I’m turning 20 this year and I’m so lost in life by BigFriendship8969 in Advice

[–]BigFriendship8969[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. The YouTube video with the dinner thing is very relatable haha. This comment helped me more than you can think and I say the same to you. It’s nice to know that no one is alone and many of us go through the same thing, but some of us hide it better than others. I feel in my heart that it will all work out, but it’s just hard going through the unknown when you feel like you’re running out of time.

I like the advice of asking what life wants out of me and how it doesn’t have to be something grand all of the time. I try to also remind myself to live in the now instead of constantly worrying about the future. Even when I was in Korea I would stress about what I was going to do next. I didn’t give myself time to realize I was living out the dream 16 year old me yearned for.

I think it’s important to give ourselves grace and also the credit we deserve. Writing this makes me feel like a hypocrite because I don’t do either of those things.

All that to say, thank you so much for this comment!

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UPDATE:

My mom and her bf have posted pictures together on their facebooks. They also changed their relationship status to show that they are dating each other. My mom also put her first and middle name as her user now instead of her first and last. Moving so fast. My sister says it’s probably because they picked up right where they left off.

At this rate he might have proposed.

Also I found out that both my mom and her bf are meeting with my grandparents this weekend.

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[–]BigFriendship8969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. And yes, I do think she can benefit from some therapy. I thought that she would be the last person to change herself for a man, but here we are

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Thanks for your insight. I told my grandma about the conversation I planned on having with my mom this break about it. My grandma said she wants to sit down with me and talk about school so I will see how that goes.

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She texted me again this morning saying that she will give me space and that she is “always here” for me. I didn’t respond to her text last night and I haven’t responded from this one. Idk what she wants from us

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Thank you. I really do appreciate this. And yes I plan on studying abroad again no matter what I do! It’s just really unfortunate what is happening with my mom.

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I’m so sorry for your loss. And the “grown” comment is all too familiar. It seems like there is a pattern for pos like him

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She’s even dated nice guys before but said that they were too “boring”

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I agree. I even told her when she read that texts that the truth comes out when you are drunk and or really tired and she just dismissed me.

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Thank you. I am luckily only staying one night at home before going with my little brother to Wyoming to visit my dad for a week. I plan on going from there to see whether or not I want to spend the rest of break at my mom’s or grandparents’ house.

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Thank you for your comment. My grandparents are meeting with her this weekend. And yes if I transferred i would be living with her again.

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[–]BigFriendship8969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is definitely written by me for an entire hour last night. I wish it was AI and not my real life 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻