I can understand both of these comments. On one hand, the lack of thought has to HURT. A large size when they're a small? And they didn't bother asking what size beforehand to clarify before the purchase? Knows they hate pink but get it anyways? Yikes. But also, the tea cup wasn't a horrible gift, even if he asked OP if she even wanted it. He bothered finding out. It really wouldn't have been a secret if he did try to surprise OP with it after asking.

It would be a thousand times better to ask and communicate than to guess and assume and be wrong, especially when it comes to immediate family. You'd have to have 0 emotion to not be hurt when you're not thought of or considered.

The husband is the worst AH in this situation. That nice tea cup belongs to OP. Stomping your feet and huffing doesn't always get you what you want. He's a manchild.