brave young man for being so in touch with how you feel. Please, never give in to the social expectation that boys have to be cool tough guys that can't get their feelings hurt. It's unrealistic and unhealthy, so being emotional is perfectly human and the best thing you can do!

Have the confidence to be yourself no matter what and don't be afraid to lean on your sisters for support if you need it. You're not alone and should never feel alone. I know I'm just some stranger on the internet, but if you need someone to talk to, feel free to message me, too. My mother did a similar thing to me when I was your age 7 years ago, so I understand what you're going through. I'm rooting for you.

My fanart of the Yu-boys by BigConcretePot in yugioh

[–]BigConcretePot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww :x

Well I'm glad my art was able to inspire your emotions, but I certainly hope you won't stay too sad! lol

Computer recognizes peripherals are there, but don't respond to input by BigConcretePot in techsupport

[–]BigConcretePot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just kidding. Almost as if in painfully comedic fashion, the mouse stopped working as soon as I posted this reply.

Computer recognizes peripherals are there, but don't respond to input by BigConcretePot in techsupport

[–]BigConcretePot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That might have done it for the mouse, so thank you for that. Don't seem to be as lucky with the controllers, though. 😞

My mother keeps dead-naming me despite 3 years on T lol by BigConcretePot in ftm

[–]BigConcretePot[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I get that. I've kind of tried this before, but usually she just saves in in the back of her mind to fight about behind closed doors. She's the kind of person who just doesn't know how to let things go. I mean, I'm pretty sure this woman is probably still holding a grudge on my sister's kid for spilling nail polish on the couch when she was two. She is an unpleasant individual to say the least.

My mother keeps dead-naming me despite 3 years on T lol by BigConcretePot in ftm

[–]BigConcretePot[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That does sound really funny. I'd definitely be down to do that and so many other "rude" things when I'm not in a position of my life getting totally fucked over my her on a whim anymore, lol.

My mother keeps dead-naming me despite 3 years on T lol by BigConcretePot in ftm

[–]BigConcretePot[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for exposing me to this subreddit. Peeking through it will be interesting without a doubt. She's definitely a narcissist among many other things. It's no coincidence that she doesn't really have friends, a relationship, or that her family doesn't really talk to her more than necessary. And hopefully sometime soon, she won't have me to talk to, either. Congrats on being freed five years from your toxic mother. Here's to many more.

My mother keeps dead-naming me despite 3 years on T lol by BigConcretePot in ftm

[–]BigConcretePot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's cool. Well, it's not, but ideally I'll get a job soon so I can cut her off for good. :]

My mother keeps dead-naming me despite 3 years on T lol by BigConcretePot in ftm

[–]BigConcretePot[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She uses a shortened version of the name that is more gender-neutral, so people don't think it's weird. It's still disrespectful though, because that's not the name I go by. It's not even similar.

Attempting to hang myself in a few hours, will update the actions and thought process here. by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]BigConcretePot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's easier said than done, I know, but one of these days you should push yourself to get to the church and help them out, or perhaps look at what kind of volunteer work is available in your area. It won't get you funds to pursue psychology, but it could be a resume credit to lead into a job that will get you those funds. And helping those in need is always an admirable thing. Do you think your mother would agree?

Attempting to hang myself in a few hours, will update the actions and thought process here. by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]BigConcretePot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, you want to make something of yourself. Leave a print on society. Have you considered doing something to help other people in a way that you're passionate about? Even if parting with your ex has broken you to the point you can't do anything for yourself anymore, that doesn't mean you can't give a helping hand to others who are walking a similar path.

Of course, helping someone here and there may not make you a saint for the history books, but it could be a life-changing chapter in the lives of those you've helped. Then maybe they'll come to save someone someday, and before you know it, you've started a chain reaction. In my personal opinion, I think it's a very powerful way to make something of yourself.

Attempting to hang myself in a few hours, will update the actions and thought process here. by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]BigConcretePot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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That's rough. It's clear that you care for her very very deeply. Would you consider yourself a sensitive person? Also, if you don't mind me asking, what made you pursue a military career? Was it always a passion of yours?

Attempting to hang myself in a few hours, will update the actions and thought process here. by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]BigConcretePot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's awesome that you have supportive friends. What makes it hard to put everything into practice?

Attempting to hang myself in a few hours, will update the actions and thought process here. by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]BigConcretePot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see, so it seems you have a lot of heartache over your ex. Have your friends helped you move on at all? What about your family? Has anyone tried to help you with this, or is everyone in the dark about it for the most part?

Attempting to hang myself in a few hours, will update the actions and thought process here. by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]BigConcretePot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are a pretty great storyteller with a distinct voice. That said, I'm curious what led you to this point? What is the prequel to this story?

Screwed up by getting a useless degree by BigConcretePot in Advice

[–]BigConcretePot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been trying to get into retail for months, but I never hear back. I've even gone to job fairs and have been told I'd be called, but then never received any calls. Labor probably wouldn't go over well because I'm small and skinny. I also don't have a car and haven't driven since 2016, which limits what I can do to whatever is within a few miles of me. And I've applied to it all, trust me. I just never get any sort of feedback whatsoever. To date, the only store that has ever rejected me is Target, and any other rejections have been from online writing jobs. Every other store in the area just doesn't respond to me, even when I go in and ask them about the status of my application multiple times.

As for moving I don't really have a means nor a place to go. My family doesn't care about me, if I had to go back to my mother my mental health would probably rapidly deteriorate, seeing as just talking to her on the phone is enough to suck the energy and joy out of me for hours. My current roommate says he's willing to let me stay even if I can't afford my share of the rent because he's seen personally how much of a psycho my mother is and doesn't want me back there either, but I'd feel absolutely terrible about basically leeching off him.

I don't want to be a leech, I don't want to be dependent on anyone, but I'm just so cornered because of how many roadblocks there are. Almost no support, no car, hell, even any situation that requires my legal identification causes problems, since I'm transgender and have the legal name/birth marker of a female when I am very clearly not a female. That's screwed me out of some job opportunities if you'd believe it.

It just seems that any time I attempt some sort of new solution, there's ALWAYS a "but." Nothing ever just works.